@envy

Yes we've talked lots and even been to a counselor but he stopped going. He's applied to lots of jobs but they laid off so many and the plants aren't hiring until after the first of the year. He has a job with one company we've just been waiting on them to make their offer but it can't come soon enough. He so much work- way more than 2 babies. The kids and I walk around on egg shells all day

@MamaNeddie

I know, it's sickening!!! So predictable.

Aww! So sorry. But glad you two were able to talk through it :) I hope you're feeling better. And congrats on the new baby!

Haha I laugh because that totally made no sense but I completely understood it. I love to take care of our son but I didn't have him alone so I do not intend to raise him alone so my dh will listen to me even if he doesn't like it because I know best. Mother always knows best ;)

@danielle

My oh my 3 fur babies! Haha My 1 drives me nuts. She thinks I'm talking to her when I'm talking to my son. So if I'm upset she thinks I'm mad at her. Very annoying and confusing. Have you tried talking to him? Does he have any goals or plan to work?

@envy yeaaa I understsnd . It's funny how lot of men are about the same. But about 2 hours ago I had a breakdown with my husband . I told him I'm stressed, I need him to help me more . I cried to him and he just held me and told me he promises me he is gonna help me more .. especially me being pregnant again . I could really use all the help I could get . And I did it to myself too though . Because anything my son does I'm there , mommy's always there to comfort him . And I did it to myself . I love him so much tho . So I don't mind but at the same time I need me time .

I feel the same way. I'm almost at a breaking point. I have 2 LOs 16 months and 6 months plus 3 fur babies and I'm so busy and it seems like nothing ever gets done. I always have a baby attached bc my youngest naps 30 mins. My husband doesn't help do much at all. He got laid off 2 months ago and we are both in the house all day and he just lays there and watches me or sleeps til noon sometimes and then naps all day. I feel like I can't take anymore. I'm jumping thru hoops dealing with his mood swings bc of his ADHD meds. Today I was trying to take a bath and he made me get out bc both kids woke up. I want to leave so bad but he won't let me take the kids or says A judge won't give them to me bc I can't afford them. I hate the thought of having to spend one night away from my kids or someone else putting them to bed. The ONLY thing keeping me going is the smile on my babies faces. Sorry for the rant

Our dhs sound a little similar haha Our son has high energy so I'm very busy. You've gotta teach your dh what it's like. You could talk to him, show him, just for some examples. Help him understand your problems. You're best friends and he's your husband, he will want to understand because he cares. That's how my dh is. Sometimes he's selfish and I wish i get jealous because I can never consider being selfish again. My son is imprinted on me. I can never forget about him for even 5 mins if I go do something to relax. He's always on my mind and I'm very protective of him so I can understand why I am where I am. Haha I did it to myself and I'm okay with it, I just wanna tweak it so I can be happy too :)

I tell my dh everything that is important or a big deal. If I don't keep good communication then our relationship isn't good.

And don't get me wrong . I love my husband dearly . We've been married 2 weeks today ! But I wish he would help more . You know , I understand he works . And he's tired too . But if you were so tired then don't go to the gym and stuff . Sleep . But then he plays games on his phone .. and it is insane . He's a great man and a great dad . But he doesn't see what I go thru . He was a single dad when his daughter was born . She's 8 now . And he says why do I complain . You know . He said it isn't hard . But our son Caleb is complicated . So it makes it hard on me .. and he says staying at home is great he wishes he could do all I do . It would be a vacation for him

@envy girl it's the same for me . I'm jealous of my husband too . Cause he works from 8 am to 5 pm , so he gets to talk to people all day and then after work he goes to the gym from 5:30 to 7:30 sometimes 8:30 , so that's his alone time and then his buddy's are there . So it's good for him . While I'm at home wanting a damn nap atleast for 2 hours . And a shower . And my son as well is going thru some type of sleep regression . He sleeps from 10 pm to 12 am . Then from there I feed and change him then goes straight to sleep wakes up at 1 or 2 . Then the same then wakes again at 3 . Then 4 then 5:30 . I can't take it . And he doesn't even wake up to help . He's snoring away sleeping . You know .. and when he comes home from work he grabs the baby plays with him for about 20 min and then eats dinner . Then I have him for the rest of the night next to us but I still do everything .

I'm jealous of my dh. And I'm trying so hard not to be. But my friends aren't so much my friends anymore since when I got pregnant. And dh gets to go to work and talk to other adults and etc while I'm stuck at home pulling my hair out because my kid has decided to start a sleep regression. And my biggest pet peeve is my dh comes home and uses the bathroom for a while. Undisturbed. While I've been home all day wishing I could get some undisturbed time, even to use the bathroom. I'm just really on edge. I think I'm getting to a breaking point. ?

I'm feeling the same way , I'm always at home taking care of Caleb , doing laundry , cooking , taking care of my dog as well . I can't even take a shower in peace . I told my husband I'm going crazy I love him and our son but I need my rest , time alone . You know . But alot of people seem to not understand .

Aww! Haha I'm glad we're not alone :)

I told my dh yesterday that I don't think I'll ever get good rest again because there's always something going on. But today I've been thinking that I really need to do something about making myself feel good but 1. I have 0 energy & time with the LO yanking my tale this way and that way. And 2. I have no idea where to start haha but I'm thinking that's a good start ;)

I really want to start a home business but not sure what. I want to have an income so badly. I miss being able to do what I want to with money that I earned. I love the feeling!

I'm with you on this one. Auto pilot for the past 7 months is doing some damage. I'm so exhausted and just wish I could have a few hours to myself to just relax or do something for me. I haven't had any me time what so ever, to the point in feeling sick. You're not alone. And it's sad cuz I put even my cats before myself haha.