mom issues
Let me start off by saying its been about a year since me nd my husband helped my mom out by having her stay with us. She was in a rough spot by not having anywhere to go, no car, no job etc. Now she has a job across from where we live, and a used car. And now we charge her a couple hundred dallors to live with us due to her working and using our shower, electric, laundry and so forth. We only charge her a little to help her out and to watch my toddler when we need her. Which is rare. All i ask is she cleans up after herself and helps when we need her to. So these last few months have been so irritating my 2nd son is due next month, and i feel like i have to treat her like a kid because she cant do the easiest tasks. For example, cleaning up her dishes even though i make the dinners and bring it to her and she cant bring her plate to the sink and wash it. Not only do we have limited space in our apartment. Im starting to loose my patience. I really thought she would change and be there to support me and help. Since she didnt when i was growing up, but nope nothing the same. Am i wrong for wanting her to leave a couple weeks after the baby? I feel like shes only going to cause more stress at this point. Sorry this is so long.
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Well the baby is due sept 18 we wanted to give her 60 days to leave. To find a place to go. But who knows how that will go.
Tell her exactly what is expected. It's not wrong to set rules in your own house, and even rules that adults have to follow. If necessary and if she's as childish as you say, post it around the house after you've verbally explained them to her. I, also, think it's great that you have helped her. So many people think "my parents can handle themselves" and don't consider that they may actually need help time to time. Good on you for stepping up.
I think it's completely normal to want your personal space after having your baby.
I definitely think a good heart to heart with her would help. I don't think it's wrong of you to want to set some boundaries/ground rules of what is expected. I think given the situation you have every right to feel the way you do.
Wishing you all the best ?
Ps. I think it's wonderful that you have helped your Mum ( I'm an Aussie ) get back on her feet for the past year. ?
is it wrong to be frustrated that my daughter acts like she can't do certain things with out my help. she plays dumb a lot and I wish I could be like no girl show what you know. she acts like she can't trace or match shapes so shes ask for "mommy finger" to help her so I barely hold her hand and she magically can do it but if I dont hold her hand she just scribbles and acts like she doesnt know
the pic is how she traces when I'm "helping her" otherwise it'll just be scribbles all over the page
Rant!
My sitter used cottonelle wet wipes on my baby! Now she has huge rash!!! I totally get that my SO forgot to put the wipes in her diaper bag. But she could have told one of us and we could have brought her some or she could have went to the store and I could pay her back. I don't get it. She buys her clothes and toys, takes her places while I'm at work. The store is literally a 5 minute walk from her house. But she decided cottonelle wipes are ok? Ugh. Rant over.
I can't believe it
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Thank you! Yea. Well i try and do the right thing because shes family. The main issue is i have talked to her before on what we expect from her. But no change. I feel like her parent. Very sad.