So MIL wants to "borrow" DD for a while. Would you be okay with it?
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@zane yeah I was told that unless I'm underage, neglect my child, and/or she provides for my child 50%+ then she has no rights.
Just so you know my MIL and SIL'S have tried that shat with myself and DS. They have no rights to your child if you are over the age of 18 which assuming you are. Ive actually talked with a CPS worker abiut it and she assured me there is no such thing whatsoever. There is no "grandparents rights".
@jesus eso fue exactamente lo que pensé cuando quise llamar. Hizo mal pero, sería peor de mi causarle un problema así. Prefiero nomas alejarla de mi hija que de toda su familia.
Yo Tambien estaría muy enojada por lo que hizo, llevarse a tu hija sin tu permiso y más que lo hizo sin car seat!
Pero no llamaría a los policías, al fin y al cabo es familia y es la mama de tu esposo, si la llegaran a deportar por ser indocumentada eso afectaría mucho tu relación con tu esposo y tú pasarías a ser la mala en lugar de la víctima.
AhoriTa tu esposo ya sabe lo que hizo su mama, el también está enojado y está de acuerdo en que no se la lleve de nuevo. Yo lo dejaría así, solo le advertiría que por lo que hizo ya solo podrá ver a su nieta cuando ustedes estén presentes y le diría que si vuelve a intentar algo como lo que hizo habrá llamada a la Policia a la próxima.
Buena suerte y cuida mucho a tu hija, no la dejes sola con ella!
@pfran I know, I'm upset with myself. I always said if she pulled some shīt like that I would call the cops. I am going to talk to our lawyer, the fact that she wants to claim to have rights bothered me. And if she wants to be a bītch and use scare tactics saying she spoke to a "lawyer" then I will do the same.
She won't see DD again, and once I'm advised by my lawyer I'll take action against her.
@Aysha that's MIL will hold her for hours, and refuse to give her up is its feeding time. But I'm glad my DD is stubborn and scratches and bites when she's hungry. Only way MIL gives her up ?
@brittney I don't wake her up at night, she wakes up around 6/7 am if she has a wet diaper. But she typically doesn't use the restroom much while she's asleep. The issue with her rash is that she normally takes 2 poops a day one around 10am and the other around 4:30 pm. It's like That everyday, can sometimes be off by 30 minutes or so. MIL had her from 4-8pm didn't not change her after DD peed and pooped, so she basically walked around and sat on her ? for 4 hours after I told her to make sure she changed her diaper around 4:30. I know for a fact she didn't change her at all because I always pack 6 diapers in my diaper bag and when I picked her up there were still 6.
Wow this situation escalated quickly. I second all the ladies here you should've called the cops immediately irregardless of what SO or the pope himself would've said. That's the reason she doesn't take you seriously and putting your child in danger like that? What if you never saw her again because of her negligence? Yeah no, cops would be called to at least give her a scare even if you didn't end up pressing charges. At least she would see how far you are willing to go for placing your baby in danger. Gosh my blood still boiling!
Hell no!!!! My mil and fil are no longer allowed to have my son alone because they refuse to listen to what I say. From the very beginning she would always question what I'm doing and tell me to do something I knew was not right. I caught them driving with my 3 year old with NO CAR SEAT! I f*** ing flipped on them and they honestly saw nothing wrong with it. It maybe cool in Ecuador to not use car seats but in America it's illegal to no use one dumbasses! And she wants to take my son out of the country one day! Ha!
Grandparents do not have rights to do as they please with their grand child ! That's like saying the auntie has rights! They have rights if they are the guardian! And by her being illegal I doubt she's talking to ANY lawyers because they would be obligated to report her friend or not! Your so much better then me op because I wouldn't care illegal or not the cops would be on her and if immigration jumped in so be it ! She knew she was running a risk! Ugh I'm so mad for you???
@ocean, meggzzz, & christinsey
I did tell him I'd get a restraining order . He knows I would do it, which is why he asked me to cool down. He was just as pissed as me.
I won't give her the chance to act crazy around DD again. I told her she won't be seeing her again, which is when she retaliated with she has rights. But I will look into that and I'm even willing to go to our family lawyer.
It's taken every bit of my strength for me not to knock this woman senseless, but I warned her next time she gets near my child I will take action.
As far as her being undocumented, she must not be too concerned with that seeing she's willing to openly break the law. You could have easily had her arrested for kidnapping, she obviously doesn't care. Your SO needs to put his children's safety first, and you as well. If my child was taken by anyone without my permission, no one would be able to stop me from calling the authorities immediately. As a mother your child's safety comes before anyone's feelings.
She could have killed your child. She should never see you or your child again. Regardless of your SO, you should've called the police and documented her child endangerment and kidnapping spree. I'd suggest looking into wether or not she has an grandparents rights case in your state, since she has already brought that up. If so, and actually regardless, it's not too late to go to the police station and file a report so you have a paper trail just in case. It takes a special kind of crazy to do what she did, and she will most likely escalate.
@bree lucky you, I used to get along with mine but ever since my daughter was born she's done shīt I just can't deal with.
@glenda I know, as her mother that was my first instinct, but SO asked me not to because since she's undocumented they fear her having issues leading to deportation.
@Jaxons.Mum : since Im on my laptop with nothing better to do ^.^ Those are the responses in english
pfran- NO!
Sorry MIL I won't be home today or ever. Chao!
KingKoopa-
10 hours later... Sorry just saw your message, and its too late now.
yamip91-
First of all your MIL needs to learn to write. Second I wouldn't leave her alone with DD.
Genty8
By: Genty8
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Next time tell her she already had time to raise her kids. And if she has baby fever she should go have another. And if she has a problem with that get order of protection/ restraining order for putting your daughter in danger.
REPORT ABUSE
-catalinamarie6
Tell her no! If she wants to see her she can go to your house until you trust them. You are her mother and they need to respect what you say.
@Jaxons.Mum : since Im on my laptop with nothing better to do ^.^ Those are the responses in english
pfran- NO!
Sorry MIL I won't be home today or ever. Chao!
KingKoopa-
10 hours later... Sorry just saw your message, and its too late now.
yamip91-
First of all your MIL needs to learn to write. Second I wouldn't leave her alone with DD.
Genty8
By: Genty8
Que descarada!
Next time tell her she already had time to raise her kids. And if she has baby fever she should go have another. And if she has a problem with that get order of protection/ restraining order for putting your daughter in danger.
REPORT ABUSE
-catalinamarie6
Tell her no! If she wants to see her she can go to your house until you trust them. You are her mother and they need to respect what you say.
@ronnie I know ? I wanted to kick her in the face. I had a very serious talk with her and she didn't even think she did wrong. Apparently she has spoken to a friend who's a lawyer and she says she has rights.
But I don't care what she or anyone says if she didn't give birth to her she shouldn't take her.
My daughters with me now and MILs husband was pissed because she's always talking s*** when someone wants to "borrow" her kids. I'm glad he understands me, as for now my SO and I agreed she is not to be near DD or I will take action. As for her kids and husband they're free to come visit DD but I need time before I can see her face.
I'm still upset, but now I know I can't even leave DD to go to the restroom and I for sure won't make that mistake again.
Que descarada!
La próxima vez dile a la señora que ella ya tuvo su tiempo criando a sus hijos! Y si tiene fiebre de tener la bebe, que se vaya a singar para que ella tenga otro. Y si tiene un problema con eso, que vas a sacarle una orden de protección por poner a tu hija en peligro.
@grace I know. That's my biggest fear, which is why I don't leave her with anyone. Not even her dad. It pisses me off that I try to be nice and she does this shīt. But that's it.
@Arielle yes! Believe me I wanted to. But SO said to let him handle it.
She said to the market, but I wouldn't care if she took her to see Jesus Christ himself. She endangered my daughters life by not using a car seat so she endangered her rights as a grandmother. I'm serious so fūcking upset I want to slap this woman. Her mother sticks up for her too, saying she's her grandmother and she has rights. They can both kiss my äss.
SO is just as upset since they're kids are never allowed to go anywhere, but she dares to take my daughter without even asking for permission. OMG . ???
So my SO got out of work early so he could bring us and they could see us. But he had to go pick something up. So I step into the restroom and this batch takes off with my daughter. No fūckīng warning or anything. I'm fūckīng livid. Sure it's her grandma but for her to take off, with no fūcking car seat and no warning just did it for me. SO spoke to her since I just can't deal with her anymore and she responds with " Shut up don't be dramatic it's not like I'm just anybody, or that I took her to the end of the world".
This did it for me, she better enjoy this last visit because if she can't respect me as DDs mother I won't respect her as her grandmother.
Un grande No!!!! A big no!!!! I don't trust my MIL either, my baby when he was 3 months old and she gave him a little bit of ice cream right in my face and I flipped!! From the things that you're saying you should not trust her at all. It seems she doesn't even care for your daughter to be doing that kind s of things!
@newly you'd probably still have a hard time understanding. She misspelled a few things ?
@yami I know, her spelling and grammar is horrible but she came from a very poor and humble town in Mexico where women weren't allowed to go to school so ehh. She's gotten better haha.
@king hahaha I'm using that one next time for sure! She's crazy enough to come honking like a maniac tho ?
@pfran that's something I would love to say! Haha, I've gotten away with saying I'm not home MANY times. But SO knows damn well I am today ?
Yeah, I figured. SO says I'm being unfair. I offered to go as well and she was not too happy about it haha.
Apparently I'm keeping DD from her family ?
I understand your SO wanting to handle it himself, but he clearly wasn't 'handling' it since his mom took an infant joyriding without a car seat. If they'd been hit by a drunk driver or some texting teenager, your kid would be dead, instead of luckily and safely back home. I'd definitely file a report of what happened with the cops. Even after the fact, you need to start a paper trail in case you do need a restraining order one day. And it depends on your state if there are grandparents rights, but no grandparents rights states allow grandma to kidnap a kid and drive them around with no car seat. =/