MIL to be called "mama"?

Uh no. You're the mama, you gave birth not her. My so's younger brother and sister call their grandma Mema. Try that maybe?

My children are 1/2 chinesse and their grandma is Mah-Mah. At first it bugged me because I'm Mom but I understand it's a different language. I have gotten over it sometime in the last 4.5 years of having my first born.

It's strange to me that everyone is objecting to their child calling a grandmother mama. My grandmother and grandfather were always mama soph and papa Stan.. my 2 year old brother was taught that there's 2 grandma's. Mama Sophie and grandma Diane. Maybe it's just a family thing..

No way! She should know that's not okay. Maybe mee-maw or maw-maw but definitely not mama. That clearly means mom.

I would have to say no to that. My MIL is Nana and my mom is grandma.

@Lynitia maybe, I'll tell her that if she starts again ?thank you

My step mom it's really young like 27 so she's not set on being a gramma yet lol but I wouldn't feel comfortable with mama I think that would be confusing for the child. But I am ok with Mama T t is for her first name maybe your MIL might go for that

Nope

No way. Not even remotely okay. I would forbid my mil to see my child if she disrespected me in that manner.

Oh heck no!! That's messed up.

No. My MIL wants to be called mamasita. That's what hungry men call girls walking down the street where I'm from. I'm Hispanic & to me It's too sexualized in my eyes. No way. I'm gonna make sure my sons call her "babushka" the Russian name for grandma. More of a traditional proper name

No. I'm her mommy, mama, mom, etc.

My mil's nickname is Cha so we decided that Chama is a good name for her since she didn't want to be called grandma. She's younger. My mom is just Grammies.

HELL NO!

Uh HAIL NO

What! Noooope! Seriously that would be stopped ASAP. My in laws or parents wouldn't even consider it. That's just disrespectful. In my family, my in laws are granny and papa, and my parents are grandma and grandpa. Heck even my grandma is refered to as gigi because she didn't like great-grandma.

That'd be a big fat no.

I agree with you OP. My situation was way different and my mom never pushed it. Dd just mimicked me and it stuck. I would be very upset if I was you!

Thanks for the responses ladies.

I guess as pps said if it came out naturally and she wouldn't get confused it'd be one thing, but MIL purposely gets her and says "no I'm mama". Which is what really bugs me. We saw her yesterday and I thank God she didn't start that nonsense again.

Uh. Hell no! My mil wants to be called "momma" t. And I said no way crazy lady. She's not their momma and they won't call her as such. My husband did it the other night said, "go to momma t." I said, "excuse me?" And said no! My kids will not be calling someone else momma. Unless it's a step mom.

This bugs me too. Its usually women who think they're still young and being called grandma makes them feel old...

Well tough s*** ... You have a grandkid and thats ur title so deal with it...

I don't like it personally, DS calls her nana, but when DH was little he called his grandma mama. Everyone was fine with it and thought it was cute.

ETA: He did it himself, she just wanted to be grandma and as he got older and could pronounce it he started calling her grandma.

It's always boggled my mind why grandparents would wanna be called anything in relation to mom or dad. Like no..... I don't get it. I would never accept it. They need to follow your rules as you are the mom. It shouldn't matter if they're "too young" to be grandparents. They still are.

Sounds like my MIL?

And my baby isn't even here yet. But she also calls her "my baby." Like the last time I checked, she did not partake in the baby making process. Yes, you're a grandmother, no she may not call you any type of derivative that's close to mama or mommy.

Mope not ok with me.

Even children I've had in my custody 24:7 didn't call me mom. They have a mom. I was their step mom really lol.

This reminded me of the last post I saw like this where someone mentioned a 'glam-mother' ?

But yes, I wouldn't be okay with mama either

No.

Nope. I'd be pissed.

My son will have a Memi, Pepaw, Papa, Jackie, Granddaddy, Grammy, and Pawpaw. Our grandparents are Grandmother, Granddaddy, Mawmaw, Pawpaw, and Grandmommy.

Tell her she is a Grandma, no matter her age or what label she puts on it, and if she wants to see your daughter, she can pick out a grandma name!

It would bug my to if it was forced but if my son naturally said it i would just leave it as long as it doesn't turn hurtful. My SO's best friend has a daughter and her daughter calls me mommy sometimes and she doesn't mind cuz she calls everyone she feels comfortable around mommy.

My mil wanted to be called ama, it's what she called her grandma. The last few times we've gotten together ds has called her mama instead, but thankfully she tries to correct him. I'd probably flip if she didn't. I'm the mama.

Absolutely not - mama and all the possible variations is me and no one else! I would get really upset if my MIL (or my mom for they matter) asked me if the can be called mama. No way! ?

I wouldnt mind if it included their name in it. I call my grandmas mami cerafina and mami ester. Mami means mommy in spanish. As for my mil we refer to her with our son as mami vero.

My daughter calls my mom grandma, my dad poppop, and MIL glamma. If FIL was alive, RIP, he would be grandpa. She also has a great grandmother (my grandmother) that she calls GG rose.

I'm mom, mama, mommy. No one else. I don't care who it is lol

Maybe 'most' mom's would be okay with it but you're not most mom's, you're you. Most mom's still mean that there are a group of mom's that don't like it and they deserve to be heard too!

I would be rediculously uncomfortable with it. Granted, I sometimes tell Isaac to go to mum (my mom) but it's because I'm thinking my mom. But that's all together different.

Your baby, your (and the baby's father) rules. Always.

hell no

My mom goes by maw-maw. It annoyed me at first because I thought it was too similar to mama, but my children always know that I am mom and she is grandma.

My mom wanted her grandchildren to call her Miss. Jackson ??? (jokingly though) but all of her grandchildren call her Mommy so it's not weird to me.

My daughter calls my mom mama -___- it makes me so mad because half the time she calls her mom. I always correct her and make sure she's knows that's her grandmother not mother.

No it would not be ok in any way. I'm his only mama.. ?

Mama is a normal name for grandma, but if it bugs you then don't allow lo to call her that. Simply say no no I'm mama that's grandma

I can see why it would bug people. My MIL's mother was a "mama" to her grand kids and my boyfriends paternal grandmother was "mama" to him. I've heard him refer to his grandmother as "mama" so much now that I have a totally different take on it than most. So mil mentioned being a "mama" I didn't even blink twice.

My maternal grandmother was Nanny. So i feel like my mom will be a nanny. My paternal grandmother died before I was born but my bothers and sisters viewed her as nan. That's just how my family did it versus his.

So honestly I'm okay with it also sometimes it can just be whatever falls out of your child's mouth. My bf's grandfather was "pompin" as his older cousin just started calling him that when she was young.

But if it upsets you, then you are totally within your rights to request a different name and you should.

Also it is too freaking foolish for someone to think being called grandma is old.

Nope not overreacting. My mil is always telling me my son is hers too and not just mine. She actually goes around saying "that's my baby she's carrying." It's very annoying and when I try to say something about it she gets an attitude. I see me and her arguing about my son in the future ?

Edit: the term "Glamma" is cute...you know like glamorous grandma put together ☺️

Absolutely not. She can be called grandma, Nana, Vovo, Grammy, or anything like that, but certainly not mama.

Her excuse that she's "not old enough" to be called those names is just too bad for her. She needs to act a little more maturely about this and accept it. ?

Nope I'd be pissed

Crazy! I would take the title of grandma and wear it proudly! I had my son at 19 so I could be a young grandma (though I'd rather wait, for his sake!)

Thank you for your responses ladies! I just wanted to see if it made sense that it bothered me. But I definitely won't allow my daughter to call her mama.

Nope nope nope! I had the same problem witb my mil and it bugged the s*** out of me also.

I was 36 when I became a grandma. I'm called nana by my grandchild and my otherhalf is poppy.

She should be proud and happy to be called grandma or nana. It's an absolute privilege and something to be proud of!

My grandmother was mama and my grandfather was papa. I didn't really think about it until now, it was just normal. My mum is gaga I guess you could call that strange.

Hell no!

Nope. My mom is still young, she's 36 and I told her I wanted my son to call her something to make her feel old, like granny or something, but she doesn't care. She said she'll proudly own any title he gives her. My son is only two months old but I refer to my mom and MIL as gammaw. They both adore it

That's a negative, captain. You came out if my vagina, I am your momma.

Dd calls my mom, momma. That's what I call her. Dd and I lived with my parents until she was 2. She calls me mom, mommy, ma, mother. It works for us.

I used to call my grandma mamá.

I guess it depends on the accentuation. I call my mother mami or mom.

I have a friend who insists being called mama by her granddaughter , again it's because she thinks she's too young for grandma . I'm a grandma and we use the term nanny ( he's too young to say it ) but to be fair I wouldn't mind grandma or nana or whatever it's not going to change the fact I am a grandmother ?

Nope, nope, and nope! I think I would nicely tell her that you do not want your kid to call her that.... What about Nana thats what my mom and MIL are called. Or mawmaw?

When my SO and I first got together my MIL kept telling my SD to call me "aunt T" not the same situation by no means but I told her I didn't like her telling my SD I was "aunt T" and to just tell her I am "T" in no way was I her aunt. I was just T her dads GF if anything a future step mom.... 8.5 years later and SD calls me by my actual name.... It would drive me crazy hearing a kid call someone something they aren't. It could confuse the kid too!

I would nicely put an end to it. If out in public people may think she is the mom.

No. There are so many other names for "grandma" she can pick something else.

I would tell her ok, since she's "too young" to be a grandma she doesn't have to be. She can stop seeing my child until she is ready, since my child has only one mama - me.

Webster's definition-

Noun 1. grandmother - the mother of your father or mother

Synonyms: gran, grandma, grannie, granny

Age has nothing to do with it. But I get that some see it that way. I would simply explain to her that any forms of MOM are totally not an option. Pick something else!

I wouldn't be okay with that at all!!

My grandads mum didn't like my mum and aunties calling her any grand name so she was Auntie Anna even though she was their grandmother.

But to be honest this isn't about MIL, she's going to confuse your dd with her own hang ups. Tell her to grow up, she should be proud to be a grandmother.

People are crazy when they say I'm too young to be a grandma! Once your kid has a kid you are a grandma!

I haven't considered Nana or Mimi I'll bring them up when we see her and just hope to god she'll stop with this mama nonsense

@grandmakat wished she thought the same as you.

What about mimi

I would offer that my child could call her by her first name if she didn't like grandma or other grandma associated names.

@two I'm trying to get DD to call her by her first name. Since grandma is too offensive for her. I'm just glad every time she says Mama she comes to me. Hopefully MIL gets the hint.

@hooray I spoke to her and told her basically that. She stopped because I stopped taking DD to her but she's starting again. I just wanna pop her on the mouth every time she tells my DD to call her Mama.

Oh hell no , you put her in her place !! She the grandmother

No, that would not be ok with me. I don't want my children to be confused, I am their mom, that would be like me telling them to call snow "rain".

Not ok with me. I'm the only mama

I would be super blunt with her.

"You are not my child's mother. You did not carry LO in your tummy. You carried their father, you are his mama, I am LO's mama. You know I do not like them calling you mama. If I hear you referring to yourself as mama your visit will be cut short. Until you learn who you are, and do not confuse my children, you will have limited, supervised visitation."

Gigi. That's what all grandma's that think they are to young age called.

@hooray right? I have no issues with my mother who is more of a mother figure to my daughter. But she knows and accepts she's grandma. MIL on the other hand swears she's special.

Not old enough to be associated with the term 'grandma'???

Tell her a grandma doesnt have a specific age!!! You can be 35 or 105! Now if she doesnt like the term she can choose another term such as nana, me-maw, grammy, etc but guess what... THEY ALL MEAN GRANDMA!!!!

Edit: If she dont like it than she can be called by her damn first name! But she should NOT be called mama unless she gave birth to your child and/or is raising your child 24/7!!!

The nerve!!!!!!!!

Not okay, this is a battle you should fight and not feel bad about.

No. Anything mom,momma, and mommy would be me.

@Wyo lucky you ?

I don't understand why MILS feel like that is acceptable. They aren't mama, you are. Unless it's pronounced Mawmaw, which is a nickname for Grandma, I do have one of those. Some women are so ridiculous. ?

Glad to see its not just me. She swears it's okay with most moms. I correct her all the time but she's so stubborn.

No, but my mom requested Oma and my mother in law requested Vovo so I don't have to fight that battle.

Nope! Nana, grandma, granny, yeah of course but mama means mum. And she's not their mum.

That's my name. Not my mil's. I'd tell her back off and get her own damn name. Lol but I'm bluntly honest ?

No, she says she's not old enough to be associated with the term grandma. ?

Nope. I'm called Mama. Now my mom is called Mam-Maw. And my son has a hard time pronounce that so it comes out mama but if you listen closely he says them differently. He knows who is who.

I am not a fan personally. Will she accept something like Oma or Gma?