Could it be that your dad did not want you to see him like that and requested her not call you? There could be many many reasons. The reason might hurt worse then not knowing... I say let it lye

Odds are if you bring this up, it's more than likely she'll block you. If you want your answers it's best to meet up and do it in person. Just tell her you're not blaming her for your father's passing and you just would like to catch up. I'm sure she probably thinks that because she refused to reach out to you, she thinks it's her fault, and you might think the same - hence the avoidance.

Seems like she may need closure.

It's an actual request. That got me once before too lol

@Carrimel I like the way you put it, and I think that's a good way to approach it.

First be sure that it's an actual friend request and not an"friend suggestion." It's confused me before and I'm not a lump, I just hadn't noticed the one word difference.

Since she reached out to you, I'd send her a message and explain exactly what you did to us. Explain that you still are hurting for an answer and if she can't provide it then you no longer want her to be in contact with you. She obviously knows you wanted an answer back then, so it's not like she's clueless.

I absolutely need closure.

I could personally never keep information like that from anyone, not even my worst enemy. So I want to know why she couldn't be bothered.

I don't want her to know anything about my family from my Facebook, so I don't really want to accept her request, but if I don't, I can't be sure she will get my messages.