where do you fall?
I've seen a lot of people listing off the order of what's important to them.
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My first is my children. They didn't ask to be here so I owe it to them to put them above all else.
My husband is next. He's my best friend and, besides my kids, the reason I wake up every day.
My animals are next. They love me and I love them. I'm a good fur baby mamma. Lol.
After all that is my home and my plants. It's like a jungle in my house. I have over 30 plants. And that's just inside. I have a garden outside as well.
My list isn't really a list, it has God at the top then everyone else, including me, below it. Here's my reasoning. If I am following God in every aspect, then my family will be happy. I have had times where God wasn't first and it lead to an unbalance in my life.
Right now i am spending a lot of time and effort on myself. I am pregnant with number one, and want to be the best parent I can. To achieve this I am not working, which is fine with my husband, and using that free time to improve myself. I am going to counseling, doctors appointments I had put off for years, and making our house more of a home than we ever thought possible. It has made our marriage stronger because I am healthier in every way. Now I don't think he would like it if I went to the mall constantly and spent tons of money.
Kids and husband are tied. I can't decide who is above the other. I take care of and make time for all of them equally. at least I try to.
Me. I have to force myself to make time for myself. Or SO will make me. I was terrible at it at first, but I'm getting better. It's important to care for yourself too, which is why I express that to new moms.
Everyone else
it's my son. And then me and df.
Obviously it's important for me to be healthy and happy to be a good mom and partner but I wouldn't be happy if that came at the risk of my child.. They always come first.
Df step sister was leaving her few month old baby and his toddler brother overnight to go out to bars with her new bf because she needed to keep her sanity.. She only had hem every other weekend already so I'll be miss judgypants and say that's a horrible priority. I understand u need some time away, but I see no reason to leave a tiny baby overnight baring a medical emergency.
In a general thing I would say:
Me
My SO
My son
My family
My career
My friends
Everything else
Now this isn't the order of who I would save in a fire, or feed first. This is just a general, if I'm not taking care of myself, I'm not a good partner/mother/employee/friend. If my SO and I don't have a good relationship, then we can't parent together as affectively, and there will be nothing left when the kid(s) leave the home and start their own family. Without my career, I couldn't support my family, and then as much as I love my friends, I don't feel I need them as much as the above.
I'm going to go with equality as my answer. Everyone is as important as everyone else. That's the only way it makes sense to me. I can't understand saying that my husband or kids are more important than myself. We are all in this together.
It is definitely family and friends first, everything else in life is less important than the people I love, work, hobbies, etc.
I'm surprised at how many people put their kids above their spouse.
God
Husband
Kids
Me
Everyone else.