Santa I am a FTM & with Christmas around the corner I am finding out that my LO's grandparents want to give him gifts…

I'm with you. thats something special for parents.. now that I'm thinking about this, I'm sure my mom will have presents from santa for my lo under the tree - I wont mind this year since lo won't recall much of anything - but as she gets older I definitely want Santa to be in our home - no other relatives.

I personally have never heard of the grandparent doing the Santa presents.. In my house we always got the "coolest" present from Santa. The rest were from my mom and dad, and we did/still do Christmas Eve with my extended family and got our presents from the grandparents then.. It's your baby so it's not wrong to feel that the Santa gift/s should come from you and your husband. If this is truly how you feel you need to let them know now, before it just becomes expected, and you start resenting in any way! Sure this year and probably next our lo's won't know about Santa but eventually they will and if it means that much to you, you should address your feelings before you get to that place.

Thanks rach, I liked that too bc as I got older I couldn't compare if Santa and mom had the same wrapping paper and hand writing. Haha

bjohnson, I love the idea of the santa gift being unwrapped & left by the fireplace! I am going to steal your tradition :) When I was little we also only got one gift from santa & it was also one of the "big gifts"

I got lucky and all the grandparents here are just doing from them. Though I live with my mom so it wouldn't matter if she did for now. He May have something from Santa from his dad but I doubt it. I got to pay for all his stocking stuffers and all his gifts

At this age it won't matter to your child as he/she won't know who the gifts are from. But if you plan on being the only one to give gifts from Santa then I would establish that from the beginning and make the grandparents aware. Santa only comes to our house and our parents understand and respect our decision.

Oh my gosh I didn't even think about this!

My mil does that too, half Santa and half her and fil. I know my son doesn't know right now but I liked how my family did it and we only got one gift from Santa (by the fire place, unwrapped, usually the largest gift). Then the rest from my parents. Grandparents didn't do Santa gifts. Ugh... I don't know what to do now. She has older grand kids too so I couldn't tell her okay only my son gets no santa gifts. Hmm now I need to talk to my husband.

Me and my hubs had the same talk Saturday night. His parents write from Santa on almost all their gifts. It drives me nuts. I said that I only want us to be Santa. I also only want a gift or two to be given from Santa. Not all of our gifts. I don't want him taking credit for all of the thoughtful and sincere gifts that we buy. I feel like that takes the meaningfulness away from what we are doing. I guess It is early to really matter but I wanted out stories to all line up for when he is old enough to question.

Yes, I hope to establish things from the get-go... I can't tell the grandparents to not give santa gifts after LO is expecting them! My DH & I discussed it tonight & plan on letting grandparents know that after this year we want to be santa. Their gifts can just be from them. I would think it would confuse my LO as to why santa leaves a stocking & gifts at one grandparents house & not the other (once they are old enough to start questioning santa)

Can't you both do presents from Santa? Our babies are oblivious this year but it would be nice to establish things from the get go I suppose.

Can you high do Santa gifts? If you don't want them doing any at all, just tell them it's something special that you want to do. Or you could have them pick just one "Santa" gift and the rest be from them... Either way our April babies are way too young to know the difference or understand any of it.