Yeah I was pretty hurt when only one of my friends came to see my LO when he was born (like soon after). All the others didn't bother, and only saw him when I made it out to dinner once when he was 5wks. Another couple of them still hadn't bothered. One 'good' friend only met him recently, when he was 7-8mths old, cause she ran into me at the mall. I didn't have a baby shower, and have never had anything that requested their time and/or money. I went to their weddings, engagements, birthdays, hens, and they just werent there for me. I've been hurt way too many times by 'friends', I will excuse as much as I can, and give people the benefit of the doubt, but you get to a point where it just becomes a matter of self preservation and self respect that you stop letting people decide whether they can be bothered to make an effort and you make that decision for yourself. I've definitely lost touch with friends over the years because it became one sided and I decided that I wasn't going to make all the effort.

its a weird thing that happens to people when you have a baby, its always the ones you would expect to be excited for you but it's like they have a hard time being happy for you at such a joyful time of welcoming a new baby. in my opinion its says more about thier character & probably means they aren't the type of people you want in you or your babies life long term.

I very much understand how ur feeling. I had my 2nd and only two out of 18 people who came to my baby shower actually came to see baby when he was born. I deleted them all off FB and never contacted them. I'm a great friend to all of them but I don't tolerate friendships that are one sided! It was really hurtful, I felt abandoned when I needed my friends the most!

Same thing happened to me. Although since I had dd1 at 20 I wasn't surprised all my 'friends' left me for dead. I had nothing in common with any of them and none of them could fully understand why I can't go out on a Saturday night ('Just leave her at your parents!') or why I refused to have people over during the week and get drunk ('But she's asleep you can do what you want now').

It's two years later and I'm about to have dd2 and I still don't have any friends really but I honestly don't care. I love my girls and dh, I really feel like they're enough for me and I don't think I'm missing out on anything. I hope you find your happy place :)

Awww that's terrible hun. I have to say I'm in the opposite situation. Since having my little girl 3weeks ago who is still in hospital with Pierre robin sequence and my partner having to work away my friends have been fantastic and really been here for me. I don't have any family here myself but my partners family are here and haven't bothered to visit or even call me over the last 2 weeks since my partner returned to work. I'm here alone recovering from Csec and having to go to hospital everyday to see my little girl yet they can't be bothered to pick up the phone and see how we are doing, really sh*ts me cause I know they will all descend on us when oh gets home like they give a crap!

Maybe with your friends they are just trying to give you some space to get to know your little one first before descending on you straight away, but must admit lack of a phone call from any of them is pretty tardy on the friendship front!!!!

I know exactly how you feel.. Its also family for us too! My hubby and I are at the stage of not caring and loving our time spent together as a family. However it seems to bother me more than it does him. I'm always the one organizing catchups and driving an hour as they don't seem to make a effort..

I must say though, this app has been awesome - met some fantastic ladies who are wonderful and catchups are great.. If your in Brisbane area you should definitely come to one of our catch ups ;)

Aw that sucks. Are you the first to have a kid?