Honestly, if my SO ever told me to leave, I would leave. He doesn't get to change his mind and say ok stay, I'll just ignore you instead. He needs to know that telling you to leave is very serious and not words that he can just throw around when he's mad. That's ridiculous. I would leave and let him contact me when he's ready to talk. Especially if you don't live together. I'd stay at my parents for a day or two as well just to make sure he gets the message. See if he ever tells me to leave again after a harmless shower argument.

My SO likes to "play" like this too with annoying s*** when I don't feel like it and he also gets offended when I get pissed off because he is just trying to play , sorry no advice here lol we usually just end up ignoring eachother and going to sleep in the same bed then wake up in the middle of the night to cuddle and just forget about our argument

My bf sometimes plays around acting immature and when I keep asking him to stop I get very frustrated if he doesn't and will tell him in a stern voice I'm done playing around. Usually that get the point across. Sometimes he's like well you're no fun, blah blah blah. But he gets over it quick. I don't honk you overreacted at all

Maddison, he sounds like a young guy who was goofing around and took it too far. He probably feels bad he got yelled at and thinks your attitude stinks. Not excusing him not humbling himself and apologizing for upsetting you, but sometimes us women get ourselves worked up over small things until they feel like really big things. Also, holding a grudge is like drinking poison and hoping it'll kill the other person.

When you both calm down, apologize for yelling and tell him you were hurt when he didn't take you seriously and quit the first time you asked him to but that it didn't give you permission to yell at him. Tell him you know you are holding a grudge and it's really just making life uncomfortable for the both of you.

I'm sorry you're going through this. I can't believe it started all over the shower. I turn the water to cold on my DH all the time. He HATES it, but never screams at me for it.

I hope it all works out for you hun.

I'm sorry but I think he sounds like a jerk. He's telling his pregnant girlfriend to leave. He sounds like a scumbag. Who cares if he's stressed. You need to tell him you're his girlfriend not his child and when he has a problem to communicate rather than act like a bully.

I'm going to try and talk it out when he winds down from work and relaxes a bit instead of bombarding him. I'm not going to text him nor am I going to leave. I just think he just wanted to pick a fight with me. Thank you ladies for your advice. It really does mean a lot. I'm going to Ocean City Wednesday all day so that might help. So after he and I talk, I'll leave and probably just go weed the garden at home and clean the house. Just to keep busy until he asks for me to come back over.

You sound just like me. I use to have the same issue. Even when I wasn't wrong I would try to avoid making him even more upset. That's just how I saw my mom act with her husband and I picked it up. My dh didnt use to want to talk anything out when he was 19 either. He would just get up in the middle of our arguments and leave and go to his cousins all day. Drove me insane. Cause I'm extremely emotional and use to be depressed. (Still have severe anxiety) with time and age he grew up and now we can talk things out. I really wish I had better advice for you. I hope y'all can sort this out because it's really minor. Small hiccups like these won't even be a concern of yours once the baby comes.

If we won't talk and doesn't communicate then your relationship is destined to fail. Communication is the key to a healthy relationship.

@pp hes stubborn. He won't talk it out. He and I used to fight 24/7 because he wouldn't communicate... I normally walk away and when he'd cool down he'd come in the room to cuddle me and tell me he loved me ever since we worked out ways to avoid a fight. But I guess he wanted to fight over nothing yesterday. I easily walked away after I finished my shower, got dressed, and laid in bed. I thought maybe a shower would help him cool down but he kept going on and on I just kept quiet the whole time because I hate raising my voice. I can't even yell at my cats because I feel horrible after.

I added my depression and anxiety comment because I thought that might have been what sparked me to act the way I did by sleeping on the floor. Maybe that's why I felt bothered more than I would.

Well since y'all don't live together I think you should go home for a day or two. Y'all are very young and when me and dh were that young we needed a break from each other every now and again. Don't pack up all your things and make it seem like you are never coming back. I think when he gets him y'all should have a talk and then maybe go home for a day or two.

Eta: even to this day we need a break from each other. Maybe that's just what y'all need

So if he's behaving a certain way he has never before I think a talk to release his feelings would help.

If he's feeling stressed about lo coming, let him know that he's not alone and he's going to be a good dad. He might not say sorry now but he will once he knows you're trying.

He has work at 5 AM. I didn't want him to lose sleep over me. Just sometimes I feel like crap and he makes it worse. He didn't apologize. I didn't get a sorry or anything. There was no communication between us at all since last night. I wasn't trying to be dramatic. I felt unwanted because he wanted me to leave so why sleep in the same bed when the other didn't want you? The room mate sleeps in the living room so I wasn't going to go out there and sleep. my only option was the floor. I didn't want to argue again so I said heart burn--partly true, I had acid reflux at the time. Hes been grumpy all weekend and gave me attitude when gaming which has never happened. We barely talked yesterday because he was gaming all day. I just didn't want to argue with him again. Its just he tells me he wants me gone and tells me it's okay to stay... I just think since LO will be here soon, hes stressing and doesn't want to stress me out. But it literally just started. But it still hurts.

Honestly my DF gets like this... Not quite to that extent but he has a teenage girl attitude and its frustrating sometimes. Granted we are both still kinda young (he's 21 and I'm 19), he knows when to cut that crap. You two need to have a serious talk. If he's anything like my DF it'll probably go into one ear and out the other and you'll have to talk again. Just try to stay calm and collected. Good luck mama. I know how it is. Men can be so dumb.

Why not talk to him? That's better then acting childish about the whole thing. I think both of you acted very immature about the whole thing.

Maybe talk to him and tell him how he has been making you feel and how he hurt your feelings. Instead if just walking away.

Eta: ask him what has been bothering him also, and why he has been acting different.

So if it started from that shower incident you really shouldn't leave, it's not the right thing to do as a future parent. You don't leave your so for something so minuscule. What you do is talk it out, something is obviously wrong with him too if he blew up in that manner. When you've spoken to him and he's calm and not so smart-assy with his words ask him how he really feels. Our feelings as women are not the only ones that matter and men bottle things up.

All I'm saying is there is a more smart solution to this and leaving to prove something is not it.

Why not just talk to him and tell him how you're feeling instead of making excuses like you have heartburn? Stupid fights happen in relationships. If I left every time my husband and I had a stupid fight that left one of our feelings hurt, we might as well have suitcases waiting by the door to save us some time. But we talk about our fights and problems and resolve them before they get to that point. This all seems over dramatic. Both of you need to be adults and talk things out instead of leaving over something ridiculous. He didn't cheat. He didn't spend tons of money without consulting you first. He didn't go out partying into the wee hours of the night with his phone turned off. He was just playing with the shower water. Unless you guys have some huge underlying issue, then I think you can easily resolve this with communication.

Way over dramatic and childish.

Sorry, but really? You're willing to throw it away just like there. Clearly you don't feel how you should about him.

I have depression and anxiety too. My and partner fight everyday (mainly money and the fact he has to work all the time and family don't help so i do it all). We can both be nasty and mumble stuff. Him waking you up while you was on the floor was his way of trying to get you to come to bed hence why he said "stay there if your comfortable". He's being stubborn and doesn't want to come out and say sorry, so he's going a different way about it, by saying to stay etc. Im usually not like this and hate the word but you are being way over dramatic after one fight, one time if mumbling stuff and even when he's tried just not in a total obvious way (he's a man, get over it. At least he tried!)

Sounds like a very immature relationship. You sleeping on the floor is over dramatic and him telling you to leave is as well unless he means it for real. Your going to have a baby together very soon time to grow up and stop playing childish games.

Communication!! You both need to sit down and COMMUNICATE, instead of leaving ask him why he's been in such a different mood lately. If he has had extra stress at work, just isnt feeling himself lately, or whatever. Leaving will not make it better. You don't call quits and leave every time a fight happens. If he asked you to leave, then why don't you tell him you rather us talk it out and move on than either one of us making a mistake and leaving. I'm sure since he told you not to leave this morning that he truly wants you to stay.

Leaving is silly, you seem a bit dramatic.

Hubby learnt awhile ago that if we go to bed upset he gets woken up by me in tears a couple hours later wanting to resolve things because I can't sleep. 99% of the time we fight it's because of how something makes us feel which it sounds like what happened to you.

He's likely angry that he was tying to have fun and you yelled at him and hurt his feelings. You are upset because he was being childish and inconsiderate and ere hurt by his reaction and he didn't care that you were obviously upset.

As pp's have mentioned it's about communication and if you are upset and hurt you need to be able to explain that to him and vice versa. Obviously he has something going on to which is likely unresolved over the past few days or just stressed but he needs to be able to artivulate that. No one should be kicking ppl out of the house. Instead when you notice he is in a mood sit down or lie down next to him and tell him you noticed he seemed off and you want to know what is happening and how you can help.

I wouldn't leave but I would be prepared to have a talk when he gets home. If you want to have the bag packed just in case, go for it but try to work it out like adults if this is a relationship that is important to you.

This whole thing seems silly and overdramatic to me. I'd try to talk it out if I were you.

Op, petty reason to leave. Talk it out. If you leave, their may be no coming back. Communication is key. It will get better. Just sounds like a bad night is all.

This s*** happens in relationships. Nobody needs to leave.

Have you never been in a bad mood or taken something the wrong way and taken it out on him?

You're being childish.

From what you've said, it sounds like you might be the one keeping this "tiff" going. Making a bed on the floor is a bit melodramatic. He asked you why you were on the floor and you lied to him, which I'm sure he sensed. If you want to heal the rift, you have to communicate with him in a genuine way that helps you understand each other instead of giving him the cold shoulder.

He messed up. He should have stopped messing around in the shower before you had to get upset in order for him to stop. It was childish of him to get angry, but you don't have continue or respond with childish behavior in return.

He told you not to leave. When you got angry with him in the shower it was because he was bothering you. Maybe that's what he meant by saying he wouldn't bother you when he got home, not that he plans to ignore you.

If leaving is what you truly intend to do, then do it. But don't pack your things to prove a point or punish him. Share your feelings with him when he gets home. Him telling you to leave is a total low blow and he needs to hear that so he can learn what's not ok to say in anger. Tell him how situations like this make you feel... that it goes deeper than just an argument in the shower and it awakens feelings regarding your self worth. If you don't share that with him, how can you expect him to be sensitive to it?

Why would you be scared of waking him up by crying..? What's the worst he could do yell at you..? Unless he put hands on you then that's not right..! I'm not saying him yelling is right either, but you shouldn't be the one making a bed on the floor. -__-

There are times when my SO likes to play around like that too and some days im juss not feeling it. I get mad and frustrated and tell him I'm not in the mood. He gets bothered a little bit because he says all he's trynna do is play with me and make me laugh, Juss trying to have a good time. I think in your case, you probably shouldn't have over reacted so bad. But he was wrong for yelling at you and still holding a grudge. I say you guys both just talk it out that way next time he wants to play around you guys both know if it's cool or not.