Stuck between a rock and a hard place
Stuck between a rock and a hard place
Ok so my sister in law wants me and my boyfriend to move to New Mexico with her after the baby is born since my brother is going to be getting deployed every other 4 months. We're basically going to be living there rent free besides helping out a little I think it would be a great idea to get us on top to be able to buy our own home in a couple years. But my boyfriend on the other hand is stuck for the simple fact that his daughter is here in Maryland he doesn't see her that often as it is because the mother won't let him but he still says he doesn't really want to be that far away from her but I tell him if he gets visitation he'll be able to see her more and she'll be able to come out there and spend time with him. I need advice please
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Really tough. There's no way I would leave my child so I understand his hesitation, regardless of how often he currently sees her. I'd also be hesitant because everything sounds like a great idea at the time and then people start to discover that living together isn't such a great idea. They may say you don't have to pay rent now but maybe later they will feel like you don't contribute enough.
I'm not sure. Definitely something to talk about with your man and agree on together.
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Honestly I live 2500 miles away from my home town. My husband missed the birth of our daughter because he was deployed and I knew absolutely 0 people. The military raises not only strong men and women but also their spouses! She can do it alone. I wouldn't be able to leave behind my child. What if everything was switched and you had to leave your child behind that you didn't see very often. It's a tough decision. Hope it works out for you guys with whatever you choose.
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Get visitation settled b4 you move. If you do everything right and in order it will be fine if not better. The judgement will outline time, travel, holidays, everything. Sometimes things dont work out so we cant stop living just because. My daughters father lives in another state and it works out fine.
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Super tough, I couldn't willing leave a child behind, just think if he does move that mother will have even more reason to keep him away(not saying she has a right) but I know if my ex moved across the country visitation would be where I lived until child reached a certain age to travel
deleted-user·
I have no advice either. But there is no way I would willingly leave one of my children. Even if I didn't get to see them that often. I hope you guys can come to an agreement that you're both happy with.
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Hummm. idk. I dont have any advice as I have no experience here. I hope everything works out. BUMP?