My brothers dad died So my brothers dad died on father's day. He was the typical bitter ex - 30 years after his divorce…

I'm sorry for your family's loss as well.

I'm not sure what the norm is but if I die, everything goes to DH; since it's OUR money, OUR house, etc and he'll have to take care of OUR bills, and DS). But if he dies, 50% goes to me and the other 50% to SS.....

@tooth I think it's the norm... if I'm still alive I'm gonna have to take care of myself and the kids. Plus it's OUR money.

I don't know what the norm is. In your case, it's probably because your kids are children and you would need the money to take care of them. I'm the sole beneficiary of my DH life insurance because our kids are minors. But like I said in the other post, I plan on giving the kids a good start in life and I would never leave them with nothing.

If my dh, God forbid, happens to die before me. Everything goes to me. No children, his nor ours, will receive anything until after I die. Is that not the norm?

It is sad. I think I would feel differently if he didn't make 200K a year (he's a public employee so his salary is common knowledge).

And no. His wife, despite being the boys stepmom for 25 years, is giving them nothing.

That's horrible, I'm sorry for their lose. My father is horrible but I'm sure I'd cry if he passed. Hopefully his new wife isn't spiteful that she won't share with his children.

It is never easy losing a parent... Couple that with the frustration they're likely feeling on being left out of his will, and I imagine this is a very difficult time for both of them.