My DH was supportive when I needed him, mostly to put more hot water in the bathtub when it got too cold (spent like 4 hours in the bathtub before pushing). At one point the nurse told him "you can go sleep if you want" and I was like "are you crazy?" He thought so too and didn't go to bed lol!

But I was very focused and didn't want/need him to touch me or do anything. While I was pushing, the nurse told him to take my hand and I shook it away because it was distracting.

In australia hubby is there so nurses and dr can ask hubby for permission to do certain procedures if they feel wife is under stress etc and hubby will speak to the wife.

That ways the wife can't sue the hospital/dr/nurses for malpractice etc.

I'm looking forward to my hubby holding my hand, rubbing my back etc. He knows my wishes regarding natural drug free birth but will make decisions incase of am emergency

Mine has been pretty supportive. I talk to him and ask his opinion on every possible thing. Most of the time I get the standard "whatever you think is best babe" but I just want to make sure he feels included in all decisions regarding our baby. We've talked about taking classes, birth plan, water birth, breast feeding, etc and he has always said, "whatever you want, I will support". I have full faith in him that he will be my rock during labor and birth and will do great!

@pp it's not all blood and gore, he's been watching way too many Hollywood movies! I bet if he sees some real births on YouTube he'll be more relaxed.

My babe is due July. So far if I have cravings or am hungry he gets me or let's me have what I want..

But we spoke about it and he said he did want to be in the room while I deliver but he said he doesn't know if he can handle it cuz the blood and gore and I'm like you don't have to stare at my vagina the whole damn time ?

Honestly I was so Happy SO shut the hell up and didn't say anything during Labor. All he did was watch and help me pull one leg up towards me when I pushed.

If he said anything I would've probably screamed... So much going on and trying to concentrate I just wanted silence. :)

We took a lamaze class together. Before I went into labor, we discussed ways he could help me and comfort me. He did really great. He did everything I needed at the time & was right by my side.

Most of you guys have supportive SO's, that's great!

My DH and I talked more and I finally realized why he's being such a butt about childbirth prep : he thinks I will blame him when I'm in pain during labor. I've been very into the hypnobirthing philosophy, which focuses on the "intensity" of birth rather than the pain. And he's afraid if he helps me and it doesn't work, I'll blame him.

I assured him that I would never blame him for something that isn't his fault. And that if I experience pain during labor, we'll just deal with it. And he agreed to help me without being a huge turd!

With Isaac he read all my books, took note of my preferences (no epidural, no delayed skin to skin), he massaged my back with these amazing oils the nurses made up for me while I was in labour. I didn't expect him to do breathing with me, he'd feel silly and I would do controlled breathing that the whole panting like a dog thing! All in all, I couldn't have gotten through it without him.

Neither of us felt books or prenatal classes were necessary, but he was very involved and willing to do whatever I needed. He fulfilled cravings, gave massages and held my hand and even put my hair in a pony tail during labor.

Yes, he read the books I gave him geared toward new dads.

We had private Lamaze classes to fit around his work schedule.

He was away for work through the week, but made up for it when he was home.

He even went to a breastfeeding class with me at the hospital.

He helped Ds latch on for most every feed for the first couple weeks until it got easier for me.

It's ridiculous, he is my hero.

My SO never read the books or helped with breathing techniques. He did however help prepare for our dd1 and has helped out a lot this time too. He's supportive, shows that he believes in me and makes gestures and comments that help boost my confidence in birthing children into this world. That's all that matters to me.

@genty he was in surgery but he wasn't allowed in there when they did my spinal and all that good stuff for health reasons like bacteria and stuff

My husband went to classes with me and watched videos. He was helpful and would calm me through contractions. I was so thankful he was good to me with it all ? I had to force him to leave the labor room so he would get some food to eat.

We didn't go to the classes but we did watch preparation videos at home, he came to almost every dr appt, reminded me of questions to ask my dr and very comforting during labor (when he wasn't in the restroom -nervous poop!) lol I never knew I could love him more after having our daughter.

All I needed him for was to be there for me. I didn't expect anything out of him because he was just as nervous about the entire thing as I was. In the end, it worked great having him just be there to hold my hand because if he would have tried to tell me how to breathe or read me a book, I probably would have threw the book in his face

DH is kinda supportive, with Ds2 we went to birthing classes together, we aren't doing that this time around. He doesn't go to appointments or anything but I really don't mind.

My 5 year old is really great though, when I had morning sickness he would rush in to pay my back and tell me it's ok, always trying to give me a back massage, and talks to baby constantly.

Lol no. I wish. My SO was very reserved through my whole pregnancy as we previously had a stillborn baby girl.

Once I told him I was contracting he kept texting my mother haha. He did hold me up while I showered. He didn't come right to the hospital with me as I was unsure if it was true labor. My mom took me. But by the time I got to the hospital (2 minute drive) I knew baby was coming. Mom called him and he came right up. He didn't have much time to help, as I had a very quick labor. But he did hold my leg while I pushed if that counts haha

How come he wasn't able to be there pp? My so was in surgery with me.

If I asked yes. I went without an epidural up until my spinal tap for my c sec. He rubbed my back, got me cold wash cloths, talked to me, kept getting me ice chips. He was amazing. When I got wheeled off to prep for surgery he couldn't come and I'll never forget when I told him j loved him lol. I was scared I wouldn't see him again and he said "I love you and I'll see you soon" ???

My SO and I both worked through most of the morning part of my labor. I was induced at 5am (checked in at midnight so we had a room) I was having contractions every 3 minutes but didn't feel them. We both worked until around 1pm when the doctor came in and broke my water. At that point I felt every contraction so we stopped working and focused on the labor. He helped me through my contractions until I begged for the epidural. I had a few small problems with the epidural but once they were fixed all was fine. He did everything he could to help me feel good. We played Queen and I slept for a while. At 7pm I started pushing and he was right there at my back helping me push for an hour and 24 minutes.

As far as reading books, etc no.

But this isn't our first child together. With our first he did-

I'm actually quite blessed- he's my best friend and the best partner ever.

He's supportive, helpful with the kids, house, etc.

As far as the pregnancy goes, he's been present and supportive the entire time, he talks to and about the baby everyday.?

I have been wondering why everyone kept repeating the ops post on the first comment ?

Wow if BB could sort their sh*t so the first comment doesn't get turned into a copy of the OP, that'd be great ?

Recap, no, my boyfriend is useless and has showed minimal involvement so far.

My dh never watched videos or read any books about pregnancy but he's always been super helpful through my pregnancies. I've never really had to ask him more than once for something. He never complained either. What a champ!! ?

Eta: he helped me shave, helped me get dressed, helped getting me out of bed (mostly sitting up lol), he's put shoes on my feet and took them off for me. One time he actually braided my hair. Sort of.. Lol it had a bunch of knots in it.

With Ds, So wanted to do everything, including giving me my iv. ?

DH was kinda freaking out lol. He massaged my back when I asked.. He was pretty quiet throughout the whole thing - which is unusual ?

My husband did anything and everything I asked him to during my pregnancy. During my labor, he was sleeping. The nurse kept asking me when I was going to wake him up ?. This was my third delivery and I knew what to expect and what to ask for at exactly the right time. He did hold one of my legs while I was pushing though! ?

He read the books and stayed by my side, but that's about it. But that's about the amount of effort I put in too. I didn't learn breathing techniques or anything like that. He tried massaging me through my back labor, but he was far to gentle for me. Thank goodness for my mom, she really dug her knuckles in there!

I just don't understand why he can't support me when I facking BEG him for it. I really can't understand that.

Mine came to the classes and was always interested during them but in general not much really changes for them until baby arrives. I think it's hard for them to fully relate.

Yes. Thank God!

He was so supportive, the entire time I was in labor (68 hours) he was right there helping me. He done everything he could to try and make me comfortable. Poor guy. Lol

Eta: He already had one child, so he knew the ropes.

I feel like the whole point of having a DH is that they are there for you, that they help you prepare. They help you learn new breathing techniques. They give you massages. They read the books. They believe in you.

Ha. Ha. Ha.

Was your partner supportive in preparing you for labor like that, or nah?