SS is stepson.

What's SS?

I try my hardest not to talk bad about my sons father in front of my son. It can be really hard but I try to say a lot of positives so I won't say negatives.

I'm glad you stood up to her.

Good for you!!

Great job standing up to her you did with class and did not let get ugly. But... they are married? The way she speaks of your dad it seemed like she was bitter ex wife.

Yeah my dad is mentally ill. We know he definitely has anxiety and he has difficulty relating to other people sometimes so we think he might have autism/aspergers. He has been treated for anxiety. He's not dangerous at all. At his worst he's just awkward and annoying for other people.

I wish they would get divorced because I think he might do better by himself or with another woman. She's always been like this, but this is the first time I've stood up to her.

Didn't you say your dad does bizarre things? I'm assuming that doesn't mean dangerous or unobserving and that he would keep his head if something did happen.

That's definitely frustrating that your mother thinks she has such control of the situation. Has she always been like this or is it reactionary to your dad's problems? (Sorry, I can't think of a better word at the moment).

Are you able to take your dad away from the situation? Like just for a couple hours and take him and child to the park or ice cream? Better to ask forgiveness than permission in this case lol.

Yeah the thing is she seems to think she has control over the situation and that you need permission from her. Obviously you don't lol.