I was head over heels w/ my child's father, but he wasn't good to me at all !!! Found out I was pregnant & he went CRAZY! But I knew better he's a jerk ! Anyways I gave him another shot when I was about 24wks preggo & he was starting to be very supportive wanted us to be a family.. can't believe I fell for it? he went crazy again being super disrespectful , stressing me all the way out, it got bad in my third trimester to the point where I just knew I didn't want to coparent with him. I recently let him see his son(11wks old) just so that I know I tried everything possible! & he just made me super uncomfortable especially his family & he was always on his phone while we were visiting. He just didn't care ! So I am happy to be a single parent! I know I tried EVERYTHING & thats all that matters

Kalea I started focusing on myself and the life I want for my kids. I had to get on antidepressants while pregnant with my son but got off after he was born. I applied to get into college. I reduced talking to him to it only being about our kids. He hasn't been coming around as well due to his new gf and excuses which is peaceful. I just look forward and try to not dwell on the past. If I can't stop dwelling, I write my thoughts down and discard it.

My ex pretty much abandoned me while I'm 7 months pregnant with our son. He told me he wanted a family. He didn't use a condom and he didn't pull out so it seemed like this is what he wanted. But now he says he can't deal with my hormones. He told my best friend that he hated talking to me and being around me. He never bought anything for the baby anyway. He spent all his money on weed. So now I'm on my own(I've got my family but as a parent to my son I'm alone) I just hate that one day I'll have to explain to my son why his daddy isn't around.

My ex never wanted children and I have since I was a teenager. Three years ago, I found out he was not only sleeping with someone else but he was in love with her. To add insult to injury, she has two young children who adore him.

I decided to take matters into my own hands. I picked a donor and, after two rounds with no pregnancy and one miscarriage, I'm nine and a half weeks. Making the decision to be a single mother was easy but sometimes I am a bit nervous; especially because I will be 39 when I meat my child for the first time. I am happy I have no one to have to worry about outside my happy baby and myself.

I was having casual sex with a guy and am now 23 wks. He tried to talk me into abortion I said no. He left the state about 6 weeks ago but says he wants to be involved in our son's life 'when he can' as he travels to work. He has hardly been involved in the pregnancy at all never been to a dr appointment nor ultrasound and never really asks for updates although I try to give him some. It's frustrating but I am so excited to meet my little man and am ready for the life we will have together ? I just hope his father doesn't let him down.

My ex is a complete piece of s*** , and it's taken me a long while to be able to say that. Things were never great with us really looking back, he was in the USAF when I met him, he was posted here in the U.K. When he went back to the US for his last 2 years we said we would try to make it work, after all 2 years wasn't forever then he would retire and come live in the U.K. Anyway I always had my suspicions he was cheating on me while he was there but I couldn't prove it. About August last year I got into his email and I found so much stuff, it was heartbreaking!! He had always made me feel like I was crazy and paranoid when I would ask him about stuff, but I wasn't and I knew I wasn't and now I had proof. After a lot of tearful conversations we agreed to wipe the slate clean and start over. He would be leaving the military end of September and would be coming to live with me. I hoped that would be enough for him to stop with all that nastiness. Anyway, we planned the baby, we both wanted her and last December I found out I was pregnant. He left me at 10 weeks!! But he couldn't just leave, he kept lingering and stringing me along, giving me hope we could get back together. He went back to the US in the beginning of march this year to sort some stuff and get work, and 2 weeks later I found his old phone and got into, well what I saw just destroyed me. Basically our whole relationship was a lie. I didn't hear from him until the end of May, and once again I took him back, I didn't want to be a single mum, I wanted my daughter to know her dad and I thought with her coming he would change, HA! He took a 6 month contract in Qatar in the June. My baby girl was born in August and he left again before she was 4 weeks old!!! What's more he blames me, he says I pushed him away and to an extent that is probably true, but I was tired of being lied to, I was tired of being cast aside, tired of the tears and tired of being taken for granted, so I guess I got stronger and stopped taking his crap and so he left.

The sad thing is he won't ever really have a bond with his daughter as he lives in another country. He will see her maybe twice a year and most of his relationship with her will be done over ft.

I can't stand him, what he has done to me is unforgivable and I don't want to even try to be friends with him. He is a worthless piece of crap as far as I'm concerned and I'm glad I don't have to coparent with him on any level. He does contribute financially, but it barely covers a third of her childcare costs, let alone anything else. He thinks by paying he is doing "all he can" for his daughter.

I am thankful everyday for my baby girl, I just wish I could've picked a better daddy for her ?

I'm in a similar situation. The father is a guy who shouldn't have amounted to anything more that a one night stand. It only turned into two because I met up with him to tell him I could be pregnant. (Don't judge me, it was gooooooooood sex and he was a nice guy... Or so I thought) Anywho once I confirmed the pregnancy to him and offered to take a paternity test so he could be sure (I figured it was fair since we didn't know each other too well and I happened after ONE freakin' time) he refused and said to get an abortion. Haven't talked to him since...

Faced with doing this alone abortion did become a consideration for a while but I couldn't go though with it. So here I am, 30 years old, single with a little one on the way. I'm finding it very hard not to judge myself; like I should have been smarter! This was NOT suppose to happen to me. I'm too damn practical for this. I DON'T EVEN LIKE KIDS. *sigh* and now I love this little guy, will move mountains for him, and beginning to understand what would drive me to commit murder lol (joking but not joking. Don't come for my kid!)

My best advice for any of us single moms is to take advantage of our resources and not just the physical ones but the emotional ones as well. Keep your mind as mental healthy as possible, ultimately it's what will pull us through.

I have a 3 & 4 year old by the same guy who is an amazing father but we are not on the same page, I am now pregnant by a next guy who I've been seeing for two years I told him I was pregnant he said if I get rid of it he will stay if not then he will never talk to me again, I've decided to keep the baby and he's completely cut me off blocked my number and everything ?

I already have a 3 year old her father has never had any involvement I'm now 34 weeks with another girl split with my ex a few months ago as he was cheating and has another girl pregnant. He was violent and horrible and I don't want him in my girls life I know having 2 on my own won't be easy but it will all work out ok everything happens for a reason :) good luck girl

I got pregnant by a guy I'm good friends with, but he's not ready to settle. We will be co-parenting.

The guy walked out on me halfway throughout my pregnancy. Baby was born a month ago and he has seen his son twice, he plans on seeing him again soon. We are getting along well with each other and he says he regrets what he put me through I forgave him and put it past us. He has been giving me some money, I hope to coparent with him sometime in the near future.

Diamondford1, what did u do to cope or to make things better for you

Kalea same pretty much happened to me. Especially when I was pregnant with our son, I had my ups and downs, but it's getting better. Keep your head up!

Terri2013, just think positive sweetie!

Hi! I'm Kiki, I am a ftm and it's a boy! Never planned on this pregnancy but me and the father was having casual sex, I wasn't protecting myself and ending pregnant and he walked out. I'm looking forward to becoming a mom and helping my baby become everything he wants out of life! Add me on IG kikijanay_

I have a 4 year old pregnant now 18 weeks same baby father he left us after 6 years to go be with someone else and now she is pregnant it hurts like hell cry a lot but I know I can't dwell on it but it's so hard to be pregnant alone n do

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My ex husband left when our daughter was 6 months. We tried to make it work on several occasions. We are divorced as of oct 6 and have an almost 3 year old daughter and 6 month old son. He sees them maybe once a week but has recently been slacking in that regard. He doesn't pay child support but provides diapers, wipes, pull ups, gas for my car, etc occasionally. I am blessed to have really well behaved babies. I will be working full time and going to school part time, starting Jan 2017.

Wow you are a very strong woman. I am going to keep my baby I know abortion is not right for me. The dad said he would help but he is so on and off. I have to prepare myself to be a single mother of 2. I know I can do it and this is a really good group. I have to stand up to my family and say I'm keeping my baby.

First off, do what you think is best for YOU. If you don't feel an abortion is right for you then ignore those remarks. So rude.

I got pregnant at 17 and my daughters bio dad left when she was about 2 months old. He saw her once on her 1st birthday and then went back to his own life. He hasn't seen her since, she will be 6 years old in April.

I got pregnant again at 19 with a man I had just started seeing. He told me to get an abortion, I said no. He never talked to me again (other than asking if I had stretch marks and saying it's not fair that I'm pregnant, because I'll get fat). I updated him throughout my pregnancy just in case he decided that he wanted to be a dad. Didn't happen lol. He has never seen or talked to my son. My son will be 4 in April.

Neither bio dad has any involvement in their lives. No calls, no visits, nothing, by their own choice.