I dont see it as caring too much becuase it started the minute we moved in. Fil never really wanted anything to do ds. He seriously thought that it was up to dh and I to make sure that he had a relationship with ds. He only saw ds when we'd go to fil and fil would never come to our house unless it was to use the pool.

He went from wanting nothing to do with ds to trying to parent in a blink of an eye.

No one should make fun of anyone over there weight. Sorry your going through that. As far as the other stuff you should talk to him about that as well as letting him know that his comments about you personally, bother you.