Husband problems
So just beware this will be kinda long but will do my best to make it short. My husband is a good man but he is driving me crazy. He stays at home(online minister), we have no kids & I work full time. in January I took a job as a pharmacy tech trainee with his brothers wife(shes an RPh) at their business. My husband was so upset that I took the job. He doesn't like his brother much and was really mad at me for taking the job. I know how he felt about me taking it but I still did for the sake of our finances. The job I was at was cutting my hours after new management and I couldn't pay all the bills with the pay. I was looking for other places but hadn't found anything so I took that job. Everything was good but now things are not! Was told I would be getting certain things during the job but was lied to and learned that in the long run. So anyways, my husband leaves everything to me! pay bills, make phone calls, cleaning, pretty much everything. I just don't feel like it's fair that he relies so much on me to take care of everything and he is at home all day and has plenty of free time. He complains I'm not an obedient wife and don't listen. I don't understand I go to work and do all of this and this is what I get! I'm very unhappy and think I could possibly be getting depressed. I just took a job with my old boss and getting paid way better than what I was before I left and better than what I'm getting now. So now I don't have to worry so much about money again! I have weekends off and every weekend we are arguing. I never have a weekend that doesn't have at least 1 argument. Sometimes he says things to me that make me believe that he will be leaving me. But I can't be too sure on it. I'm like if it's the case why doesn't he leave then or divorce me? I don't like living in this. He always has to point out any flaws I have and I know what my flaws are cuz he repeatedly tells me and I'm tired of hearing them. He has flaws too!!! Why should I have to come home and pay bills or get up extra early just to go pay them? Why do I have to come home and clean the house when he's been here all day? If I keep making mistakes or am disobedient then why don't you just do them yourself if you know your going to be disappointed by me? Why continue all of this? Im sorry, I know this was probably super long and thanks for reading this far! I just needed to vent.
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Thanks girls! I understand we can all be selfish at times and want things our way or whatever the case may be but I am willing to work through our problems but I highly doubt I could get him to go to marriage counseling. I will try to talk to him about that.
Sounds useless I would not stand for this at all things should be 50/50 I think he's living in a different time zone men need to realise woman aren't there to do everything round the house and with him not working wots he doing with his time if your working and he's at home doing nothing that's just taking the pee muck in or I would be setting some rules or get rid cause we woman are strong and in the long run if you work par time you can get all the help of the government
Look up narcissistic personality disorder. Does that fit him?
You don't have to wait for him to leave. You can leave him. It's okay to take care of yourself and child first. The fighting and stress aren't fair to either of you and in the long run your kids are likely to seek out the same relationships when they are older.
Sending prayers♡
Oh Hun I feel your pain. Sometimes the truth hurts but we always need someone who is not going to sugar coat so here it goes. Please do not take offense because none of this is your fault.
1. The fact that he leaves everything up to means that he wants someone to take care of him but is that fair to you? If your busy stressing taking care of him then who's taking care of you?.
2. There is a lack of appreciation in the relationship. He should be meeting you half way with the financial status versus burdening you with them.
3. You sound like a good woman and if you love him maybe you guys can try counceling.
4. NO ONE IS EVER WORTH DEMOLISHING YOUR HAPPINESS.
I really hope this helps and gives you motivation for strength.
He's always voiced his opinions but it seems as though it got worse when he started the ministry. And he says things to me and it really hurts. Im sad all the time. I constantly put a fake smile on and try to be happy. Its easier when Im at work cuz Im not around him. I try really hard to do things right for both of us. But somehow it always blows up in my face.
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his response was why is everyone deciding or making choices for you and their going to do the same with the baby, when I know that's not true. what he thinks is that my mom tells me not to sleep over. So he left all mad. and I felt in my heart that he went on and cheated on me...
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Umm just the word disobedient isn't right you aren't his dog or child you should be equals in a marriage