mother Has anyone else's mom thrown a fit about the names you picked out for your baby ? My mom has…
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Has anyone else's mom thrown a fit about the names you picked out for your baby ? My mom has made it a competition in her head between her and my in laws and it's driving me nuts , I've told her several times that we are decided on our names and they aren't changing , and she keeps trying and now she's made it about my childhood , and decided since my in laws are excited that they are suddenly her enemy and will get in her way of seeing my baby when it arrives all because of the names we have chosen. I'm so irritated that she won't listen to me and is making a huge deal out of nothing. What do I do ?
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You make it known that this is YOUR addition to YOUR family - it's not about your mom OR the in laws and they need to respect your wishes and honestly just tell your mom to keep in mind that the day you have your baby is the biggest day in your life thus far & to please keep the peace or you won't be able to have anyone at the hospital (& same for the inlaws)
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So my mom was the same way with my wedding, my DD pregnancy and birth. I am an only child so you can imagine her focus was entirely on me. It drove me absolutely insane, I would fight and argue but it didn't change anything except stress me out. With that being said, I lost my mom this past April and I would do anything for her to be driving me absolutely bananas. So try (I know it's so hard) to remember somewhere deep down it is coming out of love and try and change the topics instead of battling back! Good Luck!
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This is why we won't share our names until the baby is born... it's also exciting to keep it a surprise'
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Wow. My best advice is to not play into it. When she launches into her sob story, say something like I've explained to you that we are not changing the names and my in-laws have no interest in coming between you and my child. Then change the subject. If she can't let it go, the conversation is over.
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I get asked everyday about names take your time it's definitely your choice whether one party or the other gets annoyed stand with what you and dad choose.
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The Best advice i can say is pray on it and you will get a better result but don't feed into none since it's not health for your baby so think of your baby first
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That's how it was with us last time, everyone judged us about the names we picked and offered different names and it would piss me off so much like that's not gonna be your kid so it's shouldn't even freaking matter but it still hurt because we had picked them with so much love that when they started disliking the names we had picked it broke my heart,.. that's why this time we aren't saying anything until we find out the gender or even later than that because I don't want to go through it again .. but your mom should understand that your in laws didn't have to do anything with the name you guys picked because just like she picked your name with your dad, you wanna do the same with your kids and it's not your fault that your in laws like the name more than she does but good luck in making a mother understand lol I've been there and it's not easy lol
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Tell her it's not up for discussion and the subject is closed. Refuse to engage on the topic. Remind her that stress is not good for her grandchild. This is why we keep the name quiet. Someone always has an unnecessary opinion!
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We just don't tell names. Then people can't try to "help" us change our minds.