Don't know what to do. I'm due with my son this month. Everyone expects me to get a tubal ligation but I'm scared to…

Make sure you really think about it sweetness I have to get one I'm only pregnant with my 2 and only 21 but with both I'd had so many problems my Dr told me that my body simply can't handle pregnancy and if I was to have another it wouldn't make it and a possibility that I wouldn't either I'm devastated that I can't have anymore and that I have to do this but you have a choice and make sure you make the right one for you its your and your SO choice dont let anyone make it for you or you'll regret it

Unless your ? sure don't do it. You don't know how you will be affected by the decision after. It's something that you yourself have to be ready for dispite what your family may think . It's really none of their business ! Im waiting for someone to suggest I do it after this baby so I can tell them until they're opinions can pay my bills I suggest they zip it up nice and tight ?. When your ready trust me you will know and be ready Good luck ❤️

I was set to have a tubal after my 4th kid. I have to have csections and I was told, by family, I shouldn't have anymore. Well, it ended up where there was a mix up in the paperwork. I was happy because I knew I didn't want to go through with it. I ended up getting pregnant with my 5th and decided I wanted to be done. I decided....not my family. Now I have my 5 awesome kids and am fixed and have zero regrets. I look at my 5 month old and it makes me sad I almost never got to meet him because I listened to what others said.

If you're not sure...dont do it. Because once it's done....its done. Besides, who are they to say how many kids you can or cannot have?

Why is it anyone else's business what you do with your uterus? I'd be telling my mom and sister to back the eff off

Don't listen to them! I'm 28 and everyone wanted me to do it after #3. I couldn't imagine not having my two youngest... and super excited about the one on the way ☺️

If you aren't 100 % sure, don't do it.

Also... tell your family to stop being weird and talking about your insides bc seriously.... not cool haha

If you are having ANY doubts... dont do it.

There are a millions different types of birth control you can try.

Plus getting your tubes tied isn't 100%

And I've heard it makes you have extremely heavy and painful periods.

Why is your baby making any of their business???

I'd tell them to F off, your body your choice and they can go play in traffic if they don't like it...

I'd wait op, your going to find an amazing guy who'll love and cherish both you and your baby, then you'll wanna have one with him.

Just use condoms and bc.

No one is the boss of your body but you. If you're having doubts, don't do it. They can suck it.

Don't get it! If you had previously considered another baby, before you were single, then don't get it. You might want a baby later.

I was the same way when I had my daughter in 2012. I even made the appointment but it never felt right. I didn't want anymore kids. I didn't show up to the appointment and I'm glad I didn't. I ended up divorcing and met my husband in 2014. At first we didn't want kids but changed our minds. Well, we got married this past June and got pregnant 3 days after the wedding lol. We didn't think we'd get pregnant this quick! Do what you feel is right for you and don't worry about pleasing others.

You can always just lie and tell them you got it done to keep the judgment away. Not like they can check or anything lol.

I will say I debated a lot going into my 4th c-section but I was really scared to get it done as I'm only 30. I left it up to the surgeon I told him if it looked like I shouldn't have anymore children to do it. He said I am a rare fantastic healer and cleared me for a 5th if I wanted and that he wasn't touching my tubes.

I don't regret not getting it done but I do live in a constant state of paranoia that I will get pregnant again lol.

But like goldi said, if you aren't sure just don't.

I'm the same. I don't think I want anymore but I do know I don't want to make anything permanent.

I agree with @goldi

@Goldi

You're right about that! Before I knew he was a piece of shat I was considering one more.

ETA: Im just gonna have the baby and if they ask afterward I'll then say I changed my mind. I just want them to leave me alone right now.

Your mom and sister need to mind their own Fallopian tubes and not be concerned with yours.

You're "done now" because you're single. If your ex wasn't a total piece of s*** , you were still together, and everything was going great, would you still be "done"?

If you have any doubt don't do it. You can get it any time.

And my mom and sister keep asking if I signed the paperwork already to get it. I lied and said yes to get them off my back ?

The end of pregnancy has its own roller coaster of emotions and hormones. I'd wait. If you're not absolutely sure then there's no reason NOT to just wait. Use another form or two of birth control.

I had it done because I knew I was done. Even so I mourned what could have been.

There was no way physically I could have carried another child.

I talked to my doctor and that's what he said too. I'm just scared and want to be 100% sure that I'm making the right decision but I can't decide. Ugh...

ETA: Its like I know I'm done but what if?

Don't do it. That's something that should only be done when you're 1000000% sure it's what you want.