Family always help out family in need, its not his nephews fault that their parents are messed up and someone needs to be the role model,

I can't imagine wanting to be with someone who could easily kick his young nephews or nieces to the roadside just so his missuz can have the house to herself and only deal with her household.

Let me put it this way, what if those nephews were your biological nephews and your husband told you thats not our job to take care of them and we shouldn't need to so get rid of them, i want them out of our house and i don't care where they go, they just need to be out... i'm sure you'd be pissed off at that unacceptable attitude/behaviour.

Hubby's family always help one another out no matter what or how inconvenient it can be, thats just how it should be.

Remember that saying you don't just marry your spouse,you marry the family too. When you choose to settle down with your partner, you accept his family too whether you like them or not. If he is an elder son or one of the more responsible siblings in his family, he sees it as his duty to help out when noone else will so that his nephews learn what proper parenting and behaviour should be, not kick them to the roadside and let them turn into dysfunctional people

I definitely understand && I'm so glad you got to talk to him and try to work things out... Our hormones can definitely make us go extra crazy but your feelings are not all wrong.... It sucks that this burden has been put on you guys and let me tell you bless your heart you are a strong woman and those kids will definitely appreciate all you do for them. Not every woman who gives birth is a mother but you know men don't process things the way we woman do... So maybe give him a little time... I'm 36 weeks we just started buying baby stuff and I'm flipping at him to put together all their things and hubby is like... "But she not here yet".....I'm like SHE CAN COME ANY DAY SWEETHEART ITS BEST TO ALREADY BE PREPARED!! lol and he is just like what's the big deal smh.... Just make sure he has things planned for when baby does come as far as baby sitting.... I really have no advice for the dead beat mom.... Smh Your hubby should definitely have a talk with her about her responsibility

I agree him doing this for them is the right thing, but putting our children off isnt ok with me. And i honestly dont mind having them, just not so close to due date. The unfortunate part is his mom lives with his sister and when we dont have the kids his mom does, who already is dealing with a very rare form of cancer. So he takes the kids more as a favor for his mom (again i think is amazing he does for her) but just not while its getting so close to due date. I have cooled down some so i realize in ways im being selfish to the kids, and in ways justified. I talked to his mom today about my frustrations, she is going to talk with their mom and have came to an agreement i am willing to watch them during the day where i can call whoever to pick them up but after tonight no overnights til baby gets here. And to give me a week after baby is born for recovery and to get settled in. I get so frustrated, cause like his sister who is now my age we both had kids at 16, she kept her son and i tried to keep mine but when he was 3 i realized i wasnt ready to grow up and my parents adopted him and his sister who was 6 months. I just cant stand that she is so selfish and cant do whats right, and instead is planning on another child that I WILL HAVE TO RAISE!!! I love these kids but it makes it real hard when they arent my own and ims trying to start my family. I didnt have my 2 boys now until i knew i was ready to grow up. I think more than anything im just ready for this baby to be born, and am to that frustrated point. I just needed to rant. I still got this alone feeling with my husband, and hope he will start taking some time to focus on our kids and i just for the next 3 weeks is all i ask. Once baby is here and we get settled i hope he brings them. I just need the extra help right now and without him being able to focus on us is what hurts and kills me although i know he means well

Mrs. Pagan you sound horrible saying remove yourself and don't worry about innocent children... Regardless if he fathered them or not those kids clearly only have him.... Which might be a hassle but can you imagine being a child and you see your own mother leave you behind && now you have someone else's trying to pawn them off or leave them like trash... Could you look at him like a man afterwards? Not saying OP is... She says she watches them all the time but you sound extremely heartless

She definitely sounds like a extremely bad mother but what can he do? Can the grandmother take them? Where/who do you expect him to give or drop the kids off too? Was there a agreement about watching them first? It seems like the kids are more safe with you guys then her. && I disagree with the lady who posted below my first response... A blended family means blended regardless if it's from a spouse or inside a family... My mother gave my sister up when she had her... Wanted to put her up for adoption but my aunt took my sister in... She grew up around her nieces but once she was old enough my aunt told her the truth... I would have never known my sister if it wasn't for my aunt.. && my aunt could have very much saved my sister from a rough childhood by taking her in... I understand where you coming from but those kids are innocent try sitting down and talking to him too see if there are any other options for the kids.. But you hubby seems like a wonderful man to step up and take care of two kids that aren't his own.... Just means he will love you guys baby just as much if not even more! I wish you luck

BTW i am in no way judging you please know that. You obviously are very compassionate since you have watched them and cared for them this long. That is a real stand up thing you and your husband did. I was just offering the other side. Love and light my dear and i hope everything works out.

Please i know you are hormonoal and honestly calling your selfish right now isn't fair but these children have NOBODY. Its hard but one day you will be thankful you did it! Be who these children need! I dunno i was that kid when i was little and my parents had a drinking problem. I always felt unwanted and like a burden to family members who took me in but im grateful they did.... I know its hard but just think about all the extra help you will have when the baby comes.

I just feel bad for the kids

Yeah if all else fails remove yourself. Do your own thing when you're home. Not your problem! He feels so obligated to take care of kids he had no part in making then Okay! Have at it hubs!!! Not your problem. Sounds like everyone is taking advantage of your kindness. Screw that. I'd be flipping my ish!

Totally disagree with first reply. Sorry but why have children if ur gna palm them off onto someone else? Ur fully pregnant I would not be looking after someone else's kids, let ur husband deal with them!

My apologies for this rant, if his sister was to be working and i watching her kids it would be one thing, but she is a sorry pos who does nothing but party all the time, making it our problem. I have expressed my feelings about her and how she is acting as a mother, and she just freaks out like a teenager. As for my husband he also acts like a child when i express my feelings. I think im just overly tired and annoyed. I wouldn't mind watching them on the days she worked and for 8 hrs. But everyday???

I totally disagree with the pp... It isnt selfish of you at all. It's nice and all of him to be so willing to help others even though you're doing most of the work but it isn't okay to put them before you or your kids. When he married you, and you had children then you and them become his family, his top priority. Not nephews. The mother needs to be a mother and take care of her own kids, find her own daycare and not expect you to keep watching them while you're giving birth and enjoying a newborn. It's supposed to be special and sacred to bond together so you're going to have to put your foot down. The main people he should be worried about are his pregnant wife and his kids. Period. A blended family is when you marry someone and you both have kids from previous relationships and not nephews and other relatives. He probably doesn't think you're serious or thinks he can just run things but no- you have more power than you think and he should understand as your husband that this is a private time. Hope it works out girl...

I think that's selfish of you... Those are his nephews... There his blood... I love my nieces like there my own. Why don't the mother have her kids? Maybe suggest hiring a baby sitter or talk to the mother depending on what the situation is as to watching them while your in birth. I'm pretty sure the kids can't be present while you do actually start to push but afterwards I'm pretty sure there allowed to visit. My hubby won't be staying the night because we have our son but when I'm in labor we do have a baby sitter. It seems like you have a blended family and you need to respect that there his family and that there going to be around. If my nieces need token care of I would take them in without hesitation... Pregnant and all. You find a way to make it work