Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday when he was dropping me off his like sleep over at my house witch the mom and dad lives. I said no, his response was why is everyone deciding or making choices for you and their going to do the same with the baby, when I know that's not true. what he thinks is that my mom tells me not to sleep over. So he left all mad. and I felt in my heart that he went on and cheated on me and did something else with an other girl.... and it's 10:51 am now and he hasn't texted me at all. and after he dropped me off I texted him saying what I felt and nothing. I don't know if I'm over reacting or what or what should i do. do i wait until he text me?
Does your baby father tell you what time to be home like have a curfew ? Because really I'm not a child and I'm not going out drinking or partying it was a child play day and unplanned so of course I didn't wash the dishes if I had known I would of cleaned in advance and cooked but seriously he took it too personal saying I'm in the street all day and it's the last time I do this really do I look ten years old to him ?
Before anyone says anything. I was right there with him it wasn't deep yes it has two little holes in it bc of our cat. But he loved the pool for the first time! The ones with his shirt off wasnt the whole time he was out there we didn't stay out long bc of not having sunscreen and it was 91°
Ok, so my friend is wanting to get pregnant but..... Her fiancé does not want kids, at lease for another 3-5 years he said... so she came up with the idea to have me pee on a stick for her and show it to him so that he’ll be comfortable with not wearing a condom and finishing in her.. basically the whole idea is to make him think she’s pregnant already...... so I do this favor for her or should I tell my girl to chill? He and my husband are friends through us and he’s going to invite him over tonight and run it by him...
So over this feeling! Ever since I've had ds, OH and I have fought my mother on not wanting to give ds a dummy just cause we don't like them and find he self soothes. For the past three times my mother has had him, she has gone against our rule and given him a dummy and of course I spoke to her about it (that's all my knowledge on how many times she's done it). On Sunday we celebrated my stepfathers birthday and due to OH working I had to do it alone which isn't the thing that bothered me. The thing that bothered me was no matter what I said regarding ds I wasn't listened to. I told my mother to sit behind ds if she was going to sit him up on the floor as he hasn't got the whole balance thing down pact but she didn't and then ds falls and starts crying cause he hurt himself, I picked him up and my mother just came and took him off me! I told her he can't forward face yet as he is below the shoulder line in order to forward face but they did anyway. I get it's her first grandchild and she's excited but I never got to share the news about ds's first tooth or his first attempt at crawling to the family because she already done it. Yes I know, I probably sound petty asf! I had to repeatedly ask my mother to take me and ds home as he was tired and close to the over tired stage. On the way home ds fell asleep, luckily I was sitting beside him and looked at him cause he had fallen asleep and had his head facing down so I quickly grabbed his head and held it up till we got home.
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Chels4, it's heartbreaking! Glad our littles are okay though. His level was 8 today which they're happy with.
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My baby girl was 15.4 we had do do that also it was so rough so happy it's over!
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Sweetness, glad I'm not the only one over here crying about everything! I cried when I had a spinal headache and it hurt me to sit up and feed him, I cried the first time they said I couldn't go home because of preeclampsia, I cried when they said he had to stay under the lamp for a night and I cried when he would get blindfolded and go under there. A lot of crying haha.
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I'm so sorry you're having to go through this just know that it will get better soon and u will have your sweet boy in your arms at home with you ? I am thinking of you, stay strong
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Aww mama it will be okay. I got scared my little one was at 11. But they did blood work and that came back normal, so she just has to follow up with pediatrician. They reminded me how it's pretty common that babies have high jaundice. We just have to be positive. I totally understand the crying feeling. I been a mess! I cry so much. It hurt when I see she crying and I can't do anything about it. It's just our hormones...
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Awe sending prayers and love your way! Hey dont feel horrible for the paci, you gotta do what you gotta do, you got this momma, stay strong
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Thanks ladies! He's gotten used to it more I think and cries less so it makes it a little easier.
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Just be strong for him boo boo?
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I am so sorry. I hope his levels drop fast and he gets used to being on the outside soon. Try not to worry too much about the paci if you can. It really is soothing to them and my daughter went straight for them but nursed like a champ too. It's never all or nothing. Hope you get some relief soon. ??
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Mine has blocked me and all of my friends on social media.... because apparently that will stop child support papers from coming ?
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I feel terrible for you girl. You've had a hell of a few days. :(
Hopefully this is very temporary and he will be home soon.
Try not to stress about the paci. We started one on night one with my daughter and she nursed fine for a year. I gave my son one on day two this time and he's doing great with latching and feeding too. The soothies that you are using are the best for breastfed babies, IMO.
Sending you lots of good vibes to get out of there soon with a healthy baby.
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I'm sorry, that has to be hard... There are SO many things I didn't think i would ever do as a mom. I have a 4.5 and 2.5yr old now and I can assure you a pacifier if he needs it will not ruin anything!! They only need someone who loves them and provides for them... and you're doing that PERFECTLY!
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Ashly, I have not heard from his father. I did hear that he got his leaving base privileges revoked for not checking out vehicles properly and apparently he was out all night until the next day. So I asked what he could possibly be doing out all night and I guess the only thing he could be doing is at a Kurdish brothel. He's disgusting.
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Thanks for all the kind words and reassurance! I know he will be okay and I guess it is better to do this now than to wait and they end up elevated and I can't have a bed to stay with him in the hospital. I just hate not being able to hold him. I can only hold him every two-three hours for 30 minutes when I feed him.
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My second daughter had to be under bili light for 48hrs and had a blood transfusion. Her bilirubin levels were 32 when I brought her back to the hospital the day after slew went home. Your numbers are so low that I know he's going to be alright!! It's stressful, but only temporary.
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Don't be too hard on yourself. He will be just fine and he wont need pacifiers just because you wanted to sooth him this time. I know its hard. I cried when they gave my son his vaccines last time. You are going to be emotional and i think you are handling all this wonderfully. Positive thoughts to you and your sweet baby boy.
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My hospital doesn't do lights until 18. It should clear up fast!! My daughters was 8.. then 12.. then 14.. then dropped back down with just a little sunlight
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I went through this with my first. Do they have the biliblanket where you can wrap him up to nurse & cuddle? We wound up having to give my son a bottle of formula and I was devastated at the time, but it did help flush his system. Just try to nurse him as much as possible to get lots of dirty diapers! Best of luck, everything will work out!
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Remember back to the very beginning and I'm sure you had moments of "I'll never get through this" and you did, with style and grace that that loads of us from all over the world admire, and you'll get through this. You made a beautiful and strong little boy, and together you'll conquer anything!
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I know this doesn't help right now.... but soon this will be a distant memory and you will be home with your sweet baby boy. Take it hour by hour! You can do this!???
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I'm sorry it's been tough and it's not how you imagined. But you're doing an amazing job and you'll have him home before you know it! Stay strong! Xxxxx ❤️❤️
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Have you heard anything from the dad? I'm curious to see if my douche will try to contact me, however, I'm most certain he won't.
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I'm so sorry! I went through that with my first so I know how hard it is! Hang in there mama, pretty soon you will be able to take him home!!!
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One suggestion that worked for me to avoid pacis was to use my knuckle to sooth baby. Some nurses would do it with a glove on if they needed to soothe baby without a paci. No nipple confusion and it helps. Just a suggestion
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Aww I'm sorry! You're doing a great job and he's going to do great!
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You're doing great momma and doing an amazing job protecting him!!
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That's no fun, you'll get through this mama.