Single mom to be Hi, this is my first time posting in here! I've been scrolling through and reading some of your stories…

Shaina, neither can I. But, oh well. You can't force someone to do something they have no interest in, etc... I truly hope the father of your little bean comes around and steps up!

But you sound like a truly amazing woman, so I have no doubt in my mind that you will be able to do this on your own ?

I really don't understand how any man can make a baby and not step up to be there. Mine might eventually come around but I'll still never really forgive him for the way he's treated me.

Ah men, they're great aren't they? My baby's father is on active duty and is currently on deployment and will be for the whole of my pregnancy.

I was seeing him and only him for almost a year, and I know he was only seeing me too! We had a mutual "relationship" he knew my feelings for him and I knew his feelings for me.

When I told him I was pregnant, he ignored me, pretended he didn't know who it was that got in contact with him (I tried to do it face to face, but by the end of our relationship, I didn't want to see him and neither did he) then blocked me off of Facebook, instagram, snapchat and what ever else, frankly I'm not fussed about any of that.

I'm glad though that from the start of all of this, he wasn't some a****** and insulted me but he didn't want me to keep the baby. And I did think about it, but I couldn't live with myself if I went through with it. This baby was made out of consent, a (happy) mistake but consent nonetheless so I would never be able to bring myself to abort.

So time went on, I told him I was pregnant when I was only a few weeks into it. I'm now 17w5d and received a message from him asking me how certain I was that the baby was his.. ? I told him that it was a stupid question to ask, and he should know this already! But anyway, he finally acknowledge that he was a s*** ty person for leaving me on my own and apologised. I still have hope that when he comes back from being overseas that we can maybe work this out, I've come to the realisation that I love him and have loved him for a long time.. But I'm more than ready to do this on my own!

Single parents raise awesome little beans any way! ☺️

Suzie, as will you! I'm glad to be a part of a group of amazing women. ❤️

You will do an amazing job on your own, it will be hard but you will get through it.. double the kisses double the hugs and double the love

Suzie, I tried sending my sperm donor pics when I found out it was a boy and nothing. Screw him.

Hate all these men with their double standards.. I'm gonna be a single mum too I told him and he wants nothing to do with it said I tried to trap him cause I got pregnant so soon after a mc we were together just not officially if you know what I mean.. I'm looking forward to doing it all on my own now at the start I was scared i was gonna fail as a mum but Il be fine I have no man to tell me what way to bring MY child up

Shannon, hopefully he will offer some kind of support!

Shanita, of course! I'll be in Virginia early January.

I can relate on some levels. I just found out I'm pregnant and the father of the child and I broke up in December and he moved back home to Oregon. ( I live in Florida ) I haven't told him yet and I'm 5wks 3 days

You are not along I have a daughter from a previous relationship and he is a great father now I'm pregnant again not by the same person and I have not seen or talk to him sense I told him I was pregnant that was about 4 weeks ago and now I am 10 weeks I think they are scared and I suggested a DNA test as well. But don't worry yourself about him because in the end he will realize how wrong he is and want to be around. I have washed my hands with my child's father and once the baby is born I do not want him around and do a half ass job. I can be mom and dad if need be and I stay in DC so we not that far from each I'm here if you need some support.

Nina, I thought about abortion too. I'm not morally opposed to women getting abortions. I just didn't feel like I could do it! I know we are both strong women and we can do this though. Won't be easy, but it will be worth it in the end.

Allaboutme, I'm due June 20th!

This is my first too and I'll be s single parent.. My piece of crap of s sprem donor tried to get me to abort not gonna lie I thought about it but I just could not do it.. He also said that this wasn't his baby too that he was in love with someone else blah blah all kind of excuses to try to make me abort my baby.. He's been chasing me for about 3 years finally got me said he wanted another kid and to marry me but when I ended up pregnant the kid isn't his ??? my family and close friends are my biggest supporters I know it won't be easy but I don't even wanna deal with him at all.. I'm almost 10 weeks by the way hoping for a baby girl ??

@shaina I'm due June 15th. What about you?

Same here!!!! It's crazy, I'm still killing it pregnant & I'm sure you will too ? we're badass women, we got this ??

K_henry, for sure! I'm sure when the time is right I will meet another man who is more than willing to fill his role. I've actually had offers but I'm like nah, just because I'm going to be a single mother isn't going to make me desperate lol.

Try not to be too upset about the fact he's not going to be around. From what I've gathered from my experience & other single moms, it's better to not have the father around. And they won't miss what they don't know!

I know, my sperm donor was an abusive alcoholic who cheated on me & physically assaulted me while pregnant & somehow it was my fault ? dumbasses. We're way better off without them.

Nope! This is my first!

Thanks k_henry! I was shocked, I couldn't believe his audacity. I still can't believe some people won't take responsibility for their actions and blame it on others. I mean I hated the fact he lied to me repeatedly and made me into the side chick without me knowing or consenting, but I still tried to be civil with him and fair. But it is what it is! His loss, not mine.

Glad to see someone else who has served in the military :) did you have any children while you were in?

Welcome!

It's so funny that he's the one cheating on his live-in girlfriend but you're the slut ? men are so damn stupid.

I was AD Air Force for 5 years and am due next month. Love your tattoos! ❤️

Tati, it is my first! So I have no idea what to expect. I imagine it's a lot tougher when you are going to have more than one. You got this mama!

Your not alone . My story is exactly the same !! I work with this guy too and I found out I was pregnant but it's worse he didn't tell me he had a gf but that he was married . I know how you feel. He's not going to help much either because he just had a baby last month. He said the same thing he will help me financially. At first I had thought about aborting it but I just couldn't do it. So here I am 11weeks 5 days. Reading your story and seeing how strong and positive you are and so confident about doing it on your own is beautiful. Good for you. Is this your first?? This would be my 2nd I have a 3 year old and I'm so scared .

Allaboutme248 thanks! When are you due? And it would be nice if he did, but I've prepared myself for the worst.

Welcome shainaboop, we're in the June 2017 group together too. Anyways good luck with your situation. Hopefully he will come around and be the father he's supposed to be.