I had a emergency c section with my oldest. It was the worst experience I ever had. I had the choice for vbac with my dd but got preeclampsia and have a planed c section at 32w it was a better experience for me because I knew what to expect and I was ready to met my lil fighter. My thrid was another planed c section because I had to be put on the drip because I had no fluids around baby he had no room to move. I did a lot better with him thsn my other two. Of course sex has been good for ud we on our fourth baby. Due 12/13 but I will be having a plan c section on Nov. 24 because I chose to. I wouldn't have my baby any other way.

As for the milk thing some women milk just don't come it. My milk was in two days after each c section. I never gave my ds a bottle he was straight breastfeed and my milk was always enough until milk came in. They tell that lie about you have to bottle so the baby don't lose weight when the truth is baby lose weight before they gain it not much just a few oz.

I had her on 8/26 and had some leaking of colostrum prior to surgery. As of today even with trying to get her to breast feed to stimulate my supply to come in, only a few drops from each breast were there. Definitely not enough to feed a baby. She is already downing more than 50 ml of formula per sitting and being at my Breast just frustrates her because she sucks and sucks and nothing comes out. I don't think my supply will come in this far past delivery. This was another one of my fears. :( we are still trying but at this point I am not very hopeful.

Just because you have a c section doesn't mean your milk won't come in.. Some do come in late.. But not always.. With my son my milk was in on day 4 ... With my daughter my milk was in within 24 hrs

You may want to seek a counselor asap. The feelings you have combined with hormone drops could be bad news. Your feelings are understandable but need to be worked through. Esp if you want more children in the future. Good luck and enjoy your baby!

Congratulations on the safe arrival of your daughter. I hope your recovery goes well and that you eventually find peace with the way she arrived into the world. You are both safe and that's what matters most.

Update: I had my baby Aug. 26th via c-section.

I was (still am) terrified despite every effort my medical team has done to console my fears.

My SO was with me the entire time, I had my anesthesiologist next to me the entire time who also offered to give me anti anxiety meds as soon as they pulled my daughter from my body.

My blood pressure at the time

Of surgery was so high I required the mag sulfate drip which made me feel awful. Because of this my daughter had a hard time catching her first breath and they had to work on her pretty hard to get her breathing. That was the most terrifying part, laying on the table not being able to move to help your child breathe and being completely helpless to help them. Finally after what seemed like forever she screamed and I broke down In tears. My anesthesiologist then offered me anxiety meds and I asked her for a smaller dose so I could remember seeing my child in recovery.

The next few hours after that I don't remember much. I spent a while in recovery with my little family but because of the mag drip I can't remember much after they took me to my room. They had me on a 24 hour epidural as well as mag and kept having to turn my body every two hours and mash on my stomach for bleeding. Which is so painful.

That night I wasn't allowed to see my daughter because I still couldn't move. Finally Tuesday afternoon they were able to take me off the epi and mag and remove my catheter and move me into another room on the unit. I still couldn't remember much and everything made me nauseous. After all the drugs wore off they put me on Percocet and percodan with Motrin and more blood pressure medication because after the mag drip it was still unstable.

I didn't have any bleeding for several days. I was supposed to go home with my baby Thursday but Wednesday night I was feeding her and I felt a pain a pop and a large gush of fluid which was all blood. It looked like a murder scene. So I had to stay an extra day for increased pain and delayed bleeding.

Today I am supposed to be released and my daughter is doing great. We do have to see a specialist because she was breech her hips aren't quite developed like they should be so we have to double diaper her and get a sling/brace to realign her hips so she will not walk with a limp in the future.

I am lucky but having a tough time emotionally over this surgery. After I came out and could remember the nurses told me that because of the way she was positioned the doctor did a bikini cut for cosmetic reasons but had to cut my uterus vertically to reach her so even if my insurance at some point covered VBACs and I wanted more children, the only way I can ever deliver again is through c-section and i am still having serious trouble emotionally digesting the surgery that happened on top of this. I will recover, it's just going to take a lot of time and my beautiful daughter is helping me in my recovery she is amazing and I love her with every fiber of my being.

Oh honey I know exactly how you feel. I felt the same way you did. I spent many a night crying over my fear of it. I had a csection because of a breach baby also. The worst part of the whole procedure was them trying to get the spinal in. They tried 4 times and it didn't work so they had to put me completely under. I didn't see my son until 4 hours later but as soon as I did they put him skin to skin and started breastfeeding immediately. My sex drive was nonexistent while pregnant and after I was soooo ready for some lovin. Maybe I have a high pain tolerance but I didn't use any of the Vicodin they had on the iv and I used maybe one or two pain pills the whole time. The best Advice I got was to get up and move as soon as you feel ready. It helps the healing process a lot. I was up that night walking around my room a little and when my ivs and catheter came out i was so ready to go hkme. Talk to your dr about your concerns and don't be afraid to ask questions.

I had my 3rd c section last Friday! I had a great experience with all of them I would much rather have a c section then vaginal by far!!! Everything was soooo easy!! No pain at ALL! Just tugging here n there right after c section u get to see ur baby then after ur all stitched up and in recovery room they give u ur baby I had no problems nursing my baby or my milk coming in....I was up walking the next morning and feeling great a little sore but pain meds helped with that best thing to do is get up and start movin as soon as u can REALLY helps the healing to get up and walk worse pain I had from my experience was gas pain it's been a week and I have NO pain at all I feel great I often forget I have incision!! I can tell u from my experience that it's deff not as bad as everyone makes it sound everyone I kno thats had c section would much rather have c section over vaginal! Don't worry everything will go good for u and ur little one!!! Best of luck and congrats! Enjoy every min of ur birth and ur little one! Its such a beautiful moment and special time in life!! Best feelin in world to hear ur lo cry as soon as he's/she's born! ???????

Trust me, love, you will bond with your baby the minute you hear her first cry. It's hard to imagine, but take it from someone who had a weird experience, emergency c section, and an awful feeling I wouldn't be able to bond with my son. My doctor was actually singing while cutting me open, it was really really strange. Besides him being super comfortable, yep, it was freezing, but my anesthesiologist was so caring! He brought me super warm blankets and stroked my hair until I calmed down. It was scary, but it wasn't a nightmare like you're preparing for. Also, don't be afraid that you won't bond, it's all so different when they're actually in your arms. I can't even explain the love that grows, and just keeps growing. Breast feeding isn't really hard either after a c section, takes practice, but it's possible. My milk took about four days to come in, during that time he was formula fed but there was no nipple confusion. I think it's good that you're preparing for the worst, cause its not even a tiny bit like you're imagining. You're gonna have a wonderful experience! Can't wait to see how it all turns out for you. Btw, I'm also a first time mom, if you ever wanna talk. :)

I had an emergency c-section, I had no time to prep mental and I was terrified. I honestly don't remember anything other then shaking uncontrollably, but my husband (after they remembered to get him) was there when they pulled out our baby. He went with while the measured her and what not then carried her back and held her by my head while they stitched me up. Once in recovery they put her right on me for skin to skin and I got to hold her the whole time there and up to our room. She was 5 weeks early but very healthy. I don't remember this, this is what my husband has told me. I was so scared during that I don't remember anything from that, and I was so drugged up after that I don't remember the first week. But as far as I know everything went well. My doc also told me that I am a candidate for vbac for our next baby, in fact she said there's no reason I couldn't have one. Vbacs are more safe then repeat c-sections so you might what to check into those policies in your insurance. For me it wasn't the actual c-section that scared me, it was that I had never staied in a hospital, never been admitted into a hospital, have never had surgery, never had an iv, never had any of this stuff and that's why I was so scared, especially with it being an emergency so I didn't have time to mentally prepare myself. It's really not all that bad, and after its mostly just annoying with the restrictions you have fire the first while.

I didn't get to the end but I will tell you this:

It's not cold, and yes you're numb but its a warm fuzzy feeling. I loved it! I thought it would

Be cold and nasty but its the opposite! I started shaking because that's how I was reacting to the medicine but they just covered me with warm blankets. It's not really that horrible.

Oh sweetie, I am so sorry to hear your story :( I hope you find some peace in whatever choice you have to make before baby is here :)

I think its crazy that you are forced into a csection so easily in the states. I know of many many ladies who have given birth vaginally to a breech baby, its just a bit of a tougher push :) its seems like time and effort are not a factor with your docs, they just want the quick method.

Don't ever put yourself or baby at risk, but also don't fear to contest what you are being told if it isn't sitting right with you.

Best of luck hun xx

Here is what you do! Google Doulas in your area. Call them! Explain to them your situation...doulas can be really good resources. Their jobs are to advocate for moms and they will know of alternatives, can offer great advice, and may be willing to help you get the birth you want or at least tell you how to do it and what to tell your dr.

YouTube "gentle c sections". Ask your dr if he can give you one. If he doesn't know what it is, show him the YouTube video! Call your hospitals that your dr delivers at ask if they support gentle csections.

MrsBeechy- you've had one c section, and it appears to have been under circumstances that made you miserable and not wanting to go through with it in the first place. So just because you made your c section a horrible experience doesn't mean other people haven't had a great experience.

My planned c section was a great experience so much that I'm not even trying for a VBAC I only want a c section.

Emergency c sections are sometimes worse because you go in and labor for however long which tires your body and makes everything worse when trying to heal from an unplanned c section. & From what I've read from other mothers experiences those who had emergency c sections had a harder time with recovery than those who had a planned c section.

Everyone has a different experience. I am not sugar coating anything. I had an amazing section.

Oh please! Planned c-sections are just as horrid as emergency c-sections! Don't sugar coat it!

My section was amazing. I was able to hold my dd after the birth. I held her while going to recovery, nursed her the second we got into recovery and had her with us for about 2 1/2 hours before they took her to the nursery to give her a back and do standard testing (hearing, etc). I was up walking that night with no problems. I felt like myself, just stiff like I worked out too hard. When I got home, I did things around the house till I felt like I did enough. This will not kill you, this will not impede you in caring for your child, you will survive, and once she is here, you will love her and hopefully not have the same feeling towards her as you do now. Good luck and I think you should talk to someone to "get your head around this".

I've had 2 c-sections, the first was emergency after 24 hour labour and I was so exhausted that I don't remember much. My second was elective and was fantastic, once bub was out they placed him on my chest and wheeled me back to our room. Recovery wAs also so much better as my body was exhausted from labouring the first time. I was up and walking the next day. I'm now preg with number 3 due in November and not afraid of going for another c-section

I wanted a natural hypnobirth in water but ended up with a csection after 31 hrs of labor with no progression. The surgery itself wasnt bad at all. I couldnt feel anything and my husband was next to me once they started until my son was born and then left to clean him up while i was stitched up. The recovery did suck though. I hurt a lot :-/ but i would never let myself be put to sleep unless it was ansolutely medically necessary for some reason or if the epidural didnt work which thankfully it did. The thought of losing an hour of my life while being under is scary- id much rather be awake!

You can take care of baby still, your milk still comes in. I was holding my son less than an hour after surgery. Dad got to hold him till I got back to the room. You can definitely have a normal sex life. I am 8 Weeks pp and we are right back where we left off.

I was just as terrified. My son was also breech. It is scary but really not as bad as you think. You will be fine. I was back to normal at 5 weeks. The worst part for me was the spinal. Just concentrate on your baby. It worked for me. Good luck.

I had an unplanned csection on Friday and it's not as bad as you think. My scar is really really small I'm a little sore but good...and my milk is flowing in. Its scary having surgery but hopefully your doctor will be like mine and explain everything to you. They put music on for me in surgery room to relax me more. Your will be fine I know it....good luck

Who told you your health insurance doesn't cover VBACs? They lied to you.

Sweety, I had a planed section a month and a half ago. My baby girl has spina bifida and was rushed away to a different hospital as soon as she was born. Because her hospital was for children, I couldn't be there for recovery. That mean that the first 2 days of her life I saw her for maybe a minute total. We have a great bond now and it didn't take long to create it. Once your baby is here you will stop at nothing to properly care for her. At least you aren't going into this with a 50/50 chance on your newborn needing spine surgery(she didn't need it right away but will probably have it around 6 months old). You can do this. It's scary, yes, but if you do what is recommended it will be better and easier than ever.

Thank you for the link. I will be watching it after my SO wakes up :)

For the record though, I don't resent my unborn child. I actually love her very much. What I was trying to say earlier is that because of this situation I had feelings about her that I knew were not the normal me. I don't normally feel that way about her and because of that it made me feel like a bad mom. It's not her i am upset with, it's the situation. She can't help to turn just like we couldn't control if we did or not either.

My doctor tried to prescribe anxiety meds to me but like every other medication I was on, I had a bad reaction to it while in the hospital the first go around and had to stop it. He (my doctor) is not comfortable keeping me on meds for anxiety at this time. I wish this were not the case and I could have something to calm my nerves about the situation.

Cleo - I follow a couple on YouTube that blog daily about their pregnancy, birth and now postpartum. The girl had to have an emergency section and you can watch her experience and how she is doing afterwards. I cried when her bub was born, it was beautiful. You don't see anything yucky! She is doing fantastic postpartum. She stopped taking medication pretty soon, is breastfeeding successfully and she is blissfully in love with her gorgeous baby.

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Hope this gives you a really nice realistic view of an emergency c section and some hope!!

I'm in the same boat as the op and you don't see me resenting my unborn child for being breech and acting like I'm waiting on death row.

I completely understand how she feels. I'm so nervous, anxious (actually on medication for anxiety) and scared of having major surgery BUT I can't control the situation, I can only control how I feel about it. Therefore I will arm myself with positive experiences, knowledge of the procedure and learn techniques to deal with my anxiety over it. I will make the experience the best it can be. I sincerely hope op finds the courage to do the same.

I wasn't being rude - I was giving her tough love because I felt she needed it.

The fact that a couple people are being dismissive to the point of rude to the op is sad. A csection is major surgery so of course it can be scary! In the best of circumstances, surgery can be scary but add to that she is pregnant and likely more anxious and emotional due to hormones. There are ways to get your points across without being rude and thus making her feel worse.

That said op, yes there are horror stories but many women do have very good experiences with them. If you end up having to have a csection,hope for the best as there is a lot to be said for the whole biopsychosocial model and if you expect the worst, your body may react negatively. I hope your baby flips for you but if you have to get a csection maybe meeting with a psychologist to discuss your anxiety and get relaxation tips may help?

Also know that for most women, once your little one is here, they decide it was all worth it regardless of anything bad. It's really just amazing. I had the pregnancy (throughout which I said never again), delivery, and recovery from hell but 2 days pp, I already wanted another (and still do).

I wish you the best of luck and if you have any specific questions, feel free to pm me.

My only suggestion is listen to your medical doctor. If you trust him to have your best interest.

I have not had a c section. This is my fourth and last. My last baby was Joshua. He had birth trauma. He had the cord around his neck. He was stuck in the birth canal and he broke his collar bone. If we known this could of happened I would have opted for a c section. He is medically considered disabled at 6 years old.

I trust my doctor. He printed out medical research and statics for me to show me that there is a high chance for this baby to be stuck in my canal and possibly have a broken collar bone as well. So I'm gladly having my first c section roughly 11/08. And this is our fourth and last..my tubes are being tied at my c section.

I'm so glad that Im having this c section.

I have tried to research as much as I can. My hospital has not offered much information to me on their planned c-section procedures, I have a list of questions for my doctor at my next appointment. I honestly feel like I am being pressured to do this because everyone else has. My doctor even asked me if I knew people who had them done, yes i do. Some loved it and some hated it and have issues they are still trying to deal with. I do not want that to be me which is why i came on here asking for feedback and support.

Regardless, I understand his points and concerns but I also have my own. At this point I do not feel like my child or myself are in immediate danger and would like to give myself and her every opportunity to switch positions. If she has not then I can accept that a c-section is the way to go.

Based on the lack of medical evidence that I will become or am toxic makes me want to hold out hope. If I were and showed more signs, protein in urine, unstable bp or the other symptoms this may be an easier choice though at this point it is not.

I want to know I am making the best decision for me and my child but I also feel like now that this is the end of the line in my pregnancy any hope I had of getting to know my child after she is born will be skewed by pain meds and other things that i did not want in my body. I have a very weak system when it comes to antibiotics, pain medications, mag sulfate drips, and other meds, taking OTC Benedryl almost kills me and Tylenol affects me negatively as well. So I can only imagine what cocktail of drugs they administer for sections will do to me post OP and that makes me sad for my child because I know I will not be the best i can be for her.

Yes, I have horrible emotional issues with a c-section looming on the horizon and people have told me to get a grip, well the fact of the matter is, even loaded with research and answers to my questions, I will never be able to fully get a grip about this I am just trying to deal with it the best way i can.

Do your research, because it seems to me that you are very uneducated on this matter, or you have only done research by looking at horror stories from years and years ago.

Fyu

Yes, mine does not. So unless I switch jobs or they change insurance providers, if I ever wanted to have children again after this experience, I would be forced to do another c-section. :-/

It's not as bad as you imagined. You see the baby as soon as he/she is out. They check the baby out/clean/cut the cord not far from you and they tilt the bed so you can see your baby while this is happening. 5 mins later after delivery you have skin to skin cuddles then get to feed in recovery. I've had both natural & c-section & it doesn't ruin the experience. In fact you are calmer and get better photos after a c-section.

Recovery is fine as long as you don't overdo it. Yes you feel numb above your incision and have a scar but for me having a safe delivery was more important.

Good luck.

I'm sorry it's so hard on you...I just had my 3rd and can tell you csection never crossed my mind with any of my pregnancies and I had one with my 3rd...there is always a possibility for vbac later I know it's hard right now and your feelings are ok to have it doesn't mean your not grateful for your baby and when you see her it's instant love csection or not...try to prepare yourself the best you can take some deep breaths and look at the positive when you start to feel negative...hope you feel better soon

Thank you for the feed back. I am sorry that my feelings have irked you. They are in fact how I am feeling and how i have been feeling.

I did say that my feelings towards my little one made me feel horrible and like a horrible mom but I can't help the way I feel I can try to change it and maybe it will change after she is born and all this is over but I feel like my recovery time after this ordeal will affect my ability to bond with her. I have spared many intricate details of my life and in so doing I feel like maybe I didn't give a clear picture of what is going on and how this surgery would affect my ability to mother my child. I am sorry but there is not enough space on this forum for all of that.

Yes, I was confident when I got pregnant and was trying to think positively about the outcomes of pregnancy to will myself to have a happy and healthy pregnancy and I felt I was doing well until my doctors and everyone else kept telling me "oh you poor thing, you've been through so much this has been awful for you." When I just chalked up all my discomforts and symptoms as part of being pregnant. Among other life stresses I was trying to avoid to have a healthy and happy pregnancy, i have done the best i know how to do and with out a whole lot of support from anyone, no friends or family because they are all going through some pretty intense emotional trauma too. People tell you it's bad (your pregnancy) repeatedly you tend to start believing it.

This pregnancy was a planned unplanned surprise for my SO and I. I had actually given up on the possibility of ever having children. So for it to be a shame on me for getting pregnant, I guess you are correct. So shame on me. Which is why I do not plan to have any more children again hence my post in the other sub forum. Guess you could say lesson learned.

Thanks again.

I just saw another post of yours. This business about not wanting any more kids if you have to have a c section is ridiculous. I can completely understand you are scared but surely when deciding to get pregnant you understood it was always a possibility right? What did you honestly think would happen? You'd have the perfect birth you want? Of course that is what we all aim and hope for but it's not realistic and things can happen. You think you would just be happy your bub is healthy and safe. I'm sorry but I have to be super blunt - you're acting quite immature and selfish by resenting your unborn child for being the wrong way. You know baby could be breech because the cord is too short or its wrapped around the neck? And if they did turn it could be fatal?

This post has really gotten to me. I don't know you and I want to shake some sense in to you. Despite your own health issues you and bub are both ok and whatever needs to happen for you both to stay safe during delivery - then thank you Jesus!

I think you need to stop being so dramatic and hard on yourself and your poor innocent baby - get a grip. Take a walk, appreciate what is around you, clear your mind and focus on being brave.

I really hope you can change your attitude and focus so you can enjoy the rest of your pregnancy and the miracle of holding your baby in your arms. YOU WILL BE OK. It's not the end of the world.

I wanted a hypnobirth in water. A c section never crossed my mind. Now baby is breech at 36 weeks and I have to wrap my head around it being a huge possibility/reality. I'm sorry honey but you really need to be brave for your baby and the safety of their arrival. Like others have said, do your research (especially on "natural cesarean") and squash your fears ASAP or it WILL be the traumatic experience you're building it up to be in your head.

I'm super scared, but the positives are; I will know the day my baby is born, it is only one hour of my life and then the worst is over, I won't be able to see any of it, my hospital does skin to skin in the OR and with healing I have an excuse to stay in bed and breastfeed while hubby does everything else for me. The pain afterwards won't even matter as I will be so distracted and in love with my little man.

I'm also going to speak to the anaesthetist that I'm scared of the idea of it all so he/she can keep me distracted and perhaps give me a mild sedative once the baby is pulled out.

Honestly I have just decided to accept it, be brave and strong and think positively. Otherwise I would be a mess and that's not how I want to feel as soon as I meet my son. All the best, you will be fine!l

I think you have the option of being out to sleep or being awake. I think that it would probably be more chaotic and scary and traumatic to have the breech delivery and then have to have an emergency c sec. I think they're risky. but do what's right for you him but my planned c sec went great I had an amazing experience. no pain no trauma and everything was controlled so i knew my lo was perfectly safe then entire time. it was great

He won't do an Ecv because of the cardiac risks involved to me given my PIH and chronic hypertension diagnosis. He believes it would be too risky at this point and feels that my belly is too big for her to maneuver herself into position with out rupturing my uterus or detaching the placenta. Believe me I really wanted to try that route but it was quickly squashed. :(

What have you tried to turn baby? Has your doctor offered you an ECV?

Please research!!!! C sections are a major surgery, but they arent all bad. My son is 9 konths and delivered by Csection. I had no trouble breastfeeding and I plan to have a VBAC the next go around. I have a new VBAC friendly OB and hospital. Over the weekend do some research. Get another opinion. Know your rights. There are pros and cons to everything! Good luck!

You won't see anything happening, and you can ask the doctor not to tell you what's going on, although that helped calm my nerves. You'll feel a little bit of tugging/pushing but not much.

Being awake makes it even worse. I don't want to see, feel or hear anything going on in my body. It really makes me want to throw up just thinking about it right now.

I have the option of going under general but then I won't get to hear or see my baby when she is born.

I hate this. :(

Thanks for your feedback and your experience.

I feel like the more research I do, the more I don't want to go this route. It is seriously terrifying and the more I find out about what the doctors do and how they do it, the more I am opposed to them touching me with anything.

Understand you are scared. I felt the same way. Keep your head up and know planned C's are not emergency C's. you can be awake the whole time. You will hold baby as soon as you are in recovery. Good luck!

To start, you need to do some serious research on c sections. Especially how planned c sections go. Yes emergency c sections are worse after your body has labored making healing more painful and such.

Personally I had a great c section experience, mostly because I took time to mentally prepare myself & I knew what to expect after doing research online.

I went in, got prepped with an IV then went to the operating room where they gave me the spinal, laid me down, gave me a blanket to keep my upper body warm, had my husband up by my head once I was all ready, the anethethiologist (sp?) and my husband talked to me the whole time, and the doctor told me what he was doing and when to expect any tugging/pulling sensations. When my daughter was out I was able to see her perfectly, gave her a kiss and then my husband went with her to help clean her up while I was being closed up. Once I was closed up and they were done I went right back to my room and was followed by my daughter and husband, they helped me get into a comfortable & safe position so I could hold her for the first time. I was up and walking the next day. Taking your pain Medicine on time will help significantly as well. I felt great by day 4 and asked to be discharged that day instead of staying for the recommended 5 days. At that time I was living in an apartment complex, my apartment was on the 3rd floor, I walked up those stairs like a champ, a slow champ but I did it and it wasn't nearly as painful as I thought it would be (I'm sure me moving around the hospital helped a lot with that).

I had the option of doing a VBAC this time, but declined because of how great of an experience I had with my first c section. This time I am also more serious about breastfeeding and won't allow them to give her a bottle for the first few days unless she needs it to maintain her weight.

Do your research, know what to REALISTICALLY expect. If you go in knowing what to expect and have the right mind set it can be a great experience. Right now you are making it so you are going to have a horrible experience, you have to go in at least with an open mind to not be miserable and I'm sure you will see its not a horrible thing as you think it is.