Irritated pregnant lady rant!
Grrrr! Sometimes I just want to slap some people.
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I don't let people bother me when they say things. No one wants to think they're weak and I don't think people are I just think different people have different pain tolerances. I used to just keep my answers vague now I've had enough kids no one bothers to lecture me or give advice other than they think I've had enough kids. Lol you might do fine with no pain meds I've done it and so have lots of other moms. The key is to not be so set on it that you stress out over it. Plan to go with no meds and if that changes it changes. But it's not worth getting upset over mothers will constantly be giving you advice long after birth.
I can't stand when people insist you go one way or another. It's your body, your decision. I didn't have an epidural with my first three, but did my fourth. I suffered from a spinal headache from fluid being in my epidural space when they did it. They attempted the epidural twice, neither time it took. So imagine wanting to relieve the pain, with what everyone had referred to as a miracle drug to feel no relief during labor. Then, staying in the hospital for a week because my blood patches ( where they remove blood from your arm to fill the void in the epidural space, to relieve the worst headache in the world (spinal), yep. Thanks, but no thanks. My first three were without an epidural, and this one being my last I'm going to do it without one again. If you opt for one, just don't let that window close of getting it. Once you start dilating you never know how fast you'll go, and if you think being a four hurts, wait until you're a nine without it. My first labor was quick 4 hours, so by the time I was screaming drugs, I was at a 7 in just 30 minutes. That's why I said no until last time thinking that would be my last pregnancy ever. Well, 11 years later, remarried, miracles happen. Either way, congrats & you'll do fine with or without it!!!
Thanks ladies, I am glad I am not rowing in this boat alone lol.
Amen! I share your ranting...men even try to tell me this also, everyone and their mom swears I camt do it or that I'll need the epi at some point. But guess what!? Im going to prove them all wrong and then shove it in their faces because no one should be able to tell someone they can or cant do something just because they or someone they know couldn't handle the pain.
That really ticks me off too! Like, you don't know my pain tolerance. I don't even know my pain tolerance, because im a ftm. Not everyone needs an epidural though. My mom had 3 kids without one and was in NO pain at all, she did lamaze. I plan on trying lamaze and if that doesn't work I want an epidural on stand by in case I choose to use it. But it's not my first choice. My husband and I have arguments about it too. It seriously gets under my skin. Like, shut up. Lol
Oh I don't mind the advice. I do mind when said person makes the same insistent comment (which I failed to mention in my op) on more than one occasion.
I have dealt with constant chronic pain from sept-dec with no pain meds due to a crush injury that resulted in a chronic expanding hematoma (big blood clot) in my right leg that happened to me a few years ago. No surgeon was willing to help fix the pain because they were afraid of the long term effects. I had to do my own physical therapy and research my own treatment and give my findings to my doctors. Only then was he able to do a surgery to fix my leg. I went through months of hellish pain where I would lay in bed and moan and cry in pain and no one would or could help. If I can do that, and other women have had no epi, I think I can handle myself. I know my thresholds pretty well. If it gets to a point where I think I need one I will but to be honest I think there ate better methods of pain management than blocking my lower half into paralyzation. I want to be able to move and work with my body. Not be strapped down and unable to move with all these machines attached to me.