So over this feeling! Ever since I've had ds, OH and I have fought my mother on not wanting to give ds a dummy just cause we don't like them and find he self soothes. For the past three times my mother has had him, she has gone against our rule and given him a dummy and of course I spoke to her about it (that's all my knowledge on how many times she's done it). On Sunday we celebrated my stepfathers birthday and due to OH working I had to do it alone which isn't the thing that bothered me. The thing that bothered me was no matter what I said regarding ds I wasn't listened to. I told my mother to sit behind ds if she was going to sit him up on the floor as he hasn't got the whole balance thing down pact but she didn't and then ds falls and starts crying cause he hurt himself, I picked him up and my mother just came and took him off me! I told her he can't forward face yet as he is below the shoulder line in order to forward face but they did anyway. I get it's her first grandchild and she's excited but I never got to share the news about ds's first tooth or his first attempt at crawling to the family because she already done it. Yes I know, I probably sound petty asf! I had to repeatedly ask my mother to take me and ds home as he was tired and close to the over tired stage. On the way home ds fell asleep, luckily I was sitting beside him and looked at him cause he had fallen asleep and had his head facing down so I quickly grabbed his head and held it up till we got home.
Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday when he was dropping me off his like sleep over at my house witch the mom and dad lives. I said no, his response was why is everyone deciding or making choices for you and their going to do the same with the baby, when I know that's not true. what he thinks is that my mom tells me not to sleep over. So he left all mad. and I felt in my heart that he went on and cheated on me and did something else with an other girl.... and it's 10:51 am now and he hasn't texted me at all. and after he dropped me off I texted him saying what I felt and nothing. I don't know if I'm over reacting or what or what should i do. do i wait until he text me?
Trigger. Lost baby Went in for my 20 week check up and found out our son had passed away. Nothing was wrong, my pregnancy has been going great. I'm so numb right now. I'll he delivering him later this week. I don't want to do this. I don't want to do this. Not before Christmas. How am I'm going to tell my kids?? My dear sweet baby boy. Why did this happen?
I have been trying so hard to be calm, and nice. This morning though, my fiancès son decided to spit at me and hit me. This is constant with the hitting, the spitting is new. We've both tried sitting and talking to him, time outs, cry it out, try to avoid spanking as much as possible but it has happened. No form of discipline works with him. He hits me, he hits his dad, he hits my son. I'm so afraid of what's going to happen come May when the baby is born. Is he going to try and hurt our baby? What's going to happen? We've both stuck with following the same discipline routines, and sticking with what he or I say. I don't know what to do. I'm so frustrated, I'm so broken. I just want to cry and hide.
Short Luteal Phase? I've just started temping because I believe that the reason I haven't had a BFP yet, after 20 months, is because I believe I may have a Luteal Phase Defect.
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Haha our only problem with time outs is my ds loves them! We put him in his room (the only place we can put him) and he just gets a book off his shelve and sits in the chair and "reads" it. Then if you take him out of time out- half the time he goes back into his room and closes the door! Aside from removing every piece of furniture and book from his room- I need to rethink his discipline :)
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Мама двоих (1 год, 6 лет)
Thanks for replying! I'm glad my ds isn't the only one. He's sick at the moment so I know that isn't helping. I think I will start time outs with him too. Ds1 was 18 months when we started, but I think it's time for ds2 to start learning what's not acceptable. I really don't want my ds to be THAT child so need to nip this in the bud ASAP.
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We have the same problem. If ds gets tired he will hit (obviously it doesn't hurt, but not a behaviour that is acceptable).
I give him time out if he's just in a silly mood and hitting, and have stopped playing certain games for a while- like playing the drums on the kitchen pots, because he seems to hit more if he's been doing something like that. I also tell him gentle and no and show him how to be gentle.
But would love any other advice ppl have!