My 2 pence worth....was married in feb 2008, the engagement seemed half hearted because I was young and in love with the idea of a nice wedding so probably kept on about it! Well it ended in chaos with me still being legally married now. So when I met my partner I was more wise and happy to take things as they came, never spoke about marriage and bam....he proposed. Well he is very keen on getting married with me still being quite cool about the idea. Lets hope we last because I love him millions :) x

I know at the moment I probably don't seem like the most knowledgeable person about marriage. However I think the key to a successful marriage is the understanding that its not just 'a piece of paper'. It's a massive decision to share your life with someone for the rest of your life. Basically people should get married for the commitment rather than the wedding.

Perhaps someone whos been married before understands that more, but there are many couples who have got it right the first time.

There was a couple who got married the same month me and my oh did. They'd only been together for 13 months! They are divorced now, and they split up over really stupid reasons too.

I personally don't think previous relationship status really matters when it comes to having a successful marriage, I think it's far more dependent on other factors such as ability to communicate, having a strong relationship before marriage, both sharing the same ideals about the relationship and having lives that fit together nicely. I do however think that having children from a previous relationship can affect future marriages, blending a family is tough and there are so many more stresses and challenges that can shake even the strongest marriage/relationship.

I am married, it is both mine and my husband's first marriage, I have a child from a previous relationship but my husband hasn't really had any previous serious relationships. We've been together for 6 years, married for 2 :-)

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I think couples who have never been married before as none of u have any bad experiences from the past and u won't doubt anything! Xx

Both myself and my husband were never married before and even through all our ups and downs, we couldn't be happier and we've got the kind of relationship where we always talk about everything so if something's wrong we won't hide it from each other. Trust and communication are the two main keys of making a marriage work I think xx

Thank you all for your replies. I agree with each point. I'm looking forward to reading more replies too.

Morning back to you Tangy

C because they've both had marriages that have failed for whatever reasons before and are more likely to have married for the right reasons this time round.

That's not to say that people who are getting married for the first time are going to have a failed marriage, there's plenty of people who do get it right first time.

I think it entirely depends! I suppose those who have been previously married may know the importance of trying harder etc than someone never married before however it entirely depends on the reasons behind it as if those previously married have trust issues that in itself can destroy a marriage? I'd probably go for those that had both been married before. A happy Marriage takes love, work and commitment, iv only really learnt that since we got married and so I guess those both married would understand what marriage is more before :) x