For me, I'll allow light beers for close family and friends yes but not heavy alcohol which involves them getting drunk and acting up after.

Kick them out to a pub after the birthday song.

We my had my daughters first birthday at our home, we put on the food plus beer, wine and soft drink.

I think there is a big difference between having a glass of wine or a beer on a Saturday afternoon with your friends and family, and drinking to get drunk (which no one did).

And I would never have invited anyone that I thought was just going to come and get drunk (mostly cos I don't have any friends/family like that).

Every first birthday I've been to has had alcohol provided. I don't think it's any different to having a bbq with friends or a family catch up and having a beer or a wine

Definitely not

Absolutely no alcohol at kids party. Like if you need a few drinks to relax at a children's party which will last 2 hours max something is not right!

No alcohol at kids parties for us too. Don't need it for a fun relaxing time or see it as a necessity.

I think it personal preference, personally I've always had a byo alcohol rule i dont have an issue with people having a drink aylt a kids birthday, just no getting drunk.

Ive seen it on numerous occasions and i think its a disgrace personally

Yep.. Nobody gets drunk. My kids have a lovely day. I don't drink myself but if people want to have a drink to relax at an event on the weekend. I don't think it's a big deal. At the end of the day a first birthday is more for parents then the child who will never remember it.

There is always alcohol at our kids birthdays. No one gets drunk. It's just everyone having a relaxing bbq/get together. I don't have a problem with it. I'm not a drinker either. However if adults can't be trusted to have a beer/wine or 2 without getting trashed then say no alcohol.

I guess it must come down to a respect thing on the families behalf?

Because I really don't have any issue at all, all our family have a couple of beers/wines (if they want) at family events, at my sons 1st bday most people had a drink in hand. But again, I wouldn't even have to consider 'oh no such & such will want to drink again'.

The men in my life are all tradies & a couple having beers is just another part of their day & it's never ever turned into an issue or anyone getting drunk/inappropriate. I guess for some they would deem it bad that it's a bit of a drinking culture but it's really nothing for us. If I said no alcohol everyone would just say no worries too...

We have drinks at all our family parties. No one gets drunk though, & everyone is fine to drive etc, for us it's no big thing it's a part of our gatherings

It's ridiculous to even suggest alcohol at a kids party. Not just for a 1st birthday. There also won't be any alcohol at our boys 2nd or 3rd.

I know im probably a bit late to comment but at our childrens birthdays we dont oftern drink and neither do our guests and if we do its my hubby and my bil having one beer after the children have had a great day and are tucked up in bed.

I dont think your out of line to request no alcohol its a childs birthday party if they dont like it they dont have to show up. Good luck with planning the party itll be a great day ?

Thanks ladies!

I'm going to hand write on every single one of their damn invitations no alcohol - lol. I think it's ridiculous I should have to but hopefully it'll get the message across.

I hate that this is becoming "a thing!"

My uncle tried to make my little girls birthday a piss up. I did not have it, there shouldn't be alco at a kids party in my opinion

We've always had a little bit of alcohol at family 'kids' parties. But we're all responsible enough to not go crazy and get spazzy drunk or anything

In my opinion a kids party is about the kids! It's not for adults to be drinking.

No, doesn't really sit well with me but i don't drink at all anyway

I wouldn't even think about alcohol at a kids party.

The one or two beers or wine but anymore is just wrong in my opion.

Our kids are still young and so the parties are just close family and friends. We usually put on a buffet of food or BBQ. Yes we do drink alcohol. We are all social drinkers. We never jeopardize the safety of our kids. I think it is acceptable if you can control yourself, it's not a bar or club, it's a family gathering.

If they're bringing a beer or two/wine to have with their food, no problems. If they're bringing a carton to get drunk at my kids party, no way.

There's a time and a place for alcohol and a child's party is not the place in my opinion.

Yeah we've had beer for our kids 1st parties. But it's only close family and friends and they've brought their kids. But not kids on their own without parents.

Like I don't think we'd do that once kids have a "kids" party once they're like 5ish

Where the parents drop off the kids and pick up a couple hours later.

I think especially being family and friends they should respect the fact it's a 1 year old party and they wouldn't get drunk unless you intended to extend the party to the night time in which the kids would be asleep etc but yeah if I knew they would intend on getting drunk id put my foot down

Nope no alcohol at kids parties. If you can't attend a social event without having drinks you have a problem. Babies parties go for an hour or 2 at most, they can go somewhere and drink after

Oh, the party is at home, just a casual BBQ too.

I just feel like my family are a bunch of idiots and will use any event as an excuse to get drunk. Like they can't help themselves. I don't want that idiocy around my child and his friends. I don't see it as necessary.

My mum thinks I should invite Noah's friends over for lunch then have a BBQ at night with my family so they can drink. Why the fack should I cater to their needs? If they can't control themselves not to have alcohol for a few hours over lunch then they have issues ?

We had my sons first birthday with just close family and friends and had a casual bbq. All the men brought the typical esky with a couple of beers which didn't phase me but if there was more then my kid around then it would have been a no alcohol event.

I think if they're family and friends and the party is at home they just assume it's ok unless you specify no alcohol