FML
I can't say this to the BD so I'm going to to say it here instead. I F***ING hate that I'm a single mum. Actually no, I've never hated someone so much in my life as much as I hate you. It's half past 12 at night and I'm exhausted and this baby refuses to sleep more than 20 minutes at a time. I feel like such a failure in being a parent because he has been attached to me for 4 hours now, and screams when he isn't to the point I don't want him on me. The thought is making me feel sick. I feel guilty for feeling like this but I just can't. I'm probably going to DD this later but I just need to say it.
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I can promise you this: it gets better. I know how it feels right now. A lot of mom's say that, but I've been exactly where you are. Raising a baby alone who wants nothing but mommy. My son would cry for hours if I wasn't holding him. As utterly exhausting as it was, we both made it through and the clingy phase ended. When that screaming baby turns into a toddler who refuses tour kisses and just wants to be left alone, you'll actually miss how much he needs you. It doesn't make it easier, but just know you aren't alone and it does end.
You can message me any time for support. I've been a single mom for two years now and kinda love the hell out of it.
I had this with my first i breast fed her and she would feed every hr on the hr for 45mins giving me a 15 min break I started giving her a formula bottle before bed and that really helped give me a few hrs sleep which felt like a lifetime. Defo spk with your midwife or health visitor they will help they were the ones who suggested I add the bottle good luck and it will get easier.
Hi all, I ended up getting my mum to help. We Iive with her but do try and not wake her as she works 40/50 hours a week as it is but I just had too
I breastfeed him (Have tried formula but totally refuses it, and pacifiers too) He does have slight colic and it's just trying to find the solution. I really enjoy feeding him myself and have no issues normally. I was just beyond tired. I'll speak to my doctor definitely, and I do ask for help. It's mainly at night he struggles. Tonight was much better for him.
Thankyou all so much for your advice and help :) Xxx
It's ok to feel like this. My oldest used to cry for no reason at night, and for a while we thought it was colic. Do you have any family that can help out a little? Sometimes, all it takes is an hour of time to yourself to help you recharge.
Are you breastfeeding, or does the baby just want to be held all the time? Maybe start introducing a pacifier so the baby can calm itself down. Try swaddling. Also, baby swings sometimes help. Good luck, and don't ever be afraid to post on here. No one is here to judge you because as mothers, we have all felt this way once or twice.
Don't beat yourself up, you are doing great...maybe talk to your doc about your mood but it is no big deal! If BD doesn't want to be around, it's better to not have him around (said from experience) and also....I have a 21 year old that I am still constantly telling to get out of my space (see the humor there) be happy that you have a momma's baby :)
It gets so much better. Stay strong and keep at it. As a single mother I went to art school, worked, eventually got my CNA license and have pulled doubles. It's going to be hard. I *or you probably* did'nt have much help from anyone. Talk to your doctor, they may be able to help you a bit. Tire your baby out with playtime. And try warm tea *like chamomile* half hour before their bedtime. The absent "sperm donor" as I like to call him was lazy and abusive, never ever has lifted a finger to help me or the boys. I met my fiancé and he's been the best thing that ever happened to us. He treats the boys so much better than the donor ever did. He's told me as far as he's concerned they are his sons. Now we have a little girl on the way and our family is happy and complete. I wish you the best! Goodluck!
It gets better. Feeling like that is normal. With my first child I would try to do everything by the book. Only feeding at certain times-forget that!! If you have to give baby an extra bottle give baby an extra bottle. If you have to put baby in car seat and drive around - whatever gets baby to calm down. I found YouTube videos for newborns work wonders. My son is now 2. I did everything on my own because my Hus was overseas. It gets better. If someone offers to help or do anything take FULL advantage of it. Best of luck to you mommy!!
You are NOT alone. I was a single mother with my son. Who will be 5 in a couple months. I did it all by myself and worked and went to nursing school! It WILL get better. The hate for the absent parent is natural. I still feel it. But my husband has stepped up and is an amazing father. I never thought I'd find someone like him. And here I am 4 years later happy as ever with a baby girl on the way. Never give up. I swear to you it will get better.
Oh Lord I know that feeling!! Poor girl your not alone with those feelings .. see your dr or health nurse and I know that it's frowned apon but maybe try formula even just for a top up to give you a break!! Don't be hard on yourself everyone makes it look easy .. it's not!! Thinking of you x stay strong
When he gets fussy you can try placing a blanket on top of the dryer and then turn it on and lay baby on the blanket it helps I don't know why but it does. An old friend of mine grandmother gave this advice and baby settles right down.