Reached my breaking point...and freaking out
Reached my breaking point...and freaking out
Okay ladies, so for the past year I have been the sole income for my family. SO has been a stay at home dad. When we found out we were expecting, we knew things would need to change, at least for a few months even though I was hoping to be able to be a stay at home mom for longer than that. I'm 36w3d today and I have to force myself out of bed and to work every day. I'm miserable. SO has been applying but hasn't heard anything back yet and I'm wondering if we're just that unlucky or if he's sabotaging himself in some way because he got used to staying home...
deleted-user·
Hang in there things will work out! I've been stressed for this whole pregnancy as I have been living alone with my son for the majority of this pregnancy due me family medical issues with SO. I was forced to change positions in the beginning because I was soo ill and I have only been working like 20 hours a week this whole time providing everything. Finally now we are living together and there is such a sense of relief! I think things will work out for you and your family!
deleted-user·
I'm sorry that sounds very stressful to have to go through when you are about to have this baby! You have a few weeks left. I would try to talk to him about applying and maybe try to find out if there is something he is doing wrong even if not intentional. Or look around at employment websites and help him apply. Look at his resume and help him out with it. Do you have family that can help out a little bit financially until things get a little more back to normal?
Also, what about applying for assistance? For WIC & food stamps maybe? I'm applying as soon as the baby is here because I quit my job a while back and am going to stay at home for a while with the baby. I hope things work out for you. Good luck.
gullible.the.dinosaur·
Мама двоих (1 год, 2 года), ждёт третьего
Thanks ladies. It's just weighing on my mind a lot right now. We already receive assistance through WIC for our two children, and we do get food stamps as well. We don't qualify for any cash assistance which I'm okay with. We just need a little help along the way. The job market here is terrible, unfortunately. If we both worked, one of our checks would go completely for childcare because we would be over the limit for assistance with two paychecks, so we made the decision to just have one of us stay home with the kids instead of both of us never seeing them and being no better off.
Things will get better. Surely they have to lol. I think I got a fresh batch of hormones this morning. My mood has been all over the place today lol.
deleted-user·
Glad it's not just me that can't switch off its not good u feel this way maybe try talk to him explain ur fears and say it's not good for the baby I'm the high earner and get the same way some times but talk to him that's all you can do rest is up to him tell him that it will benefit the baby he should get him bum in gear X
Good luck xxxx