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That's horrible. I was raised dirt poor and I know what it's like. We couldn't even afford electricity or plumbing. My SO makes a lot of money and we donate a lot of it because I've been in situations like this. It's no fun. Wish we could send some money your way for food and have you kick those people to the curb for taking advantage of your hospitality. ???
I finally got my food stamps today. Got some food in my belly. God after 2 week's having a real meal is awesome. Plus. The bonus. My husband is coming home either Friday Monday or Tuesday. I cannot wait I've missed him so much. I'll be so much happier when he's here. And my roommate get paid under the table because he's a farm hand. So they probably will just give him a check to cash.
I didn't even read to the bottom of this.
Roommates are an invention of the devil. Even if they pay rent and utilities on time, which they won't, they will inevitably cause you misery every moment until you kick their bums to the curb. You don't need them and they aren't helping in any way.
BYE FELICIA!
Kick them out! Stop thinking about their needs and feelings because they clearly aren't thinking about yours. You're pregnant! You need well balanced meals. Correction: your baby needs you to eat well balanced meals. Put your and your baby's needs above them. I know it's easier said than done to change your personality, but you need to do it. It's not about you anymore. You need to stand up for you family.
Yeah I don't believe I will have to do that but I'll keep it in mind.
@ smoothoperater
They already know. I've told her. Quite a few times. They don't seem to care.
@lilmunches
Yeah I told them $200 for rent so they could start saving for their own place. She only makes $8.55 and works around 25 hours a week. So I figured I'd ask for $200 and the other $400 a month can go into savings to get into their own place. He just got a $20 per hour job. So I don't see them being here too much longer either way he could have them in their own place by his first paycheck. He works min 10 hrs a day 6 days a week. So he should get atleast $900 .. But I think he will be paid under the table so more like $1200 since the guy won't be taking taxes. That's per week. So within two weeks they should be out. He's already looking at a house and said they should be out by the end of this week. So I'm pleased.
There is no way in hell I would ever resort to hiding food in MY OWN HOME. Those kids sound better off where they are. She doesn't deserve them back yet IMO. The kids will starve just like you. Eating pizza for breakfast , lunch , and dinner. They don't seem to be making a change in the right direction to gain custody of the kids. They sound like they just struck gold and found someone to mooch off of. $200 in rent is all they pay? Where is the rest of their money? They should have a lot saved up and be filling that fridge . They are not your friends. They are taking advantage of you and using you. Clearly they don't care about you. I wouldn't take this for another second. Tell em they have so and so amount of time to get their sh*t and go or police can escort their ass out.
Imo I would be like hey pizza looks good yummy thanks. Oh hey guys what we eating today and things like that. maybe since everything for mixed together talk to them never assume maybe they really don't know your not eating. Imo you should talk if your friends they will understand. If they don't kick them out or get a fridge lock.
@trockty1344
Thank you. I'm slowly getting there. I just have always been that way. I think i get that from my mom because she's t he exact same way. She's 39 and just now learning to have a backbone. And she has 5 kids. Everyone has always walked all over her. My mom is awesome but wayyyy too nice. I guess I can't really talk. Lol. I'm working on it though.
Forget that making you feel bad stuff . You got your own problems & so do they . It's not your fault they can't get on their feet . See when i would have realized my food was going missing I WOULD HAVE FLIPPED . Like ya'll need to go now . Idc where you go but i know ya'll gotta get up out of here . Smh i hate when people just walk all over people who are too nice . Like that really rubs me the wrong way . Clearly she doesn't care about you , your pregnant & hungry . They didn't even offer some pizza like really . Well ig it's a good thing your hubby will be home soon . But lord please grow a back bone hun . Your heart is too big to let people just walk all over you . Good luck ?? .
@kalahestia Yeah my husband is an pfc. So actually he probably makes a little over $200 now. But he made $180 when he was a pvt.
@janeljade1985
Yeah you're right. I'm going to do it.
And thanks everyone. I just needed to rant. Big time. I haven't gotten to rant about it because I don't want to stress my husband out. There's nothing he van do anyways. He's all the way in Georgia and I'm in Indiana. So he'd just be stressing about something he can't fix. So I'm glad I could come on here and rant about it. I do feel a little better.
Some people don't want to grow up. You do sound like a nice person, but you're not helping her kids by enabling her. Just say it as nicely as you can, but firmly. I would say something like I'm sorry, but this isn't working out, our baby will be here soon, and you need to find somewhere else to live. Stick to it. Don't let them guilt you, just remember that you're doing it for your baby. You're not being mean by kicking them out, you're refusing to be taken advantage of, and putting your family first
I agree with Astra. You need to stand up for your child. You feel bad for her kids? What about yours? You shouldn't have to hide your food in your own home. Especially when you're pregnant and growing a child. If they are taking your food and not offering anything in return, they need to get out. No if ands or buts. It's extremely disrespectful, especially since you were offering them a place to live in your home.
My patience is really wearing thin though. My husband could be home anywhere from 3-15 days from now. Ik he won't put up with any of this. And he has way more back bone than me. So I can't wait for him to come home. He's been helping me learn to stand up for myself.
@kalahestia
He's in the national guard so he only makes $180 a month from that. Unless he's active the it's a lot more.. Around 1750 a month. but we were really behind on rent because we had no other income besides the military and they were almost two Months late on pay. So we pretty much had to give it all to our landlords . the landlords were ok with waiting though because they understand our situation. Then the rest went towards utilities.
Yeah you guys are right. I need to be better for my child...its ridiculous that I have to do this in the first place she is 27 and he is 21. I am 19 and my husband is 20
Yet we are more mature than they are Which is ridiculous for a woman whose 8 years older than me. They act like children with no sense of responsibility or willpower. She has two kids as well but her family takes care of them. I was trying to help them get on their feet so she could get her kids back. She doesn't have her kids Bcuz she gave her sister temporary custody because she wasn't financially stable. This is what she uses to make me feel bad. She will go on about how she just wants to get her kids back and this and that to get me to feel pity. And it works. I feel bad for those kids.
Yeah I was going to buy a cheap mini fridge off of Craigslist but my husband just lost his job so we don't have an income anymore. My uncle is trying to help me get a job. But we will see how that goes. I guess I have to hide food in my room.
I was in a similar situation when I was preg with my ds. I had to move in with my ex dh's family. They never ever had food. Just a bunch of freezer burnt pizzas. I managed to get food stamps and hid my food in the dresser drawers. His brothers would come in and take my food, leaving me 7 months pregnant with nothing to eat. I ended up freaking out on them about it one day and buying a padlock for the bedroom door. So my suggestion is hide your food and lock it up. Even though it's sucks cuz its your house.. Atleast you'll have your food.
Ik I have absolutely no back bone. I did try to kick them out before. But they made me feel so bad for doing it. I just let them stay. Idk but my husband and I already agreed that they have to find a place by October 20th Bcuz the baby is due November 16th and I don't want them around anymore.
Yeah the basement only has one door. There is no second entry. And of course that door is connected to my kitchen. I've tried to kick them out but they just make me feel bad about it. I have no back bone. And I'm too nice I know that. Everyone takes advantage of that fact too. My husband will be home sometime this month and he wants them out too so ik he will help me with the back bone part. I would go to a food bank but our truck is broken down. Ik the brakes are bad and I think one of the brake lines is leaking.
If they live in your basement why and how do they have access to your home and your fridge? Do you not have a door you can lock to stop them from coming in?
I would also kick them the hell out of my house, but that's just me. As for you being hungry, you can go to food banks and they'll help you out, no one should starve yet alone someone who is pregnant. ?
They will be gone in the next two weeks