Delivery room
Originally what I wanted to do while I’m in labor/after baby is born is just have my SO and best friend in the room. And not allow (very few) visitors until the next day or possibly later on the same day. Now I’m feeling like I just want it to be my SO and I in the room when he’s born ? my best friend wants to be in the room but I feel like I just want it to be a special moment with just my husband and I ? I don’t want her to get her feelings hurt but I also want my labor to be however I will be comfortable ?
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I say dont tell her make that day special how you want it to be. After you given birth then you can tell her to visit. You don't owe her or anyone an explanation. If she gets all crazy that you didn't call her or something while you were at the hospital just say your phone died end of story lol.
I’m gunna tell you that you are going to need to be comfortable. If your not you might delay your labor. I was extremely uncomfortable with my first because I had my mom and Grandma in there with me. I had to kick them out so I could relax and progress during labor. So don’t feel bad for asking her not to be there. It’s best if it’s just you and your hubby. It’s your moment together.
I have my mom and sister in the room. My hubs is very uneasy in medical situations. He can’t deal with blood/needles or medical jargon at all. His blood pressure drops and bam he’s on the floor. Lol so he comes and goes as he can but definitely can’t be in there when babe comes out! Which is fine by me cuz I want my medical staff worried about me and baby not my passed out hubby! Lol so just have whoever makes you the most comfortable and don’t tell anyone else!
When I was pregnant with my son I remember I had a friend who said that to me that she wanted to be in the room and I just didn’t tell her I was in labor so I don’t have to worry about it. She was very pushy about being there during labor so by me not telling anyone I was able to avoid it. I only had my boyfriend in the room with me and he’ll be the only one with me in the room again this time.
That’s what I was thinking of doing ? I feel bad lying but I don’t want to tell anyone, “yea I knew I was in labor I just didn’t want you in the room” ?
She turned it into a joke and said she’s going to be in the room whether I like it or not ??? I don’t know why I’m having such a hard time deciding who to have in the room. I thought I had made my mind up but now I’d rather not have anyone besides my so with me ?
I agree with Luna.
Maybe when it’s time to start pushing just ask her to step out in the visitor area. ??
I remember your past posts ? so I know you’ve been struggling with this decision not just with your friend but also other extended fam. You still have time, maybe not a lot, but just think about it till it’s actually go time.
Best thing to do here is to be honest, tell her that plans changed and that it'll only be you and your husband in the room during birth. I'm sure she will understand. It was only my husband and I at both of our babies births. My sister in law allowed visitors until it was time to push, then all but her husband were asked to go to the waiting area. So there are a few options there!
I decided I’m not going to tell her. My SO has 3 kids already so I’m pretty sure he’ll be fine by himself haha. She doesn’t have any kids but hopefully she’ll still understand my decision. I just don’t want any interruptions while me and dad are bonding with our new baby. And I’m a ftm so I’ll have no clue what I’m doing after he’s born ? she can come after he’s born if she chooses ??♀️