I'm so glad this article has been helpful! I will be using this technique to continue my own healing as well.
This article came to me at the right time too, a few weeks ago after trying to (calmly) open up to my mother and tell her I was hurt by her negative comments about my pregnant body, she did her usual turn it back on me and play the victim who can't do/say anything right without being ridiculed ? (poor her), she refused to apologise and told me my own feelings of hurt were my issue not hers and she had done nothing wrong. This then hurt even more than the initial insulting words about my body.
This article helped me take this as a huge lesson, I cannot change her but I can go forward in my own relationships and make sure if any friends, family or my own children come to me with feelings hurt by me, even if I feel they are being ridiculous, I would never tell them their feelings are wrong and their own issue. I do believe I've already practiced this before but I feel so lucky to have this lesson/reminder even though it hurt a lot to get there.
Thank you for posting this, I really loved it. This is a brilliant way to approach these subjects when my kids get a little older. But can also really teach me something too. There are so many hurts and resentments that I hold onto day in and day out. I feel how deeply it affects me. You posted this at a really good time for me to see it @yaya. I needed this. ??
You're welcome. It came to me at just the right time. I'm hoping to implement it with all my children soon. I will update on how it goes for us.
I really liked it. Thank you for posting it. I have a 7 yr old girl (who is on the shyer side) and a 5 yr old girl who are now in school. I have been thinking about this lately. (I also have 3 yr old twin boys) I also have been trying to talk to them about similar things.
Edit: I have also been trying to grow in my own life and letting go past hurt
This was perfect. Especially with a lot of things going on in my life right now. Thank you very much!!?