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I remind my husband all of the time. She's 22 months and learning how to express herself. Unfortunately she has extremely limited coping skills at this age, we have to help her learn them. And no, that doesn't mean she gets to eat the cookie she's on the floor screaming about. But I will sit down with her and say I'm sorry you're upset but we don't eat cookies for breakfast and give her a hug if she needs one. There's a difference between giving into a fit and helping your child through their emotions. I have family and friends that think my approach is coddling but I don't care what they think. When she's older and has more coping skills I'm sure I'll adjust but she's not quite 2 and needs the help at this age. She's a good girl, she's willful but she uses her manners, helps clean up her own toys and if you remind her to use her words she'll generally stop crying and try and tell you what she wants. I don't think she would have gotten to this point if I just yelled at her or ignored her when she had a melt down.
Kay, I just wrote you a novel back! Hopefully you can read it all. My phone cuts off the bottom part of pm's. I usually have to go to the computer to read them.
It's hard for me to keep my temper. My mom loves me very much but she wasn't the best example. I have 2 very strong willed boys and some days are a bigger challenge than others! But I'm very thankful to have the tools and training under my belt to be a peaceful parent. Our boys are so much happier since we made the switch. And we are too!
I always try to remember this. Especially dealing with my colicky baby, and my strong willed daughter. Whenever one of my kids is fighting, or throwing a fit etc, I take a deep breath and repeat "they're not giving me a hard time, they're having a hard time" helps remind me to be more patient.
Don't you hate it when that happens! It keeps us humble, that's for sure!