TMI.... Maybe? Are there ladies out there that pleasure themselves and enjoy it?? Lately sex hasn't been doing me any…

@Leah yes!!! Always. Im all for clit stimulation. My SO will do it at times as well, but it doesn't happen everytime we dtd

Me on this post: ?????

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Have you tried to just pleasure yourself during sex?

Why did I instantly think DIY??

I'm with Avery, the bathtub faucet? Strange. I can't picture this in my head at all.

I will second the bath tub faucet and a nice shower head lol. I am totally uninterested in having sex, but I masturbate often enough.

Awh yisss, another minion recruited into my army. ?

Yes thank you @emmy and everyone else for all the advice. And I am going to be looking into getting that wand!

I would take Emmys advice.

@esq

I have provided you with the tools. Go forth. Thank me later.

Well damn. I'll have what she's having.

But my suggestions? Not be graphic or anything but:

-Find a toy that provides clitoral stimulation. From my undestanding the rabbit does both (which is fine for solo, but you're wanting time with hubby.)

-Start off with the toy. You use it and then your husband uses it on you. Only do this for a short time, no need to get greedy.

-Then move to your husband. Oral on him and oral on you, whatever floats ya'll's boat. It is good to share since your husband was nice enough to spend all that time on you.

-Since you're 20 weeks I would definitely recommend ?. Also, missionary with tons of pillows placed under your hips will angle you to keep bump out of the way... and feels great.

-Use the toy while ya'll do it for clitoral stimulation. It will feel amazing for him and amazing for you.

-Alternate. DTD with the extra stimulation from the toy and then turn it off.

-All that pregame will have you ready to O so much easier since you are sufficiently prepped down there.

-Don't use the toy every time with your husband. I've found that using it as a special occasion will already condition you to "regular sex" and make it even more amazing.

Lastly, the toy I suggest?

The Original Hitachi Magic Wand. You won't regret it, promise. Go for the real deal on Adam&Eve.com.

*Also, I don't know if I'll be back on tonight. D*mn this.

@karen, I've been avoiding this post as to not become predictable.

I try to enjoy the bonding with my husband, rather than the actual sex act. Then when he passes out I sneak off to the bathroom and finish myself lol

Agreed with the shower head lmfao

It sounds like he's selfish, and you get in your head a little bit (getting frustrated that it's taking too long).

You could try...

Making him finish you first before any penetration.

Investing in a bullet-type toy to use during intercourse.

Getting yourself started and ready, then invite him to join.

No. He isn't really into looking up different things to try. Just wants me to give him more foreplay than he gives me. And I alwayssss tell him I need more foreplay if he really wants to get me in the mood. I can make myself climax in like 2 minutes with my toy, it works wonders. I think im gonna give the faucet a try and I have a good showerhead but I don't really like it. I am gonna see if he would like to try to use my toy during sex. Cause once he get his finish, he can literally just go straight to bed. ?

Invest in a good shower head. ?

Pp i need to try that

I can't stand sex anymore. I feel so worthless to my SO. I try to fall asleep quickly when he gets in the room or I turn him down most nights. It either hurts or lasts way too long and I start getting Braxton hicks horribly.

I always found masterbating more pleasing than sex personally. Simply because only us know the right spots in our bodies and how to get there effectively. I do love sex too but its not something I want atm as it turns me off being pregnant but yeah definitely would please myself from time to time.

I prefer masturbating with a vibrator over sex ? penetration does nothing for me

My husband won't have sex with me or pleasure me in any way at all because I'm dilated yet expects me to do everything to him...I say take care of yourself completely!

Maybe have more foreplay?

Its not him being the problem its me sadly. I get irritated after a while and just end the sex. ?