SAHP tips DH texted me and asked me to post for him:

Have a plan for the day! It's helps the day go faster and it feels like you achieved something, it can be simple stuff like grocery shop or laundry.

Are there other stay at home dads in the area you could meet up with? Company is great for sanity

I'm definitely going to look her up. Thank you bunches!

Another of her tips is don't do deep cleaning, it's overwhelming and is like an eating disorder. Leads to binge and purge behavior, let's it build up then it's a ton of work on cleaning day. Instead you set a timer every day for only 15 minutes. Clean only until the timer goes off then stop. (Besides the regular stuff like clean sink etc) really good tips, you end up with a clean house all the time (Besides toys) but you're almost never cleaning. (Promise I wasn't being a bossy cow, it can make you sick being alone with kids all day in a mess, it's too easy to let it get on top of you. We all get there, this can help)

@goodle. He didn't think you were. He was just making light of the fact that dishes are my mortal enemy lol.

He even grabbed some cleaning supplies from work. He liked the idea a lot and decided to do some deep cleaning. I should be thanking you. ❤

I wasn't kidding, look up flylady for housekeeping tips. Her first things are shoes on and clean sink. It contributes to mental and emotional health and it's such a damn easy thing to do.

I'll look it up for him. Thanks!

I'm not sure where you guys live. But you could use MeetUp to find some groups. When I was pregnant I looked up some Expecting Moms groups. Also when we moved to new town I did the same.

Our town and few surrounding ones have a monthly daddy and me group. Just guys and their babies hanging out.

You could try that.

Thanks man. Now I know why Mary is so hooked on this group, y'all got some good people in here.

I definitely plan to be out alot but I've been looking and everything is mommy and baby things. Some say dad's welcome but I feel weird ha ha. Plus the look I just got from Mary when I expressed interest was a little scary and she mumbled something about mom's in yoga pants ha ha.

From my Hubby:

Don't try to do anything you aren't comfortable with - for me it's giving a bath. Start with bare minimum and then each day increase what you can do.

When baby sleeps - first thing I do is eat. Then I wash all her bottles so I have enough.

Try different things. Patti doesn't like to give Madeline the pacifier. But I do - to keep her quiet when I'm on a conference call. She kinda had to deal with it - it helps me a lot.

Go outside just for 5 minutes - our baby loves being outdoors - and all it takes it our backyard. Home Depot works just as well.

Learn how to put on baby carrier - can't do much at Home Depot when you have to hold the baby. Learn how to fold/unfold the stroller.

Coffee - self explanatory.

*Corey Speaking*

Thanks ladies. I definitely plan on taking him out a lot. We have a library up the road so Mary is going to look into some events for me. The older one loves the library so it's a win win.

Im laughing at the sink comment. We never have a clean sink to bgin with ha ha. I don't know how I would handle seeing it sparkle, I think Mary would have a heart attack if she came home and saw a sparkling sink and I don't want to risk her health. I do like the suggestion though. A clean house will probably be very calming. ;).

Does the 5 minute break include a beer? Ha ha. (Mary just hit me for that)

Wake up at a decent hour, get dressed, put on shoes. Actual shoes. Keep the kitchen sink cleared and shiny. Those two things can really help give you focus when you're drowning in a sea of diaper changes, sweatpants, and what day is it-no... what month is it

Agree 100% about getting out of the house. I felt trapped for a few months because I was terrified of leaving with the baby.

It can be overwhelming at times. And frustrating. Especially when baby is crying and nothing helps calm him. Just put him in his crib and set a timer for 5 minutes and go back. I do this with Jack because sometimes we both just need a break from each other. It usually helps. By the 5 min mark, he's usually it crying and I'm calmer and can think straight.

Most importantly. Just have fun!!!

I'm still trying to learn myself- recently "retired" from my 60+ hours a week attorney job downtown. Following!!

I want to say that it's adorable your husband is so involved and cares so much and wants to succeed at parenting so much! ❤❤

Make sure to get out of the house every day! Take the baby to story or song time at the library, even a lot of the kids' gyms have 0 to 6 month classes. If you don't leave the house all day you will feel like the time never moves!

I wanted to edit that last part out but he said "don't, I'm sure they already know you'll be calling every second you can" lmao. ❤