You did irreparable damage to your kids. Your narcissism leaves your loving, empathetic son to the point that any mistake he makes is unforgivable. It left your youngest son to find solace, not in family, but in multiple good nothing boyfriends and drugs. It lead your oldest son to the Mormon church so that someone would understand him and protect him. You have such a reputation that the venue manager at our wedding literally avoided you all night just so he wouldn't have to deal with you, because you spread your toxicity all throughout the local Scottish community. I don't know how your extended family handles you, and quite frankly, I don't care now. Because now, I am married to your son. Now, either I am part of your life as much as he is, or neither of us are. And I won't let you hurt him anymore. I won't let you drain the happiness from his eyes when he announces big news. I won't let you kill any enthusiasm or hobbies he has, simply because you don't understand them. And I sure as hell will not let you do to our son what you did to him. My husband is the man he is DESPITE you, not because of you. And part of me hopes that one day, you look in the mirror and realize that you drove all your children away, because you're toxicity personified. One day, I hope you feel that. And one day, I hope you live to regret it.
Grow up communicate with each other and no make dh donit. You are sisters and bil just grow up already.
Mil fil, stop being narcissistic and admit and admire when you are wrong. You cant be right 100% of the time, get over yourselves, make time for grand children and enjoy them before you loose them because you are so close already you lost one some and dh (the only one keft) us getting tired of your crap now too. Mil stop buying ugly a** clothes that don't fit for me and the girls and realize I owe you nothing fir trying to be nice even though we asked you to stop as it was.
Tasha I could've written that word for word to my mil. I'm so sorry I know what that is like. My dh has such bad self esteem. One little mistake and he acts like he's going to be killed because of the way he was treated.
Thistle why can't families just be normal? Ugh I hate when people won't man up and just communicate themselves.
Why do you have to act this way? I get that youre upset it didnt work out between you two, but we're all adults. I am not a homewrecker, you wrecked that home long before i came along. We've been together over a year now, its time you move on. Youre hurting your son even more than you realize keeping him away from his father. You didnt even want a child, you still dont. You dont even take care of him becsuse youre too concerned with getting revenge and getting your next fix. I wish you woukd grow up, i really do, and not even for me and my s.o. but for yourself. You have two children to care and provide for. You have intelligence, you have commin sense, youre just too stuck in highschool drama to use any of it. I want to see you succeed in life, i would have helped you with anything and everything, but instead you just see me as the enemy. You see me as the girl who took your boyfriend (even though you two had been broken up for months before we reconnected). Now, you see me as the woman trying to replace your son with my own. I cant help it that i got pregnant (we used condoms every time, id been on birth control for 6 years non stop, and was on no other medicines that could have interfered), i cant help it that its a boy, but i can tell you that it was never my desire to take your place, i never desired to replace your son, i just wanted to be happy, and i found that finally. But now you want to ruin it, now you want to play the victim and make me out to be the bad guy. It kills me, mostly because i never get to spend anytime with your little boy, mostly because you wont take thr chance ti get to know me, to know i mean you and your son no harm. But we are family now, like it or not, and i want our boys to grow up together. To see that families can work, that families can be there for each other no matter the circumstances. I have spent money on your son every christmas, every birthday, but i never get to see him. Ive met him once, and i love him to pieces. I dont want to replace you, i want to work with you. I dont want to take him from you, i just want to get to know him. I want him to have a relationship with his father, but you'll never let that happen so long as im in the picture. I feel for you, so very much, and i wish you all the very best in life, i just wish you would see i mean you no harm...
I really don’t understand how you can sit on your butt, day in day out, nose shoved in your phone and ignore your son. Do you not see him begging for attention? It could be sunny and 75 outside and you keep him stuck inside because you are too lazy to spend some time letting him be a kid. Excuse after excuse keeps you from looking for a job, and the assistance you do get from food stamps etc, seems to always go to other things besides what HE needs.
How do you sleep past 1pm with a child!? I really hate watching how you ignore him. His dad wasn’t in the picture until recently, and from what I can tell his dad is being a better parent than you at this point. All your son wants is a hug from his momma. For you to read him a story and help him grow. For you to get your nose out of that dang phone and say let’s go outside.
Your on again off again relationship is toxic, and you refuse to see that someone who threatens not only you, but your FATHER who has been battling cancer for 2 years now, is no good for anyone. Yet somehow you still think your son should look up to him. Thank goodness that scum lives so far away so your precious boy isn’t exposed to him.
I watch how you talk to your son while we visit. Every word out of your mouth is said in a hateful aggravated tone. I will never forget him telling you he wanted to play with my daughter, and the way you reacted to him when he started to cry, lip trembling, because she was still eating. You looked at him and said “Are you really going to cry? Because I’m over that! It’s your bedtime anyway!” And tried to send him back to your house next door BY HIMSELF so you could eat after staying over at your house on your phone until almost everyone else in the family was done eating. The tone of your voice spoke volumes of how annoyed you are to be burdened with a son.
I really want to say all this to you and let you know that you need to step it up and stop complaining about a dead beat dad when you aren’t doing much better of a job. But I hold my tongue. For the sake of family. The ONLY reason I haven’t called CPS is because I know my MIL and your grandmother take care of him. He has other family that show him love and give him the attention he craves by making sure he is in clean clothes, and has had a bath and has a full stomach. One day I hope your 26 year old self matures enough to move out of your dads house, get a job, and step up to the plate. My fear is by then it will be too late. Your son is growing up wondering why mommy always yells, always says no, and never interacts in a positive way. He is going to watch other kids with their parents and wish he had what they have. And you will regret the days when he wanted hugs but you were too busy on Facebook or whatever it is you do on that stupid phone all day. Because there will come a day when you want a hug, and he will be too busy with his friends (God I hope you let him have friends) and he won’t want that hug because it’s embarrassing or whatever reason he has. And you’ll know the same heart ache he always had.
? gosh I didn’t mean for that to be so long but I do feel better. All these things I wish I could say but I just can’t bring that kind of drama to my MIL’s life. But my step sister in law needs a dose of reality. She’s 3 years older than me and acts like she’s still in high school. It pisses me off. It breaks my heart for her little boy. I hope she grows up soon.
Ex friend- congratulations you turned into your pos mother, maybe even worse. You're getting back with your child molesting nasty lazy azz husband because you're too lazy to get a job? Sickening and you don't deserve your kids.
DH- I know you don't want to lose me but you're being selfish, still. I've asked you for YEARS to stop lying, to stop smoking dope, stop drinking bc what it does to you, get a job, any job, and KEEP it! NOW you want to get it together after I've had enough? NOW after we're back with my parents bc you crap away all our money and refuse to hold a job or get help for your compulsive lying? NOW you're sad that I don't love you? Well I've spent years loving you unconditionally and supporting every decision, even though they're usually bad, but now I have to think of OUR kids and the example you're setting for them. I have to start showing myself respect. The fact that I make enough money to support all of us BUT you literally take all you can get, hide YOUR money and screw us at every turn. I'm over it. I've asked you to leave, I've asked you for space, I've asked you to get it together and do it away from me but you refuse. So yeah I don't really want to be around you and eventually, once I have the money I will kick you out. I'll pay for a month or two of living, because I do love you, and then you're on your own.
Dani- maybe you could start saying things to her when you see this happening? Like "so and so was playing and I think he just wants to join. I don't mind watching them" or "I'd love to spend time with him, maybe I can give him dinner and bring him home around bed time?" Like show an interest but also sort of bring up what she's missing without putting her in a position to get defensive. If she's on her phone "I think X (her son) needs to ask you a question..." etc. that's so sad!
I'm tired if being treated like shat, I'm so damn tired of trying my best only for it to get shoved in my face I didn't try good enough. I hate feeling like I'm not good enough anymore, I hate that when I try telling anyone this they say that they understand when it isn't true you don't get it. I have so much anxiety built up I feel like I'm going to be sick. I feel like two different people most days, I'm stuck in a never ending cycle waiting for it to break open. I hate when I try talking about how i feel you laugh or smile and tell me im okay. But so and so needs help because he has "problems" we all need to help him because he is "special".
Im so sick of feeling like im in a hole and everytime I try crawling out I fall deeper. I am suffocating, I have no way out. I am tired of living day by day trying so hard only for it to be shoved back in my face and to be treated like shat. I wish you would look at me really look at me and see im not okay. Im hanging on by a thread and its finally breaking.
Why do you have to be so nasty to me and upest me everytime you see me or call me? Why do you think i am a lowlife peice of s*** i am your only child who has 2 of your grandchildren. You dont like my son and have a real problem with him hes 4! Just because you don't like his dad. He has done nothing wrong and you cant see the hurt that you cause all of the time. Who cares if you come to my house and things are out of place and we all have our pjs on sometimes we just want a relaxing day. I am not worthless i am a good mum i am there for my children we have bought our own home we have a car each we are fed and clothed but nothing is ever goof enough. You onky care about your wifes kids who can do no wrong. In 16 years you havent told me you loved me or gave me a hug you always have attitude with me. I am tired of trying the only reason i have contact with you is because if anything happened to you i would feel guilty. Why cant you just love me? You will not drag me down and you will not pull my partner down hes a good man. He provides for us and helps bring 2 children up what ever you say about him will never ever change how i feel about him. I just want a dad to love me why do you do these things so thanks for the years of hurt and upset you gave me i hope you feel a better man.
I love you and miss you but I am heartbroken about the person you have turned into. I tried to raise you to have a good heart, to love your family, to be kind, and honest. I know you have been hurt but you can not turn around and hurt others to try to make yourself feel better. I wish your father would take you to the counseling I set up for you before you moved in with him. I see the road you've been going down and nothing good comes from it and I want so much more for you than that. It breaks my heart when I see you use people to get what you want and how selfish you've become and behave more like your father. Money seems to be all that matters and who can buy you more of what you want instead of earning things you expect them to just be given to you. That's not how this world works. And using people shouldn't be an option. You are about to be 14 which means soon you will be an adult. I pray for you all the time. You and your siblings have always been the most important people to me. You were the first person I brought into this world. You changed my entire look on life. Having you was the best thing to ever happen. You brought so much love into my life. I learned that I'd sacrifice anything and everything for another person. I had never loved anyone so much. And now you are slipping farther away and turning into someone I don't recognize anymore. I used to be your favorite person. I miss that.
Dear sister, pls stop letting your husband treat you like utter and complete crap, only because you are too scared and lazy to take care of yourself and your 3 kids. Nothing he tells you when it comes to that woman and the baby he had with her makes any kind of sense.
Dear older brother, pls stop being such an ungrateful person, who only says you love someone because you can use them. Your family has done so much for you, but when we couldn't physically or financially do what you want us to do, all of a sudden no one is there for you and anything we have helped you out with in the past is completely erased. Also, pls stop stringing your fiance along, if you would rather talk to other females on social media, do the poor girl a favor and end it, she doesn't deserve to be strung along and your behavior is quite douchie.
Dear Mother, no you are not the smartest person in the world, even though in your mind you think you are far superior than everyone else, I can hold my own in a conversation. When you are confronted in trying to tell me how I should be thinking or how I should have worded my response, don't back peddle and act like you have no clue what I'm talking. Don't try and play the innocent card, woman up to what you're doing. The older I get the more I can see through your B.S. and the less I can tolerate it.
@bmr oh believe me I have tried! She doesn’t let him do anything with anyone! We were even at my MIL’s one day and he was home but he couldn’t wake her up to ask if he could come outside to play with her. This was at 3pm!!!! When my mil told me that’s why he didn’t come outside that day I was so heartbroken for him. I won’t give up though! My dh and I both feel so sad for him.
I am so sorry that I am not good enough! I have now come to the understanding that I will never be good enough no matter what I do or accomplish. But that is ok I have my beautiful kids and husband.
Dear small town we just moved from and in laws who live there... it’s a big world out there excuse us for wanting to leave the small minded people of that town.
I hope one day I find it in me to truly forgive you. You broke my trust over and over again and I genuinely loved and cared for you. It broke my heart to know that you hid your drug problem from me for so long. I felt like everyone else knew this side of you, but me. I feel like our entire relationship was based on lies. I faught so hard for us to work. I never wanted to give upon you, even after seeing your true colors. I prayed so much that God would heal you. I thought that taking you to church would help open up your heart. But I was wrong. You had one foot in and one out our entire relationship. It took you almost killing me for me to realize that I deserve so much better. Even now, I will always pray for you. I hope that you can get all the help you need and live a happy life free of all drugs. ?
It’s been almost 2 months without you & I know you have something to do with the strength I’ve been given to carry on. I never could have imagined losing you this early. Never. I still need you. I just had a baby, I need your advice, your support, your shoulder. I miss everything about you. It’s still so surreal to me that you’re gone. The whole situation was so unexpected and it happened so quickly that it feels like a dream or like I watched it on an episode of Grey’s or something. I start that job you wanted me to take next week but it’s right across the street from the hospital we lost you at and I’m afraid of having to drive past it every day. I know you wanted this for me though, so I will do it.
I wish you never got that surgery. I wish you could have seen how beautiful you were- you didn’t need it. You were perfect. I am sorry I didn’t visit after surgery but I am SO thankful I got to spend the whole evening with you the day prior. I’m sorry you spent your last day suffering. I wish someone could have done something to save you. I’m sorry that you won’t get to be here to see your grandkids grow up. I’m sorry you only got to spend a few years with your soulmate but I’m so happy that you finally found him. He is amazing, he is still here for us, he has more than filled the void my father left when he left. He’s your biggest advocate and he is determined to get justice for you. I’m just sorry you can’t grow old with him. I’m sorry you can’t be here to watch us grow into real adults but I promise that I will make you proud from heaven. I promise I’ll be here for my brothers, help support them and keep them or if trouble. I love you, mom. I am so so sorry this happened to you. It is so unfair.
Thank you for the ring, I know you had something to do with me getting it. Thank you for visiting me in my dreams so often, it’s so bittersweet though. Alana dreamed about you last night too. How crazy for us to have both seen you last night. I will make sure my daughter never forgets you or how much you loved her and I’ll make sure my son knows how important you were to us even though he won’t be able to remember you.
I love you so much. I miss you so much. I want you back so badly. I have so much more I want to say but I am balling now.
I want to forgive you. I wish I could. The hurt is too deep and I'm not ready. You cut me out for not encouraging your alcoholism and your enabling girlfriend, after years and years of wanting a relationship with you, watching you love my sister so much, while I was begging for a chance to get some of your leftover affection. By cutting me out of your life, you cut out the most awesome kid I've ever met. He's literally thebomb.com. I almost feel bad for you, because he loved you so much. Still does. He asks about you a lot. He misses you. But the simple truth is that he is just too good for you. I hope your jail cell is lonely, cold, and empty. I hope when you get out, you realize what you gave up for alcohol. I hope you realize the wedge your girlfriend put in your family. And I hope when you eventually either go to prison, kill someone or yourself by drunk driving, that I won't be affected emotionally. To me, you've been dead for months now. I've already grieved the loss of my dad.
I love you and I miss you. I have so many wonderful memories of you and I'm thankful for every single one of them. I know you had a hard life and I still don't agree with all of your decisions. But I forgive you for them.
I saw a rainbow and thought of you. I like to think that it's your sign to me that you're still here with me. So many of the best parts of me come from you. Thank you for being the glue that held our family together. We are your legacy and I hope you're proud of us.
I wish you would see things realistically instead of trying to be right. I begged you to reevaluate this move because we had another child on the way and transitioning to civilian life with no safety net was gonna be hard for us. As your wife I stood by your decision and now I'm starting to resent the situation you've put us in. Since we've been here you've refused to fight for us. You didn't fight for the healthcare we were promised and basically left me hanging at 6 months. You didn't fight for the money we were owed and I've had to work 70 hour weeks at the end of my pregnancy to make sure we were okay. And now you won't fight for hours at your job to keep us at bay. All you keep saying is "everything's gonna be okay." But you can't expect things to just fall in your lap. If you're not gonna fight for this family, move over so I can. I have no problem going back to work if you would watch the kids but you don't want to. After all the sacrifices I've made you'd think you could make just one. I don't want to resent you and we did sign up for better or for worse but our kids deserve more than this. And I have no problem doing it on my own if things don't change. I love you but we need to do better.
To my parents
I know I'm not a sentimental person but
I can't thank you both enough for everything you do for my kids and I. Your love is truly unconditional and never ending and I'm so grateful for you both. I keep crying on and off since you flew back home and wish we could live closer again. I know I can't come close to repaying you but I hope one day I can try ?
I know your in limbo wondering why I haven't spoken to you in months. I tried, I really did to forgive and move forward, but you lied. You told me you changed and you were trying. You haven't. I can't allow your persona in my child's life. She won't know your anger, and hurtful words. You won't be able to come and go as you please. To disown my child at your leisure like you did me.
You weren't here when I needed you the most, and I just can't forgive you yet. I'm sorry.
I believe there is a special place in hell for people like you. I don't open my mouth to speak your name because nothing good comes from it and I've had to lay it down at the cross. You are the biggest hipochristian I have ever met in my life. You and your now dead husband lured me into a false comfort and security to adopt my son to you 13 years ago with open verbal communication that it would be an open adoption and he would still call me mom and all the BS you made me believe would happen and right after the papers were signed you shut me out, cut off contact between me and my son, took advantage that I was to young and to poor to get a lawyer to protect myself, blindly trusting pure evil incarnate yourself. ..i should have known there was a reason cancer ate your uterus after you had my sons sperm donor to prevent you from creating and ruining anymore innocent lives, you are a selfish, heartless, evil liar, believe me when I say I have a name and GOD has called me found! This is still an unfinished battle but I gave this battle to my Heavenly Father.... It's not over yet, MY son will come home to his mother in God's perfect timing
I loved you then and I always will, I know why you have an anger problem, I understand your many hurts and insecurities. I've spent 8 years by your side, but your anger and abuse has left damage I am only now starting to understand. I'm not sure I will ever trust you. I'm such a loving selfless person who has forgiven you over and over but now we have 2 daughters, I can't let them see this or allow it to ever happen again. Please go to counseling like I've asked you for years. ? Even if you change I can't promise I will trust or stay forever, but I beg you just try. No matter what I choose to do I feel guilty, partly because of the lies and manipulation, also I know you feel bad and deep down. You are a warrior, no doubt, I love and respect your sacrifice for our country. I'm sorry you couldn't stay in and continue serving in the Marine Corps as you truly loved doing, but please fight for yourself and us now. Please protect us from you, because you haven't, now I have to. These next 2 months alone over the holidays are going to hurt, but I'm praying this is the time you finally stand up and change.
Not everything is about you. I HATE when you call my babies jrs and no I am not having f*** ing twins. I want to pop you in the mouth when you try being nosy and getting into our finances. None of your god damn business what we buy or what we spent!! You may be miserable living tight on your husbands social security while he lives in a nursing home but maybe you should get off your ass and get a damn job! Your family has no idea how to talk to family. No phone calls but yet you all botch that you miss us when we come to visit. And f*** you for making my 4.5 year old cry when he wanted to come home and you lied about it saying he never cried and wanted to stay the night!!! I hate you.
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To my mother in law:
You did irreparable damage to your kids. Your narcissism leaves your loving, empathetic son to the point that any mistake he makes is unforgivable. It left your youngest son to find solace, not in family, but in multiple good nothing boyfriends and drugs. It lead your oldest son to the Mormon church so that someone would understand him and protect him. You have such a reputation that the venue manager at our wedding literally avoided you all night just so he wouldn't have to deal with you, because you spread your toxicity all throughout the local Scottish community. I don't know how your extended family handles you, and quite frankly, I don't care now. Because now, I am married to your son. Now, either I am part of your life as much as he is, or neither of us are. And I won't let you hurt him anymore. I won't let you drain the happiness from his eyes when he announces big news. I won't let you kill any enthusiasm or hobbies he has, simply because you don't understand them. And I sure as hell will not let you do to our son what you did to him. My husband is the man he is DESPITE you, not because of you. And part of me hopes that one day, you look in the mirror and realize that you drove all your children away, because you're toxicity personified. One day, I hope you feel that. And one day, I hope you live to regret it.
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Inlaws
Grow up communicate with each other and no make dh donit. You are sisters and bil just grow up already.
Mil fil, stop being narcissistic and admit and admire when you are wrong. You cant be right 100% of the time, get over yourselves, make time for grand children and enjoy them before you loose them because you are so close already you lost one some and dh (the only one keft) us getting tired of your crap now too. Mil stop buying ugly a** clothes that don't fit for me and the girls and realize I owe you nothing fir trying to be nice even though we asked you to stop as it was.
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Tasha I could've written that word for word to my mil. I'm so sorry I know what that is like. My dh has such bad self esteem. One little mistake and he acts like he's going to be killed because of the way he was treated.
Thistle why can't families just be normal? Ugh I hate when people won't man up and just communicate themselves.
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To my S.O's sons mother:
Why do you have to act this way? I get that youre upset it didnt work out between you two, but we're all adults. I am not a homewrecker, you wrecked that home long before i came along. We've been together over a year now, its time you move on. Youre hurting your son even more than you realize keeping him away from his father. You didnt even want a child, you still dont. You dont even take care of him becsuse youre too concerned with getting revenge and getting your next fix. I wish you woukd grow up, i really do, and not even for me and my s.o. but for yourself. You have two children to care and provide for. You have intelligence, you have commin sense, youre just too stuck in highschool drama to use any of it. I want to see you succeed in life, i would have helped you with anything and everything, but instead you just see me as the enemy. You see me as the girl who took your boyfriend (even though you two had been broken up for months before we reconnected). Now, you see me as the woman trying to replace your son with my own. I cant help it that i got pregnant (we used condoms every time, id been on birth control for 6 years non stop, and was on no other medicines that could have interfered), i cant help it that its a boy, but i can tell you that it was never my desire to take your place, i never desired to replace your son, i just wanted to be happy, and i found that finally. But now you want to ruin it, now you want to play the victim and make me out to be the bad guy. It kills me, mostly because i never get to spend anytime with your little boy, mostly because you wont take thr chance ti get to know me, to know i mean you and your son no harm. But we are family now, like it or not, and i want our boys to grow up together. To see that families can work, that families can be there for each other no matter the circumstances. I have spent money on your son every christmas, every birthday, but i never get to see him. Ive met him once, and i love him to pieces. I dont want to replace you, i want to work with you. I dont want to take him from you, i just want to get to know him. I want him to have a relationship with his father, but you'll never let that happen so long as im in the picture. I feel for you, so very much, and i wish you all the very best in life, i just wish you would see i mean you no harm...
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Step Sister in law
I really don’t understand how you can sit on your butt, day in day out, nose shoved in your phone and ignore your son. Do you not see him begging for attention? It could be sunny and 75 outside and you keep him stuck inside because you are too lazy to spend some time letting him be a kid. Excuse after excuse keeps you from looking for a job, and the assistance you do get from food stamps etc, seems to always go to other things besides what HE needs.
How do you sleep past 1pm with a child!? I really hate watching how you ignore him. His dad wasn’t in the picture until recently, and from what I can tell his dad is being a better parent than you at this point. All your son wants is a hug from his momma. For you to read him a story and help him grow. For you to get your nose out of that dang phone and say let’s go outside.
Your on again off again relationship is toxic, and you refuse to see that someone who threatens not only you, but your FATHER who has been battling cancer for 2 years now, is no good for anyone. Yet somehow you still think your son should look up to him. Thank goodness that scum lives so far away so your precious boy isn’t exposed to him.
I watch how you talk to your son while we visit. Every word out of your mouth is said in a hateful aggravated tone. I will never forget him telling you he wanted to play with my daughter, and the way you reacted to him when he started to cry, lip trembling, because she was still eating. You looked at him and said “Are you really going to cry? Because I’m over that! It’s your bedtime anyway!” And tried to send him back to your house next door BY HIMSELF so you could eat after staying over at your house on your phone until almost everyone else in the family was done eating. The tone of your voice spoke volumes of how annoyed you are to be burdened with a son.
I really want to say all this to you and let you know that you need to step it up and stop complaining about a dead beat dad when you aren’t doing much better of a job. But I hold my tongue. For the sake of family. The ONLY reason I haven’t called CPS is because I know my MIL and your grandmother take care of him. He has other family that show him love and give him the attention he craves by making sure he is in clean clothes, and has had a bath and has a full stomach. One day I hope your 26 year old self matures enough to move out of your dads house, get a job, and step up to the plate. My fear is by then it will be too late. Your son is growing up wondering why mommy always yells, always says no, and never interacts in a positive way. He is going to watch other kids with their parents and wish he had what they have. And you will regret the days when he wanted hugs but you were too busy on Facebook or whatever it is you do on that stupid phone all day. Because there will come a day when you want a hug, and he will be too busy with his friends (God I hope you let him have friends) and he won’t want that hug because it’s embarrassing or whatever reason he has. And you’ll know the same heart ache he always had.
? gosh I didn’t mean for that to be so long but I do feel better. All these things I wish I could say but I just can’t bring that kind of drama to my MIL’s life. But my step sister in law needs a dose of reality. She’s 3 years older than me and acts like she’s still in high school. It pisses me off. It breaks my heart for her little boy. I hope she grows up soon.
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Ex friend- congratulations you turned into your pos mother, maybe even worse. You're getting back with your child molesting nasty lazy azz husband because you're too lazy to get a job? Sickening and you don't deserve your kids.
DH- I know you don't want to lose me but you're being selfish, still. I've asked you for YEARS to stop lying, to stop smoking dope, stop drinking bc what it does to you, get a job, any job, and KEEP it! NOW you want to get it together after I've had enough? NOW after we're back with my parents bc you crap away all our money and refuse to hold a job or get help for your compulsive lying? NOW you're sad that I don't love you? Well I've spent years loving you unconditionally and supporting every decision, even though they're usually bad, but now I have to think of OUR kids and the example you're setting for them. I have to start showing myself respect. The fact that I make enough money to support all of us BUT you literally take all you can get, hide YOUR money and screw us at every turn. I'm over it. I've asked you to leave, I've asked you for space, I've asked you to get it together and do it away from me but you refuse. So yeah I don't really want to be around you and eventually, once I have the money I will kick you out. I'll pay for a month or two of living, because I do love you, and then you're on your own.
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Dani- maybe you could start saying things to her when you see this happening? Like "so and so was playing and I think he just wants to join. I don't mind watching them" or "I'd love to spend time with him, maybe I can give him dinner and bring him home around bed time?" Like show an interest but also sort of bring up what she's missing without putting her in a position to get defensive. If she's on her phone "I think X (her son) needs to ask you a question..." etc. that's so sad!
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Dear Family(all of my family)
I'm tired if being treated like shat, I'm so damn tired of trying my best only for it to get shoved in my face I didn't try good enough. I hate feeling like I'm not good enough anymore, I hate that when I try telling anyone this they say that they understand when it isn't true you don't get it. I have so much anxiety built up I feel like I'm going to be sick. I feel like two different people most days, I'm stuck in a never ending cycle waiting for it to break open. I hate when I try talking about how i feel you laugh or smile and tell me im okay. But so and so needs help because he has "problems" we all need to help him because he is "special".
Im so sick of feeling like im in a hole and everytime I try crawling out I fall deeper. I am suffocating, I have no way out. I am tired of living day by day trying so hard only for it to be shoved back in my face and to be treated like shat. I wish you would look at me really look at me and see im not okay. Im hanging on by a thread and its finally breaking.
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Dear dad.
Why do you have to be so nasty to me and upest me everytime you see me or call me? Why do you think i am a lowlife peice of s*** i am your only child who has 2 of your grandchildren. You dont like my son and have a real problem with him hes 4! Just because you don't like his dad. He has done nothing wrong and you cant see the hurt that you cause all of the time. Who cares if you come to my house and things are out of place and we all have our pjs on sometimes we just want a relaxing day. I am not worthless i am a good mum i am there for my children we have bought our own home we have a car each we are fed and clothed but nothing is ever goof enough. You onky care about your wifes kids who can do no wrong. In 16 years you havent told me you loved me or gave me a hug you always have attitude with me. I am tired of trying the only reason i have contact with you is because if anything happened to you i would feel guilty. Why cant you just love me? You will not drag me down and you will not pull my partner down hes a good man. He provides for us and helps bring 2 children up what ever you say about him will never ever change how i feel about him. I just want a dad to love me why do you do these things so thanks for the years of hurt and upset you gave me i hope you feel a better man.
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Dear daughter,
I love you and miss you but I am heartbroken about the person you have turned into. I tried to raise you to have a good heart, to love your family, to be kind, and honest. I know you have been hurt but you can not turn around and hurt others to try to make yourself feel better. I wish your father would take you to the counseling I set up for you before you moved in with him. I see the road you've been going down and nothing good comes from it and I want so much more for you than that. It breaks my heart when I see you use people to get what you want and how selfish you've become and behave more like your father. Money seems to be all that matters and who can buy you more of what you want instead of earning things you expect them to just be given to you. That's not how this world works. And using people shouldn't be an option. You are about to be 14 which means soon you will be an adult. I pray for you all the time. You and your siblings have always been the most important people to me. You were the first person I brought into this world. You changed my entire look on life. Having you was the best thing to ever happen. You brought so much love into my life. I learned that I'd sacrifice anything and everything for another person. I had never loved anyone so much. And now you are slipping farther away and turning into someone I don't recognize anymore. I used to be your favorite person. I miss that.
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Dear sister, pls stop letting your husband treat you like utter and complete crap, only because you are too scared and lazy to take care of yourself and your 3 kids. Nothing he tells you when it comes to that woman and the baby he had with her makes any kind of sense.
Dear older brother, pls stop being such an ungrateful person, who only says you love someone because you can use them. Your family has done so much for you, but when we couldn't physically or financially do what you want us to do, all of a sudden no one is there for you and anything we have helped you out with in the past is completely erased. Also, pls stop stringing your fiance along, if you would rather talk to other females on social media, do the poor girl a favor and end it, she doesn't deserve to be strung along and your behavior is quite douchie.
Dear Mother, no you are not the smartest person in the world, even though in your mind you think you are far superior than everyone else, I can hold my own in a conversation. When you are confronted in trying to tell me how I should be thinking or how I should have worded my response, don't back peddle and act like you have no clue what I'm talking. Don't try and play the innocent card, woman up to what you're doing. The older I get the more I can see through your B.S. and the less I can tolerate it.
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@bmr oh believe me I have tried! She doesn’t let him do anything with anyone! We were even at my MIL’s one day and he was home but he couldn’t wake her up to ask if he could come outside to play with her. This was at 3pm!!!! When my mil told me that’s why he didn’t come outside that day I was so heartbroken for him. I won’t give up though! My dh and I both feel so sad for him.
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Mom and Dad
I am so sorry that I am not good enough! I have now come to the understanding that I will never be good enough no matter what I do or accomplish. But that is ok I have my beautiful kids and husband.
-your first born
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Dear small town we just moved from and in laws who live there... it’s a big world out there excuse us for wanting to leave the small minded people of that town.
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Dear ex,
I hope one day I find it in me to truly forgive you. You broke my trust over and over again and I genuinely loved and cared for you. It broke my heart to know that you hid your drug problem from me for so long. I felt like everyone else knew this side of you, but me. I feel like our entire relationship was based on lies. I faught so hard for us to work. I never wanted to give upon you, even after seeing your true colors. I prayed so much that God would heal you. I thought that taking you to church would help open up your heart. But I was wrong. You had one foot in and one out our entire relationship. It took you almost killing me for me to realize that I deserve so much better. Even now, I will always pray for you. I hope that you can get all the help you need and live a happy life free of all drugs. ?
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Dear Mom,
It’s been almost 2 months without you & I know you have something to do with the strength I’ve been given to carry on. I never could have imagined losing you this early. Never. I still need you. I just had a baby, I need your advice, your support, your shoulder. I miss everything about you. It’s still so surreal to me that you’re gone. The whole situation was so unexpected and it happened so quickly that it feels like a dream or like I watched it on an episode of Grey’s or something. I start that job you wanted me to take next week but it’s right across the street from the hospital we lost you at and I’m afraid of having to drive past it every day. I know you wanted this for me though, so I will do it.
I wish you never got that surgery. I wish you could have seen how beautiful you were- you didn’t need it. You were perfect. I am sorry I didn’t visit after surgery but I am SO thankful I got to spend the whole evening with you the day prior. I’m sorry you spent your last day suffering. I wish someone could have done something to save you. I’m sorry that you won’t get to be here to see your grandkids grow up. I’m sorry you only got to spend a few years with your soulmate but I’m so happy that you finally found him. He is amazing, he is still here for us, he has more than filled the void my father left when he left. He’s your biggest advocate and he is determined to get justice for you. I’m just sorry you can’t grow old with him. I’m sorry you can’t be here to watch us grow into real adults but I promise that I will make you proud from heaven. I promise I’ll be here for my brothers, help support them and keep them or if trouble. I love you, mom. I am so so sorry this happened to you. It is so unfair.
Thank you for the ring, I know you had something to do with me getting it. Thank you for visiting me in my dreams so often, it’s so bittersweet though. Alana dreamed about you last night too. How crazy for us to have both seen you last night. I will make sure my daughter never forgets you or how much you loved her and I’ll make sure my son knows how important you were to us even though he won’t be able to remember you.
I love you so much. I miss you so much. I want you back so badly. I have so much more I want to say but I am balling now.
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@olivia *hugs*! I'm so sorry for the loss of your mother ?
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Thank you ❤️❤️
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To my dad,
I want to forgive you. I wish I could. The hurt is too deep and I'm not ready. You cut me out for not encouraging your alcoholism and your enabling girlfriend, after years and years of wanting a relationship with you, watching you love my sister so much, while I was begging for a chance to get some of your leftover affection. By cutting me out of your life, you cut out the most awesome kid I've ever met. He's literally thebomb.com. I almost feel bad for you, because he loved you so much. Still does. He asks about you a lot. He misses you. But the simple truth is that he is just too good for you. I hope your jail cell is lonely, cold, and empty. I hope when you get out, you realize what you gave up for alcohol. I hope you realize the wedge your girlfriend put in your family. And I hope when you eventually either go to prison, kill someone or yourself by drunk driving, that I won't be affected emotionally. To me, you've been dead for months now. I've already grieved the loss of my dad.
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Dear Grandma,
I love you and I miss you. I have so many wonderful memories of you and I'm thankful for every single one of them. I know you had a hard life and I still don't agree with all of your decisions. But I forgive you for them.
I saw a rainbow and thought of you. I like to think that it's your sign to me that you're still here with me. So many of the best parts of me come from you. Thank you for being the glue that held our family together. We are your legacy and I hope you're proud of us.
Love,
Your Little Angel
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To dh
I wish you would see things realistically instead of trying to be right. I begged you to reevaluate this move because we had another child on the way and transitioning to civilian life with no safety net was gonna be hard for us. As your wife I stood by your decision and now I'm starting to resent the situation you've put us in. Since we've been here you've refused to fight for us. You didn't fight for the healthcare we were promised and basically left me hanging at 6 months. You didn't fight for the money we were owed and I've had to work 70 hour weeks at the end of my pregnancy to make sure we were okay. And now you won't fight for hours at your job to keep us at bay. All you keep saying is "everything's gonna be okay." But you can't expect things to just fall in your lap. If you're not gonna fight for this family, move over so I can. I have no problem going back to work if you would watch the kids but you don't want to. After all the sacrifices I've made you'd think you could make just one. I don't want to resent you and we did sign up for better or for worse but our kids deserve more than this. And I have no problem doing it on my own if things don't change. I love you but we need to do better.
To my parents
I know I'm not a sentimental person but
I can't thank you both enough for everything you do for my kids and I. Your love is truly unconditional and never ending and I'm so grateful for you both. I keep crying on and off since you flew back home and wish we could live closer again. I know I can't come close to repaying you but I hope one day I can try ?
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Dear mom,
I know your in limbo wondering why I haven't spoken to you in months. I tried, I really did to forgive and move forward, but you lied. You told me you changed and you were trying. You haven't. I can't allow your persona in my child's life. She won't know your anger, and hurtful words. You won't be able to come and go as you please. To disown my child at your leisure like you did me.
You weren't here when I needed you the most, and I just can't forgive you yet. I'm sorry.
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Dear sons grandmother,
I believe there is a special place in hell for people like you. I don't open my mouth to speak your name because nothing good comes from it and I've had to lay it down at the cross. You are the biggest hipochristian I have ever met in my life. You and your now dead husband lured me into a false comfort and security to adopt my son to you 13 years ago with open verbal communication that it would be an open adoption and he would still call me mom and all the BS you made me believe would happen and right after the papers were signed you shut me out, cut off contact between me and my son, took advantage that I was to young and to poor to get a lawyer to protect myself, blindly trusting pure evil incarnate yourself. ..i should have known there was a reason cancer ate your uterus after you had my sons sperm donor to prevent you from creating and ruining anymore innocent lives, you are a selfish, heartless, evil liar, believe me when I say I have a name and GOD has called me found! This is still an unfinished battle but I gave this battle to my Heavenly Father.... It's not over yet, MY son will come home to his mother in God's perfect timing
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I loved you then and I always will, I know why you have an anger problem, I understand your many hurts and insecurities. I've spent 8 years by your side, but your anger and abuse has left damage I am only now starting to understand. I'm not sure I will ever trust you. I'm such a loving selfless person who has forgiven you over and over but now we have 2 daughters, I can't let them see this or allow it to ever happen again. Please go to counseling like I've asked you for years. ? Even if you change I can't promise I will trust or stay forever, but I beg you just try. No matter what I choose to do I feel guilty, partly because of the lies and manipulation, also I know you feel bad and deep down. You are a warrior, no doubt, I love and respect your sacrifice for our country. I'm sorry you couldn't stay in and continue serving in the Marine Corps as you truly loved doing, but please fight for yourself and us now. Please protect us from you, because you haven't, now I have to. These next 2 months alone over the holidays are going to hurt, but I'm praying this is the time you finally stand up and change.
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Dear fiances mother-
Not everything is about you. I HATE when you call my babies jrs and no I am not having f*** ing twins. I want to pop you in the mouth when you try being nosy and getting into our finances. None of your god damn business what we buy or what we spent!! You may be miserable living tight on your husbands social security while he lives in a nursing home but maybe you should get off your ass and get a damn job! Your family has no idea how to talk to family. No phone calls but yet you all botch that you miss us when we come to visit. And f*** you for making my 4.5 year old cry when he wanted to come home and you lied about it saying he never cried and wanted to stay the night!!! I hate you.