Kind of irritated. It's so sad when you lose touch with friends when you have kids. One of my best…
Kind of irritated.
It's so sad when you lose touch with friends when you have kids. One of my best friends being one of them. So since Adam was born she texted me saying she wants to come visit. Of course I was so excited because she is always busy and I rarely see her. We have made plans 3 times now in the last two weeks and when the day comes I don't hear from her at all. I see her posting on fb and stuff but she doesn't answer my texts. I wish she just would let me know she can't make it. Well today I'm scrolling through fb and I see a post that she was tagged in. A friend of hers said that they are so excited to see her and have her see their baby tomorrow and that last week was such a fun surprise when she showed up to meet the baby. I don't know I just am upset that we have planned several times to hang out and she ends up not answering me at all but she spontaneously goes to visit other friends no problem.
deleted-user·
That would bother me also. That doesn't sound like a true friend. It seems like she only calls you when it's convenient for her.
deleted-user·
I agree! That doesn't sound like a good friend at all. It sounds like she's intentionally avoiding you & making no effort to hide the fact that she's going to see other ppl's babies. I'd just leave her be. If she is a true friend, she will come around eventually. I'd stop texting her.
deleted-user·
I have a friend like that we were realllllly close. Now we don't even talk. I don't bother reaching out.
Thisisfeeney·
I'm ready to just not answer her anymore. It just makes me sad that we used to be best friends and now I barely know her.
deleted-user·
I have a "friend" who's done/doing this exact thing since the time I found out I was pregnant. Went to hanging out everyday, to never hearing from her. She would make excuses when I tried making plans with her (or just not answer in general) and then weeks later message me and make plans, only to bail out or completely ignore me at the last minute. But is perfectly okay going to hang out with other people, on fb all day, invite other people over, etc. I don't consider her a friend anymore.
deleted-user·
Honestly it sounds like it's time to let this friendship fade. While it is sad , and it sucks to lose a friend, obviously she didn't prioritize your friendship. Concentrate on your new beautiful baby and your new family, and new friends will come along.
deleted-user·
Pp is right. This has nothing to do with you having a kid, as she is making time for another friend with a baby. This is her issue, not yours. It sucks to hurt a friend. We have all been there at some point I'm sure. But friendships die and when they do just let them fade. Don't stress yourself out over this.
Edit to add:- for it was me though, I'd ask her what her deal was.
deleted-user·
I had a friend who I went over to see her baby and brought her stuff she needed and when it came time to see my lo... she vanished. So I quit reaching out after the 4th time she blew me off. Haven't heard from her since ??♀️ hurt at first but it's better then being let down time after time
deleted-user·
She's not a good friend. I have friends who did this to me before and I just stopped caring in the end. As you grow old, you will realize who your true friends are and the ones you just need to let go.
Thisisfeeney·
I know it sucks because I had only a few good friends and none of them have kids. Or plan to have kids for a while. They are still partying and going out all the time. Which is fine but I still wouldn't mind hanging out with them every once in awhile. I feel like I have no friends anymore. I love my dh and my kids though. I keep telling dh we need parent friends so my toddler can have kids to play with and we could visit with people who don't need their butt wiped by me multiple times a day haha. And not to mention my family isn't that close with me. They just come around to see the kids then they leave. The ladies on here are the closest things to friends I have right now.