Ugh (long)
So yesterday I heard my sister and her Bf fighting. To the point I had to yell downstairs to stop it. (I heard my sister yell something, Something banging on the wall, then her Bf yelling) so I yelled 'what is going on in my house?!' The Bf yelled back my sister tripped him and he hit his head and wouldn't let him leave. I yelled to let him go. So she did. Two hours later he came back(to get some of his stuff) and came upstairs to tell me he was moving out. Ok fine. Idc (personally I don't know how she can be with him. He's a pos of a person) I tell him they need to figure out the living situation down there like adults. I guess his mom was here too. They both walked out the side door (my SO right there cleaning out the garage) my SO asked if he was really moving out and he responded that yes he was moving out.
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I will for sure. I'm so tired. I haven't really eaten or slept well since this has all happened. I wish DD would take a nap with me right now.
Yeah, well pipes and stuff not actual drugs. I text her this morning saying I couldn't believe she'd do meth or heroine in the same house as my daughter and I told her she's dead to me. I let my older brother know what's going on and my sister is showing photos to my mom and dad.
Would it be weird to go talk to all my neighbors and let them know what's going on? We have had cops here the last few days. And last night it was after midnight when they picked up the paraphernalia.
Oh and I had my sister and her daughter come over. They stayed until my SO got home. I couldn't be alone. Plus I wanted to get their ? put in boxes so they just come pick everything up quickly
We are taking pictures. We called an officer to the house to pick up all the paraphernalia and other items. I'm throwing half the stuff out because honestly I don't think as drug addicts they would remember what they had. But I challenge them to take me to small claims court. I'm going to have to hire a professional hazmat company to clean that room. I'm buying test kits to test my entire house. I'm sick to my stomach. I want to blast her business to my entire family. In time... I'll wait for the DA to press charges. But I'm filing for a protective order against both of them. And I want to see if we can do my home. Once we have the protective order we are safe from the squatter loopholes.
I'm so furious.
This is so sad. I'm so sorry for you. I know your emotions are probably all over the place but please get your locks changed tomorrow. It sucks that you're there alone. Contact the neighbors of the mail you found and give them all of his contact information so they can add it to their police reports. Even if they can't file charges, it'll be on record in case anything happens in the future. Take pictures of EVERYTHING before you start to clean. Have the cops come and take all if the paraphernalia out of the house so that they can't come back to you and try to say it's yours or something. This is just awful and I'm really sorry you were taken advantage of. I'm also worried that you're alone. Do you have anyone who can come stay with you? Any family you can stay with until your husband comes back? Put all of their stuff on the curb and let them know when to get it otherwise it's garbage. You don't owe them ANYTHING.
She'll never have contact with my daughter ever again. I am so serious saying she is dead to me.
@nancy we are going to contact her. We cannot allow a child to be around them at all.
My sister is dead to me. I'll never speak to her again. I've been packing up her belongings with my other sister and the things we are finding ????????????
My blood is boiling. I want to burn all of their stuff. I feel like I have to have a professional clean my downstairs bedroom and bathroom. Like I need to be wearing a mask.
I would take all their stuff out and put it outside/garage. That way when they come back they can just take their stuff and go. It'll be easier that way, so they wont try to guilt trip you into letting them stay again.
I would cut them off tbh. Let your mother deal with babysitting them since she is enabling them
I think the entire time they lived here his son was here maybe 6 times.
He has a son. But his ex didn't let him stay over a lot. She restricted his visitations. And I'm sure he will lose his privileges once they find out about the recent events.
I'm trying to relax. It's so hard. It's just too close for comfort. And I still have their belongings in my home. I have no idea what they are capable of now. I found drug paraphernalia and mail from our neighborhood. So he was stealing from our neighborhood. I checked our local neighborhood website where neighbors report crimes and such so we all know what's going on. But once they moved it the car breakins started. I don't know what kind of person I had living here. When the cop was here he asked us about heroine. ? I'm so sick to my stomach. I'm thinking far too much. And right now it's just DD and I at home. I really hate how I don't feel safe.
OP it sounds like you did everything you possibly could with what you were given. I think you need to relax and calm your nerves. I'm so glad your SO wasn't hurt. Or you or your daughter for that matter. Psychotic people are unpredictable and its better he showed his true colors now than to still be living in your sanctuary.
I tried convincing her while she was living here. I told her I'd help her with everything. Give her a bed and all. Because what she was using is his bed. She said she doesn't own anything. I tried explaining that materials don't matter. Things come and go and we could get her new stuff. The feelings of the break up would pass and everything would be back to normal soon. And she'd be happier. I really did try to get her to stay here so we could help her get back On her feet. But she left with my sister and ended up having him pick her up from where she was. So I give up. I have to focus on my family. My daughter. That's all that matters right now.
She also told his mom on the phone how much she appreciated her help and that she lived her. Not once did she say that to me. ? 5 months rent free. But I'm the mean big sister some how.
There certainly is only so much you guys can do, but she is putting herself in such a dangerous situation. Since there are drugs involved she's definitely blinded herself. She needs to get clean and away from him. You guys may be able to try convincing her, but in the end she is going to have to do these things on her own. It may be a wake up call for your mum when all this shat happens right in her own home. Your sister is probably going to end up with no family, but more than likely as you said she's probably going to end up dead.
That was the first and last time I help her. Never again. She is cut off from a relationship with my family. (SO,DD and I)
I don't know if I can have her admitted if she's not willing to go. She was willing yesterday. But now back with her Bf I doubt he'd allow it. (Like I said he's a pos of a person) my sister needs to grow up and love herself. She is with that loser because that's what she thinks she is. She really does need help. I'll try to get my mom on board for that. Because soon enough she'll be a dead sister than a mentally unstable one.
People like that never change. They're so use to the toxic relationship specially if drugs are involved. You just need to learn to let go and stop helping her b/c that's only enabling her. (not saying its your fault) . Unless she wants the help or to change , admitting her wouldn't really make a difference.
I am so glad you're getting them both out. Your mum is enabling that shat. I would go ahead and try having her admitted. She needs serious help. Mum isn't going to help and that dude makes it worse. She needs to get her shat together. I don't blame you. I really don't. I wouldn't want to be alone after all that shat. Could you have a friend come keep you company for a while? Maybe you could have an officer sit outside the home for a while to make sure you're safe? All of that is scary. I'm so glad none of you were harmed.
Honestly, if they/he doesn't come for the rest of his stuff after a while I would sell it/burn it.
ETA your sister is FOOLISH to go back to him. Not your problem anymore though.
I gave her a home, food when I could and even gave her clothes. I feel so used.
Oh they both are not welcome in our home. She has to come with my sister to get the rest of her belongings. And he has to be here with an officer. (That would go over well because they'd arrest him on the spot).
I wanted to have her admitted 5150 but my mom said 'it won't help her' which makes me mad because she would have round the clock care and her Bf wouldn't be there. I think they are using bad drugs like heroine.
I feel so guilty I allowed them into my home. Y safe place. My DD was here the entire time! She was oblivious to what happened.
But guys idk if I can be home alone for a while. At least until the stuff is gone.
Holy shat. Honestly, your sister should probably be checked in somewhere. That is a lot of shat you don't need to be dealing with and I'm sorry you've had to go through all of this.
Well wishes to you guys and I hope no more drama happens. You've been through enough scary shat
ETA I just saw what you added. I would bill them for that shat.
Guys they damaged our property ?
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