Yes my step kids are allowed to call me whatever they want my sd calls me mommy sometimes and she is with us about 75%to85% of the time and i see no problem in it..in your case it's even more appropriate...he wants to feel love by a mom and of you play that role then it shouldn't be a problem

We did talk to SS a few days ago and he said I really hurt his feelings when we told him to pick a nickname for me and that he felt really left out. He said he didn't think I loved him as much as DS. So we told him that he can call me mom if he wants too and he can call Hex's bf dad if he likes and we reassured him that we don't mind. He said he doesn't want to do that but he'll still call me mommy.

Thank you ladies. I love hearing your stories.

In your case I see it as appropriate, you are the mom. Sd called me mom when she was little but that was swiftly squashed by Biomom. Sd has brought it up several times since then but her mom always makes it a problem. But sd has to refer to her stepdad as dad, ya make sense of that ?

I would deff allow it my SS has called me mommy since he was 3 his bio mom told him over and over not to and he never listened he will be 8 soon and she has not seen him in almost a year he is my son and when some one asks him about his mom he thinks me. He has expressed to me how sad he was he didnt come out my tummy and never wants to see his bio mom again (she abused him) YOU ARE DOING THE WORK YOU GET THE CREDIT... let him call you mom

If he is deciding to then that's great! My daughter decided to call my husband "Dad" (her stepdad) when she was 7 and then they went through quite a struggle for many years and about two years ago when she hit teen years she stopped calling him that as she felt like he didn't love her as much as the others. It's true they feel like an outsider, she's expressed this to me and it breaks my heart. I know it's overwhelming isn't it, but as you said you're not going anywhere which is strong of you to press on through cause it will get better in time if you stay hopeful and work hard together as a family to resolve the issues. Bless your family!! There's so many of us (blended families) and we're all trying to make a family strong, it's not easy but it's worth it!! We are only 8 years into ours and I can't remember how many times I wanted to give up and how much I cried and how angry I was...but I made a promise to myself to not give up this time as I usually give up on many things and now I'm seeing the benefits and things get better in time... it's actually true!

My sm and my dad got married when i was 3. When i was old enough she talked to me and said you dont have to call me mom you can call me whatever you want to call me. Of course she raised me from 3 until i was grown. Her and my dad split when i was in my mid 20s and even now i call her moma. I refer to my bio mom by her name or my mother even now. My moma (sm) basically raised me. And my now sm i call her ma. I'm currently 1 day shy of 18 wks with a lil girl and part of her name is for my moma(sm1) and my ma(sm2).

I agree. He chose you. Let the child be happy. Hex can go f herself. She shouldn't have abandoned her child.

Thank you everyone! The reason he stopped calling me mom was because Hex lost her sh*t. That was a huge part of the fuel when she broke into our house three and a half years ago.

On one hand we don't give a f*ck what Hex thinks and on the there she's finally calming down (knock on wood!) and leaving us alone and we don't want to create waves again.

I say let him call you whatever he wants. If hex has a problem with it tell her that's what he wants! My sd calls me mom 95% of the time, the rest is only because she is having a conversation with her mother and needs to differentiate between the 2 of us. I'm Mimi as far as her mom is concerned, but the rest of the time I'm just mom. She only does it because it upsets her biomom when she calls me mom. I frankly don't care how her mom feels about it, but being wise beyond her years (she's 5) she can sense her mom's feelings about it and differentiates when she needs to.

If he wants to I have never made nor stopped the kids when they call me mom. Actually my steps called me mom when they was preteens because my bio started calling me by name because they did and on there own they corrected and said no that's mommy and when lo's were around they would say mom or mommy to get lo's back in the habit. Then it just stayed that way with them ten years later and I'm still mom.

What's the problem with him calling you mom? My son calls my oh dad and it's not his real dad but I let him decide. If that's what he feels comfortable with. Also why did he stop calling you mom?

I don't see why not. I'd just let him do what's natural and natural to him is calling you mom

Yes, allow it. Its his decision and it should be respected. If you forced him to then it would be bad. But if he decides he wants to call you mom in your home, then I don't see any problems with that.

But you're his mom though!