Did you have trouble getting your husband on board w/IVF?

You can also check with your clinic to see if they offer any type of “shared risk” program. That’s what I’m currently doing. If after 6 cycles you don’t bring home a baby you get a big chunk of your money back. I think men are inclined to think that we are being overly dramatic and that relaxing and trying naturally will eventually work. We have kept my husband’s parents out of the loop bc they are old fashioned and wouldn’t understand ivf and didn’t want any issues of them treating our future child differently.

I get it, as my husband was the same. For years he insisted we should carry on trying naturally, and was extremely resistant to getting tested or starting treatment. It’s a lot of strain on the marriage, and builds tons of resentment. The thing is us women have a primal drive to get pregnant RIGHT NOW, because we have a deadline. No matter how much a man wants a child, it wouldn’t come close to a woman’s desire for a baby. They have all the time in the world, we don’t. And the more time passes, the more anxious we get. So I understand that you would plunge into depression if you “paused”. And don’t get me started on mother-in-laws!! Maybe just don’t share any information with her? Keep her out of the loop so she doesn’t influence your husband with her opinion on your life? I let my MIL in on my last ivf cycle, and I swear it was bad karma. The cycle failed and she didn’t as much as express an iota of compassion. She has no idea we’re doing a second cycle right now! And btw, I paid for both cycles, so my DH didn’t spend a penny. He wants a baby desperately, but it took him years and years to understand and accept the need for treatment. There’s no shortcut to winning over your DH, I just hope he will realize how important it is to you to continue. Good luck ❤️