Blended Dh and I have been married for almost 2 years. He has a 4 year old. He shares 50/50 custody…

Oh my goodness. That woman sounds horrible. I have no advice but I'm glad your SD knows that her mom is being mean. Ugh, what a nasty lady!

It's incredibly frustrating because it's one thing to complain to her friends or other adults...but to tell her daughter? ? It's very upsetting :-(

Have you talked to your husband about it? Maybe he can tell his ex to stop. But at least SD knows she is wrong and it just makes the ex look bad.

My husband has a son (3) with his ex wife unfortunately we don't get to see him besides a few times a year he loves me and doesn't really understand he has a baby sister yet because it was kinda like hey meet your little sister (the first time anyone talking about a sister to him....not .y idea). Anyway he talks to me to his mom and her and my husband have a terrible relationship. So I'm just waiting to see if she says anything bad about me or my baby.

I would confront her! Nobody wil talk bad about my kids ever!

I'm so sorry you are going through this. Just wondering, if SD is old enough to know that her mum is being mean, is she then old enough to have fabricated all the things that her mother supposedly said? Is she feeling jealous & worrying about the impending lack of attention to her so she is trying to hurt you? I really hope it all gets sorted.

Best wishes & keep us update!

The first week it happened dh wanted to confront his ex about it. But decided against it because SD knows what her mother is saying is uncalled for. Hex is only making herself look bad. But its now happened several weeks in a row. Unfortunately I don't think confronting her will do any good. So for now we just reassure sd that she is going to be a wonderful big sister and that her little brother already loves her, ect.

Pp we have considered that she might be fabricating the conversations with her mother (at age 4 she already has a very big imagination). However the nastiness (since she found out I am pregnant) her mom has shown towards us has been pretty extreme and we fear it sd might be telling the truth.

Oh no! That's awful :( I truly hope it's not true. Having a 4 yr old myself I know how they can be & mine will tell lies to manipulate me against hubby & vice versa. Goodness.... I hope that she changes her ways & even if she feels those things they shouldn't he said around little ears.

There not truly much you can do...to confront will have things blow up in your face.... Instead combat hate with love... Tell your stepdaughter how precious she and her brother are. And what a wonderful team they will make......the hex is jealous because your so has move on and is now happier for it. So the only things she has left is spiteful words to her little one.

As horrible as she is acting, the good news is SD knows what her mom is saying is mean. Her mom had put her on the middle of this, maybe she can just tell her mom that she will love her little brother no matter what is said about him. Maybe hearing it from her daughter will make her see how childish she is being.

I would talk to her about it, she doesn't have to be happy about it and she can say what she wants to other adults. But she should NOT be talking like that in front of your SOs child. That's going to be his half brother. It's disrespectful and rude. Especially since that child is repeating the things he hears.

I'm in the same situation, I'm so sorry you have to deal with this. I have a 2 1/2 year old ss and every time we have a Skype session with him and the baby gets mentioned (or he says hi to me, or I ask him a question) the audio remarkably goes out, she distracts him, etc. When he mentioned the baby several times she said he was saying berries. Seriously?

No matter his hex's feelings, this is my ss' s half sibling. Hate me, be nasty and keep fabricating lies and other bs in court if it makes you feel like a big person. Don't take away from his experience of having a sibling though. That's incredibly low. In our case it's hypocritical too since she has 9 half, step, and ex-step siblings that she considers to be family.

Stay strong op. It's hard but don't let someone take away from your joy.

Thank you ladies for the support! I truly appreciate it. Another reason why I absolutely love this forum. You are all amazing.