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Jennifer
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Мама дочки (7 лет)

Should I find a different doc?

Should I find a different doc?

I had my first appointment on Friday, according to my LMP I was 4w4d. They had blood drawn, with it being a holiday yesterday, I just got the results. She said that my numbers were really low but wouldn’t tell me what they were. She said either it’s earlier than we thought, or something is wrong. But they won’t have me come in to do a repeat to see if my numbers are growing or not. Even after I told her concerns with having a previous miscarriage she says “just try and think positive, we’ll see you in two weeks at your next appointment.” I can’t stop crying. This is my last chance to have a baby, my husband didn’t want another and this was a surprise.

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deleted-user

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Find someone new. They should at least let you do a repeat draw at 48 hours and you have a right to know the exact numbers. To make you wait another 2 weeks is cruel.

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You need a doctor you can trust and communicate with. Otherwise it’s so much stress and a good way to ruin what’s supposed to be a wonderful time in your life. I learned that with my first. Definitely go somewhere that will put you at ease, not make you cry. My doc told me to come back in 2 weeks too. I felt a little freaked out at first, but I’m hoping for the best. It’s definitely an emotional thing!

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Wow I’m so sorry u are going through this love. I’m right there with U about hubby not wanting another and this was a surprise. I’m 5w6d and i have crampy twinges every night and I have to keep telling myself it’s normal and I’m getting them earlier because this is my second baby. It is so scary though and for ur dr to not tell u numbers or try and get another test to compare and tell u to wait TWO WEEKS!!! That is awful and I’m so sorry ur going through that. Yes get another dr ASAP

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I agree with pp they have no choice to give you your medical information. I’d go to the er so they can do blood work.

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You have a right to your medical information and records period. I would call and tell them you know that and demand them. And I’d find a new dr. You can’t force them to draw but they have no right to withhold your medical information from you.

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jenny907

JenniferМама дочки (7 лет)

No bleeding, so I don’t know. Appointment isn’t for another week so I’m losing my mind. I have anxiety and this isn’t helping!

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deleted-user

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I so understand girl! I've miscarried twice and pregnancy is absolutely terrifying afterwards. Thinking of you.

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jenny907

JenniferМама дочки (7 лет)

I had a miscarriage a few years ago and am so scared of every little twinge and pain and cramp ???

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deleted-user

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Cramping is very normal in pregnancy. Your body is preparing to grow a baby. Good luck and hoping for the best!

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jenny907

JenniferМама дочки (7 лет)

Looks like I may be out, started light cramping this morning, but no bleeding.

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jenny907

JenniferМама дочки (7 лет)

I’m really hoping I just ovulated late. I updated my info on this app and the What to Expect app with the date I must’ve conceived. It was one of two, and went with the later. So now I’m saying my edd is 9/25 instead of 9/17. I’m hoping that helps. It’ll ease my mind a bit, except now when I go in for my scan I’ll be 5w4d instead of 6w4d and prob be too early to catch a heartbeat.

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deleted-user

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I would personally find another doc

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deleted-user

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A doctor can't refuse to tell you your numbers. Make an appointment with your family practice doctor and ask them for a draw and then a repeat draw.

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jenny907

JenniferМама дочки (7 лет)

Ive literally been sitting here crying for 2 hours! I can’t do this for 2 WEEKS lol

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jenny907

JenniferМама дочки (7 лет)

I get that there’s nothing they can do if my numbers are low, but how do they know it’s progressing if they won’t draw again? And instead tell me to try and be positive and go through these next two weeks as if I was pregnant. With my last pregnancies I ovulated a week late, so I could legit be a week behind. But I don’t even know if my numbers are on track for that because she didn’t tell me. It could just be really early. I’m afraid to keep taking tests because the 2 I took were really dark, which scares me. If they were light and got darker, then ok. But they were already dark.

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deleted-user

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So that is crazy.... They are your results! I question a lot of this..one pull doesn't show the picture of your pregnancy at all unless the number is super super low that it isn't viable. But then she said come back in two weeks? I would personally see another doc. Sorry you are dealing with this!

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