I would do it but like pp said, they might not be people that you would to have a relationship with.

If you do decide to do it and it doesn't go well just know that you did your part that was in your heart. And if it does go well, then you'll have a bigger family.

I wish the best for you! ❤❤❤

I know it's a tough decision and it made me nervous at times. But just know whatever happens, you were never at fault ❤

Thank y'all. That's how I feel. That once he officially knows I'm his half sister then he can choose what to do with that and if he doesn't want to know me then at least I would know I have tried.

But last time we talked his mom had messaged me being him as well. She said I needed to stop messaging him or else she would take me to court for harassment. Which I definitely don't think it was at all she was just scaring me. But we are both over 18 now so I figured he can make his own decisions without his parents having to threaten anyone.

I have 2 stories.

Mine,

My biological father gave his rights up to me.

My mom always told me where they live just in case I wanted to know things and meet him and his family.

I reached out to my "half sister" on fb long time ago. She never responded and blocked me.

A while later I reached out to her brother. We spoke and messaged each other for about a week before he gave me his moms number which is my biological dad's wife. I called her and it was awkward but I felt okay if I ever wanted to meet him. She seemed like a nice lady.

Right before ds1 turned 1. Dh and I went to their house. He acted like he didn't know who I was and blamed everything on my mom (well, his wife did). Which I knew wasn't true because I have all the paperwork and reports from the police department. He barely spoke to me. His wife was running the show. And I felt really uncomfortable. I basically told him he was a loser for not being there for me when he has 2 other kids that he took care of

Half sister- by his first wife

Me- my mom

Half brother- by his wife that he cheated on my mom with. (Him and his wife weren't married at the time).

I've lost all contact and said what I needed to say to him at that time.

2) My moms husband had a son that he didn't know about (Jared)

Jareds wife reached out to my cousin about it since Jared just recently found out he was adopted through papers that came in the mail.

Cousin called me and I spoke to my step dad about it. He never knew he had a son. He said it was a summer fling and the girl moved away.

Anyways, it was fun times and my mom and her husband open their doors and hearts to him and his family.

I don't know how they're doing now because since my mom passed away I don't speak to them or my step dad and his family because we just had a falling out and my step dad is a narcissistic a****** that only cares about himself. Gets himself into situations and wants ppl to feel sorry for him. Or he will twist the truth so ppl will think he's not at fault.

As far as I know... they still talk and get together all the time.

My husband has 18 siblings...each and every one of them were adopted out. He was fortunate enough to be able to stay with 1 sister. His family has found all but 2 now and i was a a reunion last year where they got to meet a new sibling that was recently found and it was an amazing experience that I was fortunate enough to get to witness. I say if you approach him and he rejects you plz remember that it will take him time as well. This new sibling that we met was 53 yrs old...he know sence he was 48 that he had family just wasn't ready....I pray it turns out well for you! Good luck!

I saw go for it. He was probably a little in disbelief but didn't seem like he wanted nothing to do with you, just proof.

Reach out and let him know you located the birth certificate and would love to get to know him better if he is interested

Not the same but I guess my dad has a half sister out there somewhere. He has no interest in her and the only reason I found out was because my dads full sister was drunk at his 50th and said that. That's all I know.

I went through this. I knew my biological father had 2 other daughters and one night in my sleep I searched and found one on fb and messaged her. I don't even know why I did it. Anyway, a year goes by with no reply until she found it in her hidden folder on Thanksgiving day. It turned into a huge deal because she had no idea then her mother started messaging me and I just got all upset and dropped it. It's always been known on my side of the family that he was most certainly my father. He and my mother were married 9 years, then divorced, he married new lady and screwed around with my mom on the side and she fell pregnant. It made his life hell and apparently there were fights and dna tests then he tried to get custody and my mom ran off with me. Fast forward 12 years and my step dad went to adopt me and guy #1 had to sign over rights, which he did. Well when I got in contact they all acted like none of this ever happened and wanted a dna test. I was confused because I always heard different. Two years and no contact go by and he starts messaging me out of the blue. He and I talked a few times on the phone and he sent me an over the counter test and I decided not to do it and just leave well enough alone.

*side note my mother passed away about 10 years ago so, like you, I think I was just reaching out for something, idk, someone to love my children maybe.

I contacted a half sibling when I was 16. She was rude and basically told me she had real siblings (her mothers other kids) and didn't need me. It still hurts my feelings when I think about it, but at least I'm not curious anymore.

I didn't know my dad wasn't my real dad until I was 25. My biological sister contacted me. I didn't believe her, and my mom said she was wrong... And then I looked up his mugshot, and I look just like him. My mom finally admitted the truth. I still haven't met him. He's an alcoholic, was into drugs. Had no interest in ever meeting me. I talked to him on the phone, then he left me a couple of drunken messages (I had my fiancé screen; didn't hear them myself). I was pregnant and not interested in being around that. I did meet my sister, though. We don't have much in common, so we're basically Facebook friends. All the rest of his family has passed, except he may have a son out there. I'm not 100%.

I say go for it, though. Show him the birth certificate. See what information you can find. Just be prepared for the possibility that these aren't amazing people that will welcome you with arms wide open. I hope for you & your son's sakes that they are, though. I wish you all the best of luck.

I have a similar but different story. I found out at 16 years old. I met my dad, step mom, and two brothers when I was 17. A year later I was told I also had an older sister and a nephew but she and our dad had a falling out years ago and he hadn't heard from her since. I found her on fb and sent her a message. I introduced myself and asked if she would like to have a relationship. She responded with a yes. We planned to meet that summer and I was so excited. I bought my nephew a gift and when the time came, she stood me up. That was in 2007/2008. Every now and then I'll get a drunk message from her and I wish her a happy birthday every year.

All in all, I'm glad I reached out to her because, in the end, I know I did all I could do and tried. There is no "what if" in my mind.