I need help My sons father and I had just received a judgement in family for his visitation. He gets the 1st, third, and…

I believe jobs let you take off time for uas, if he's on probation his job should know already. So basing it on this, and regardless, you are not in the wrong.

Just dealing with him giving me a guilt trip doesn't make anything easier

Hes already on 2 uas a week for his probation and missed both last week. I saw the posts yesterday but they were posted,on,the 14th and had visitation over the last weekend but my baby came back mean and was hitting and stuff. I wouldn't have had him have my son over the weekend if I'd seen the posts earlier last week but I didn't.

You did the right thing. My friend was able to get drug testing ordered for visitation. Maybe you can ask about that?

Well only time will tell. If he is using its best your son isn't around that. Its better to protect your son than to not and something happen that can't be taken back.

Although you could talk to him and see if he's willing to do an at home test you can get one from the drug store

Andromeda69 I think my,post glitched on your comment..

My sons father and I had just received a judgement in family for his visitation. He gets the 1st, third, and fifth weekend of the month and holidays are split mainly every other year. For example today is my sons birthday and this year was his dads year to have him. His dad also took today off work. .... My problem is that my,son came back from,his dads house this passed weekends angry, and unruly, and was hitting. Not,only that but his father has missed two uas for his probation and has posted openly on facebook that he smoked meth and stole painkillers from family. I feel as if he was talking about the way past when talking about the stealing and smoking(there were other personal details in the post that indicate situations,from years ago). I found this out yesterday and saw the posts yesterday too. I went in today and filed a restriction on visitation due to the posts and missing his uas. But I feel like a terrible human being,for it.... I know,in my mind its not in,my sons best interest to be around his dad if he is getting high. And missing uas doesn't indicate anything good although he says he missed them because he was working. So,why do I feel so guilty inside. Am I wrong for not letting,him have his,son today for his birthday even regarding the situation? I just want to know if anyone else would do what I did. Or tell me,if I was wrong for filing the restriction. I just feel so bad and wrong and have no idea why. Like what if he actually was at work, and what if the posts were,indicating past situations and not current ones, then ill feel so bad for taking away his sons birthday with him... But what if he is getting high and That's why he missed the uas. I just feel bad because I wouldn't want to be in his situation right now, he was doing so good and all of a sudden this. I dont want to be the buy who gets him in trouble,for messing up one time. But I have to think about my son.... Idk I just feel so guilty and,Idk why. Ive literally been crying all day cuz I feel so bad. Maybe I just feel bad cuz he took the day off,work and doesn't get his son for,his 3rd birthday now because I dont know why he missed uas.