Lying to your kids?
How do you feel about lying to your kids? Most parents tell their kids about Santa and the Easter Bunny, etc. But what else? For example, if they're little and a horribly annoying toy runs out of batteries do you ever tell them it's broken? At least for a little while?
My parents straight up told me that Santa, the Easter bunny, & tooth fairies aren't real and that they buy me the things. I came out fine, when my cousin who use to make fun of me for not believing found out they weren't real it broke her heart so bad I remember hugging her on her bed while she cried all night long so I don't plan on telling my kids about them. As for little white lies such as those super annoying toys grandma, grandpa, uncles,& aunts buy my excuse is "I can't find it but here is a book or blocks"
We were at my mom's for Thanksgiving yesterday, and my brother and his 3 kids were over. His 3 year old was recently told by SIL's whole family that when he does his ballet toes (up super high on his toes.... don't know what you call it) it is only for girls blah blah blah.
My brother kept trying to get his 3 year old to do it but he wouldn't, he just kept saying it was for girls.
I full out, bold faced lied to him! I told him that my husband knows the Ninja Turtles and they told my husband that that is how they walk/dance in the sewers and is why their feet are so clean......
He did it for me after that!
I plan on not telling the little lies to my child. I know I might fail, but I really don't want to normalize it. I do need to learn tact if I plan on not lying though.
As far as Santa and things like that, I think it can be beneficial to believe. It can increase imagination. I didn't want to do it originally, but my husband put his foot down lol.
Lol at the happy truck.
Something like whether or not a shot would hurt I agree I wouldn't lie about. I tell her exactly what to expect especially with doctor visits and things like that.
I just don't want to be painting her fingernails all day long! Now I'm feeling bad about it though.
I disagree ripped... Not with the magical part. But you're telling your kids something you know to be false. Pretty sure that's the definition of a lie. Doesn't mean I disagree with it. But I don't think calling it a lie makes me callous. Socially and culturally common and acceptable, but a lie nonetheless.
I don't lie to my kiddos. I don't want them to lie to me so I won't model a behavior I despise. I want them to know that I will be up front an honest with them and they should be with me too. Now then again, I don't care about a meltdown and can pretty much stop it in its track with all of my guys but one. She requires a little "motivation" to cease and desist.
I only tell her little lies to avoid meltdowns or new ways to explain. When the tablet is dead she doesn't understand it needs to charge so I say it's broken. She has a severe meltdown when I leave her with her dad at home to go to school so I lie and say I forgot my phone downstairs and I have to go get it. She says "okay mama" and she's perfectly fine the whole time I'm gone
I do my best to model the kind of behavior I want them to have. That includes being honest with them about why I make the decisions that I do. I try my best to use age appropriate explanations. But occasionally my explanation is just "because I said so" depending on the request.
When my son was younger he would watch the movie Cars nonstop on DVD. One day after he came home from daycare he wanted to watch the movie. I told him that I accidentally broke it when I was cleaning. I didn't actually break it though, I just hid it. Eventually I brought it back out and claimed it was a new DVD. That lie was to save my sanity for awhile.
I don't tell her lies that will be detrimental to her development or anything haha. Last night I was drinking a milkshake and my dd wanted a sip but I didn't want to share so I was like "no, it's too hot for babies!"
Whatever, I'm pregnant, she can't have any of my milkshake. Little mooch.
I lie to my kid constantly.
"No sorry, you can't play with that- that's broken."
"If you don't help mummy tidy up, I'm going to give those toys to another boy or girl that will appreciate them."
"It's bedtime".
"We had to give that book [which I hate] back to the library".
"Daddy said you couldn't."
...If I'm wrong, then I don't wanna be right.
Nope.truthfulness is key. I just explain things in ways so that They would understand.