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LaLa G

Rejected and sad Since my ex-husband and I split almost two years ago I've been on many dates but have only seen a…

Rejected and sad


Since my ex-husband and I split almost two years ago I've been on many dates but have only seen a couple people more than once. I thought maybe I was emotionally unavailable until this one. The first guy I actually cared about. And the first one to reject me. This is why I don't let myself care. I can't handle being hurt.

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Aw panda I'm sorry!

I hate the dating scene it sucks. It's so hard to find a decent partner and when you do they typically screw up somehow.

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So sorry to hear that. I'm back in the dating scene and it's terrifying for me because I already feel rejected and damaged. Like my friend always says, something better is waiting for you and will come at the right time.

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I'm sorry ?

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Sorry to hear that. You'll find someone though! Dating sucks for awhile but it'll will be worth it when you find that special someone

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It will happen when it's supposed to. I suggest a large dose if chocolate and some pampering.

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Awe damn I'm sorry. But he wasn't the right one, so maybe try to see it as a good thing? He saved you from a lot of hassle and you can continue to look for the right guy.

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I'm sorry you are going through this.


Hugs

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Rejection is the worst feeling, I'm sorry. I know this sounds cliché, but once you find your soul mate, you'll be thankful you didn't waste any time on these other doofuses!

pandalicious

LaLa G

Thanks everyone. I'll be fine, I've gone through much worse than this. It just sucks.


And to the pp asking if I'm over my divorce - I didn't date for over a year afterward. I don't rush into relationships and I know it's important to have time to heal. I've dated mostly as a way of meeting people, getting out of the house, etc. I have a therapist and she encourages it. So no worries there. This is just the first one I cared about. And the first one to reject me. Normally I don't get past a date or two so they don't have that chance, lol. I dated one other guy for about two months and he turned out to be crazy, I gave him the boot and upon reflection realized I wasn't emotionally invested at all. I was just like wow, crazy, bye. Without blinking.


Anyway, you guys are the best. ???

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I was always very careful with my heart too. I went on mostly 1st and 2nd dates. It took a special kind of man to get a third date out of me. I even walked away from my dh early on. I was heartbroken over that one. The difference was that he and I remained friendly and we built our friendship without the pressure of a relationship. It helped me let my guard down. It helped him understand what my past issues were and helped me understand his. It took 6 months for us to try again. But the wait was worth it.


I hope you find a wonderful man that understands how much he should cherish you. You are a beautiful person inside and out. In time a kind, honest, compassionate man will see that. I'm here anytime you need a friend. Hugs Panda!!!

pandalicious

LaLa G

Thanks yaya. ❤️


It may sound dumb but I'm actually kind of proud of myself for trying. Despite how it ended. I let myself care and risk getting hurt and that's huge for me.

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That is huge! Especially with what you've been through. If you don't mind me asking, how do you meet people? My bil is in the process of divorcing my sil and he asked how you meet people after being with one person your whole life (25 years). And I had nothing to give him.

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Hugs & kisses?

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You should be proud! It took courage and strength. And you have both, without a doubt!!!

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Yes Yaya!!


Agree??

pandalicious

LaLa G

Ugh mamanicky, that is part of the problem. I pretty much use online dating and it sucks. I wondered the same thing because I met my ex right out of college. And had met all my boyfriends through school.


If he has any interests or hobbies the best thing to do is just get out and get active. Even if it doesn't lead to a date, trying things like meetup, or taking a class for something of interest is a great way to meet people. Just anything not to sit at home alone. Focus on the social aspect first. That way you can also meet people with similar interests. But I know for me just getting out even with friends is really important. There are divorce recovery groups out there too. Social support is soooo important!

ugh Why the heck dont people show excitement for a 2nd baby in the family, a rainbow baby at that? It really bothers me.…

ugh Why the heck dont people show excitement for a 2nd baby in the family, a rainbow baby at that? It really bothers me. This baby is just as important as my first, we had a mmc in November, and so this baby is so wanted and we are so excited..and I need the support and excitement because I have had a lot of anxiety these first 12 weeks... but no one seems to care or ask how many weeks I am, or how I'm feeling, or anything. Why is that? I always ask my friends how they are because every baby should be celebrated, if its your first or 100th. Rant over. I just feel like no one cares and it kinda hurts.