Rejected and sad
Since my ex-husband and I split almost two years ago I've been on many dates but have only seen a couple people more than once. I thought maybe I was emotionally unavailable until this one. The first guy I actually cared about. And the first one to reject me. This is why I don't let myself care. I can't handle being hurt.
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That is huge! Especially with what you've been through. If you don't mind me asking, how do you meet people? My bil is in the process of divorcing my sil and he asked how you meet people after being with one person your whole life (25 years). And I had nothing to give him.
Thanks yaya. ❤️
It may sound dumb but I'm actually kind of proud of myself for trying. Despite how it ended. I let myself care and risk getting hurt and that's huge for me.
I was always very careful with my heart too. I went on mostly 1st and 2nd dates. It took a special kind of man to get a third date out of me. I even walked away from my dh early on. I was heartbroken over that one. The difference was that he and I remained friendly and we built our friendship without the pressure of a relationship. It helped me let my guard down. It helped him understand what my past issues were and helped me understand his. It took 6 months for us to try again. But the wait was worth it.
I hope you find a wonderful man that understands how much he should cherish you. You are a beautiful person inside and out. In time a kind, honest, compassionate man will see that. I'm here anytime you need a friend. Hugs Panda!!!
Thanks everyone. I'll be fine, I've gone through much worse than this. It just sucks.
And to the pp asking if I'm over my divorce - I didn't date for over a year afterward. I don't rush into relationships and I know it's important to have time to heal. I've dated mostly as a way of meeting people, getting out of the house, etc. I have a therapist and she encourages it. So no worries there. This is just the first one I cared about. And the first one to reject me. Normally I don't get past a date or two so they don't have that chance, lol. I dated one other guy for about two months and he turned out to be crazy, I gave him the boot and upon reflection realized I wasn't emotionally invested at all. I was just like wow, crazy, bye. Without blinking.
Anyway, you guys are the best. ???
Ugh mamanicky, that is part of the problem. I pretty much use online dating and it sucks. I wondered the same thing because I met my ex right out of college. And had met all my boyfriends through school.
If he has any interests or hobbies the best thing to do is just get out and get active. Even if it doesn't lead to a date, trying things like meetup, or taking a class for something of interest is a great way to meet people. Just anything not to sit at home alone. Focus on the social aspect first. That way you can also meet people with similar interests. But I know for me just getting out even with friends is really important. There are divorce recovery groups out there too. Social support is soooo important!