So just when things are looking awful
They turn around. Right? No. They keep getting worse. Every f-ing day.
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They were supposed to come 8 - 12 today for the shower. Still nothing. Just talked to them and the woman in the office (wife of plumber) started telling me how sweet he is and how there was a woman getting divorced with a young child who was crying at which point I cut her off and told her that was me.
Yes, the plumber I cried to is telling other people stories about me and how bad they feel for me. ?
Nothing like a little pity to make you feel pathetic. ?
And to update we are actually communicating nicely by email and discussing some things that we haven't before. I am hoping this will be a turning point for us going forward. He apologized for being nasty and refusing the trade for vacation and I think now that we're trying to understand from the other's perspective it is helping both of us to try to resolve things peacefully.
Of course, this has been the pattern so far, he flips out, then apologizes, then things are calm for a few months, repeat. I'm hopeful - but not necessarily expecting a change in that cycle. Will have to wait and see.
Thanks everyone.
My shower still isn't fixed ? but it should be today.
@panda.....glad he finally flipped the script and was human! Maybe he doesn't think it was an affair....even though it was....men are a little oblivious to the obvious for us! Assuming he still doesn't know about the evidence....
I am sorry that things are rough...you know you can reach out for hugs any time! We have been through a lot together!!! Here for you!
Hugs for support!
Mine and dh's last year and a half has been a huge swirl of ups and downs as well. Mostly downs. I only mention ups because we found out we were pregnant and I have birth to a beautiful baby girl!!!
Sometimes you have to cry and let it out. But one thing I try to remember is after I've cried and sobbed all that I can. I dry up. And remind myself my life can't possible be s*** for the next 60 years. So. I keep reminding myself eventually things will look up. Hopefully sooner rather than later.
Sending you big hugs and positive vibes.
Steph I completely missed your suggestion of meditation. It's funny you say that because I recently started doing that. Though I don't do guided I do it on my own. I'm not great at it yet but I think it will be very helpful for me.
Thanks baby. No margaritas for me right now quit drinking and too poor to go to the salon but I'll do my own pedi tonight at home though. My toenails are in desperate need of new paint. :)
Kvonq - that was pandamama13 that came up with that one. There was much discussion on what to call him. DMFA = Dumb Mother F'ing A'hole. Lol.
When it rains, it pours. Don't stress too much, you will get through this storm too. You have been so strong and although things seem rough right now, they WILL improve. He's showing you he has always been a liar; if he can't even admit to an affair because he doesn't think you have any proof, shows that you made the right decision as he is incapable of honesty. You already left him, why not be honest now?
Chin up :) soon this bump in the road will be far behind you!
Most of you will never believe this. But I emailed him exactly what I think and I actually got a positive response. I expected him to answer with the meanest most hurtful things possible. But he wrote a sincere email explaining how he feels and offering for us to start trying to communicate better. I'm completely shocked. In a good way. And scared. I'm afraid of bring honest with him. Like its somehow a trick.
Oh, and one thing I find irritating is that he still keeps insisting that he didn't have an affair with B. I have video of them kissing. I don't know why he keeps lying to me. Even if they didn't have sex (which I don't believe), he went to her house once a week while lying to me about where he was. That's an affair. Even if its just emotional.
Thank you so much for all the support ladies I really am trying my best to be positive but it's like it's pointless because things just continue getting worse.
On the bright side the divorce can be filed in two weeks. Though there's a bunch more money that I don't have there. Oh well.
I forgot to mention that my yard is infested with yellow jackets and I'm allergic and have to pay for an exterminator. ?
I'm sorry hun, I have been following your story for months now. I understand things may feel like they are falling apart but you, you are strong. You can cry all you want but you are out of that nasty relationship and you have that beautiful daughter and that is something to be proud of!
Please know that when you go through things like this, you grow. You expand, you learn and you come out better!
I recommend a daily meditation, guided from YouTube, it's very nurturing ?
I wish you the best!
I'm so sorry panda. You have been dignified and stoic throughout everything - it's only right you get to be weak sometimes. I wish I lived near you to help. Fingers crossed, prayers and good juju bees that things will start getting better and sending a massive hug and virtual donut and cocktail x
Aw I wish you lived near me so I could take you out and just let you rant and pour your heart out :(