Terrified & feeling so alone

I found out today that I may need shoulder surgery. I had a 2.5 year old, a soon to be ex-husband, and no family in town. If I have surgery my dominant arm will be immobilized in a sling for 4 - 6 weeks. I won't be able to care for myself much less my daughter.

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pandalicious

Good!!! Glad it went well for you!

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Well, I made it through surgery just fine. They ended up fixing the tear and also putting some sutures in the socket to hold my shoulder in place, as it was really loose and unstable. I'm feeling really good right now. Surgery was about 10 hours ago. I'm guessing tomorrow will suck, but I'm just going to take it one day at a time. I can still use my hand below the elbow for holding REALLY light things. Don't stress too much, hoping for good news for you!

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pandalicious

Sorry your having surgery pitbull!!! At least it's your non dominant arm, but regardless anything one handed is difficult. Let me know how it goes! Good luck!

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I'm having surgery tomorrow on my non dominant shoulder to repair a tear. I'm scared out of my mind. I have a 2 year old as well. I have to have this done though. I've already waited over a year. I'm supposed to go back to work Tuesday and I just don't think it will happen.

How the heck am I going to take care of myself?! Shower, cook, do my hair, get dressed, or even just go to the bathroom? I'll let you know how it goes and if I figure out any tricks or tips.

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I don't have any good advice, I hope the results come back and they are better than ur doctor thinks so no surgery needed. If u need surgery ur ex will just have to step up and help.

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pandalicious

Thanks teach.

I guess right now I'm just scared more than the logistics of it. I'm sure it will work out.

But after being with someone for over a decade and having that security of someone always there to help when I needed it, it just makes me feel so empty that I don't have that anymore.

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Yikes!

Here for you....from a distance! Now is when you need to get a bit creative....think of all of your resources....maybe mom can come the first week and then rotate through friends per day....monday is suzie, tuesday is sally, and so on and have yourself in a basic ready to go state with minimal to do!

Hugs for support!

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pandalicious

Thanks ladies.

Yes I got an injection today. This is my second. I've already been through a full course of PT. it's been going on since Dec. so that's why he seems fairly certain I have a tear. If not it should have fully recovered by now.

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Hopefully you get good news.

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Yikes. I just got a steroid injection in my wrist. I'm hoping it does the trick because we have no family here either if I need surgery. I hope your MRI comes back with good news.

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pandalicious

Actually, he will be living with his parents as of this coming Sat.

To recap he cheated on me, we're getting divorced, and he has basically tormented me. He threatens and pursues legal action anytime he decides I'm not giving him his way. Next court date is Nov 18th. We've been separated less than a year and he's already signed an agreement twice but then comes back challenging it.

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I don't know your whole story, but what about his parents?

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pandalicious

Thanks yaya. ?

Hopefully I'm jumping the gun and won't need surgery. But the Ortho seemed pretty convinced its a tear. Won't know until a few days after the MRI which isn't until the 28th.

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pandalicious

My mom will come but she's 73 and not in the best physical shape herself. And if I have to have her here for 6 weeks I might jump off a bridge.

Yes I'm sure he'll take her extra. But I'd like to minimize that because she knows her routine and I don't want her getting confused or upset.

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Panda! I'm so sorry! I wish I was there! I would help you in a heartbeat. Is there any way you can find a mother's helper? Maybe a family member can fly in? Hugs!!! I'm here for moral support!

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Is there any wY your mom can help

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