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I put sole custody and he wants it changed to joint. My reasoning was this. I have always been the one to make all the decisions for her. He has never been involved in them. So why should I have to go get him to sign something anytime I want to change her daycare, switch her Dr, etc. He's never had any involvement in those decisions why would he start now. Honestly it was just to make my life easier. And in addition, he clearly showed that dd's best interests are not his first priority. If they were he would not have broken up our family.
He's reading it further to see if there's anything else he objects to. If that's the only change he wants I'll make it. If he comes up with a list of stuff I'm going to tell him to get his own atty.
Oh and he has no idea I have evidence of the adultery.
Wow your a better woman than me. I commend you on being so calm. Divorce isn't no joke it sucks it couldn't work out. However be he did this to his family. What you mean he won't sign????? What are the stipulations??? He should be lucky he's not dealing with someone that wants to take everything away from him. Keep your head up you sound like a smart woman. I'm sure everything will end up in your favor since you do have evidence of him not being faithful. I don't understand why people just can't be honest with the ones they claim to love. After you came to me and said you have an infection I would have confessed not continue with the bull s*** . Smh!!!!! Hang in there I wish nothing but the best for you and your daughter.
Awwww panda. You handled this so gracefully. I found out dh has been up to no good couple weeks ago and I immediately smashed his phone & went off like a psycho (justifiably so). You seem to be in a way better financial situation than myself which will only help you recover and sustain without him quicker. I'm sorry for you & your dd. I can't imagine the strength & courage it took to do things the "right" & mature way. You're clearly an incredible woman who anyone shouldn't mess with! I send you strength, forgiveness, future joy& most of a love. I hope you come out of this with your esteem in tact & head high. Xoxoxo
SOOO.... He went downstairs and started googling. Now wants to change the custody, said he won't sign the way it is. Ugh. May not go as easy as I thought.
And pp he did apologize. Not for doing it. He said he apologizes for putting me through this. Not the same, really. But better than nothing I suppose.
Oh wow! Well - you did it, panda. Can I just say how strong you are for doing that? I am very impressed and relieved you are leaving someone who would put you and your daughter at risk. I really do hope all goes well and if you can or want to update us then please do so. :)
ETA: you were extremely calm to him which honestly probably scared the s*** out of him. It is...interesting to me when I read how a woman would beat her man if she caught him cheating. What you did was 1000% times better lol.
Oh panda I am so sorry it came down to this but am happy that things went well with the confrontation and getting you some peace. I will be thinking of you as I know you will have some very challenging times. PM me if you need to talk or anything at all, I'm always here to lend an ear.
Wow you handled the confrontation very well. Way to go mama.