In laws ? My father in law got short and snappy with my husband on the phone tonight. My husband called him 4 times…
In laws ?
My father in law got short and snappy with my husband on the phone tonight. My husband called him 4 times yesterday to wish him a happy birthday, he didn't answer. So he calls today upset that he wasn't wished a happy birthday. ? This is how he is, I can almost guarantee he saw he called and let it go to voicemail just so he would have something to complain about. Dh told him that I'm getting inducted on Monday and that he would keep him updated throughout the day and tell him when baby is born. Father in law offered to babysit my almost 2 year old son. This man has never been alone with my son. Their house isn't baby proof and he can't even walk since he had a knee replacement like 2 months ago. He's never changed a single diaper in his life. No joke, not a single one out of his three kids. How does he expect to babysit an almost two year old? Dh said thanks for the offer but my mom and dad are going to have him, which he chuckled and said "of course she is". My mom only babysits my son for 4-5 hours on Saturday while my husband and I are at work since our shifts overlap. Then he said "looks like this will be another grandkid I won't get to know" a few other things and then "well *my name* is the boss" and hung up. I know he was making that remarks because dh and I both cook, clean and work. He made a sly remark a few years ago about how he has never touched his stove or the vacuum, and how men shouldn't have to. This is the same man who left his family for his mistress and could never keep a job to provide for his family. I'm pissed he said that about me because I have never once stood in the way of my husband and his family, and I never would. That is his decision to make. I can tell my husbands feelings were hurt that his dad was treating him like shat, and I'm even more pissed about that!! Some people just have to be so miserable. ?
deleted-user·
What a ridiculous person. I hate when adults act worse than children. That's basically an adult tantrum. I'd start calling him out on it, everyone time he starts lol.
MyNamesNotZelda·
Мама сына (1 год), беременна (40 нед.)
I'm just letting my husband deal with it, it's his family, but I can tell it's going to be a while before he gets over this. And all of this was for nothing, that's the sad part!!
deleted-user·
What a shat starter. I agree with skate he seems like one to throw adult tantrums ?
MyNamesNotZelda·
Мама сына (1 год), беременна (40 нед.)
Right, like damn, did you drop your binky??
deleted-user·
Misery loves company. Just be a good wife to your husband and support him. Your fil might mean well in his own head, but don't let his selfishness get to to you and your family. I think it's great that he wants be involved but he's absolutely going about it the wrong way. It's crazy how we seem more grown up than our parents sometimes. Definitely, go with your instincts and let your fil wallow in his own self doubt. Your family will be just fine with the plan you already have. Just encourage your husband to focus on his family and not worry about what his dad has to say or think. My DH really cares about what his dad thinks but his dad knows and trusts that my husband is raising and supporting his family. I'm lucky to have that. I hope your DH won't allow your fil to interfere anymore.
deleted-user·
Well I think he was trying to be nice about keeping you son and obviously he gets shut down a lot about keeping his grandchild. Why don't you address the issues you have and see if he can make arrangements so he can watch your son? At least he wants a relationship with your son.
MyNamesNotZelda·
Мама сына (1 год), беременна (40 нед.)
I used to encourage a relationship in the beginning, but to be brutally honestly, I haven't made an effort in a long time. It almost was feeling like I was forcing it, which this man didnt hurt me as a child, he hurt my husband, his sister, brother and mother. That's his decision to want to rebuild that relationship, not mine. He does call him and ask how he's doing and if he would like to come see our son.
Pp We don't hide my son from him, he sees him like once a month. And that's only because we call him. We have told him so many times, the phone works both ways, if he wants us to stop by call and invite us, we're not the type to just drop by uninvited. He knows how to work a phone, he chooses not to. It's like he doesn't make an effort but gets upset when someone stops doing all the work.